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Incident in work - should I feel bad?

  • 11-02-2010 7:15pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I hope I dont get slated for this as I know its not a good situation, and it reeks of dishonesty and cowardice but I need to know what others think as I can say this to no one in real life except my own mates at home who would probably just tell me what I wanna hear.
    Please bear with me because it'll probably sound confusing and long.

    In work we all have keys to our own lockers, now these are important because in these lockers there is expensive equipment owned by the company that we use.

    Since I started there has been one guy that has been nothing but rude to me. He shows me no respect whatsoever. He talks down to me while having fun with all the guys that have been there much longer. Im not there long so I often must ask for help, when I ask him , although he helps he does it as if he is doing me a massive massive favour. I have rarely in my life come across someone like this, and ive seen him like this to a few others that arent working there long either.

    Now, heres the situation, I messed up big time in work and made life awkward for everyone for a few hours, it was no biggy in the long run but it was just an awful awful week for me. Alot of people were annoyed at me, and I was hating work, I still am a bit over it.

    But then something happened, I was tidying up one evening and noticed this same guy had left his keys lying around after he had gone home, so I put them away somewhere where no one would find them so I could give them to him the next day. This is the truth and I am not twisting the story in any way. I genuinely didn't want keys just lying around.

    But the next day I completely forgot about them, and he never asked me had I seen them. He asked a few people but not me and one or 2 others. I had clean forgot to say it to him so he was looking everywhere for them without me even realizing.

    3 days later, I finally hear him chatting to someone and he mentions the keys and how hes gonna get in trouble for losing them. I was having an awful week as it was and just realized I had them put away.

    I didnt know what to say so I kept my mouth shut. If i had said I knew where they were, everyone would have been wondering why didn't I give them to him that morning a few days ago, and I dont think they would have believed me that I had forgotten about them.

    To make it worse they would have been eventually found put away and everyone would have been asked who put them there.
    So in the end , I took the keys myself, brought them home and that was the end of it, he had to get new keys cut and got into a small bit of trouble, not too much, just a giving out to for losing important keys.

    I have never done anything so sneaky before, it was strange, if I had gotten caught with the keys it would have been HUGELY embarrassing.
    Im just wondering what do people think, has anyone been in a similar situation. Was it cowardly of me not to just come clean in work straight away, or was it best thing to do given the circumstances.
    The reason I mention that I dont like the fella is because if it was a good mate who owned the keys, A: I would have remembered to give them to him straight away the next day, or B: there would have been no awkwardness about him believing me that I forgot about them.


Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    If he's been an asshole for no reason, then why feel bad? Maybe the fates want to teach him a lesson.

    On the other hand, are you being honest with yourself? Is he really that bad?

    If he is, forget about it. He didn't even bother asking you where the keys were, so it's a bit late for guilt.

    Just an opinion.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,205 ✭✭✭✭hmmm


    You should have handed the keys over and admitted your mistake, but you panicked instead. Big deal, it happens all of us every now and again and you originally cleared them away with the best intentions in mind.

    If it was me I'd just forget about it and move on, the keys were important but it doesn't sound like they were too important to get worked up about. Tell no-one or you'll probably get into trouble, mark it down as a lesson learned and be more careful in future.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 218 ✭✭2manyconditions


    Firstly you shouldn't have done that. It was wrong.

    I can understand given the circumstances (him being a d**khead an' all) that you may not have wanted to own up. Fine.

    Heres how its done in my job.

    -Paperwork or items go missing from time to time.

    -You send an email/ask everyone you think might have it did they see it or to search around their workstations to find the document/item.

    -Noone answers for a couple of days or the deny all response ' sorry I didn't see it/don't have it'

    -But then the document BY MAGIC, magically appears on my desk a few days later. Sometimes someone ownes up sometimes they don't. If they own up, they get a slaggin' from me. Othertimes I know exactly who had it and who left it back - and theirs alot of not so subtle hinting to the person in question. And you quickly learn who hoards the paperwork.

    Make sure before you ask a question that there is no other possible way of finding out for yourself by some other means if he is this much of a pain.

    You have the excuse of being new. Its painful but you have to ask people questions for a while until your competent in the job. But - In a few months you'll know the job better than him and when he asks you for assistance, THEN he gets his come-uppance for being such a d*** now. :D

    Also make sure you don't treat someone the same as you were treated when you started. People tend to forget very quickly that they were new once too.

    Don't lower yourself to this person's level. But now you know how to deal with this situation - try not to let it happen again its better to own up but as the last resort use above advice.

    And don't get caught leaving it back :o


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,055 ✭✭✭Emme


    That was a dangerous thing to do. There is CCTV in most workplaces and you could well have been spotted doing that.

    Don't do anything like that again.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,239 ✭✭✭✭WindSock


    I wouldn't sweat it at this stage. He has his keys back, you had the right intentions initially. He did lose his keys, however your forgetfulness and delay may have gotten you into trouble. In future, don't touch his things if you don't like him that much :pac:

    Or, you could always say 'oops I forgot that I found your key last week and kept it safe. Hope it hasn't been an inconvenience...'

    He'll probably dislike you more, but at least it will piss him off ;)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,399 ✭✭✭✭r3nu4l


    hmmm wrote: »
    You should have handed the keys over and admitted your mistake, but you panicked instead. Big deal, it happens all of us every now and again and you originally cleared them away with the best intentions in mind.

    If it was me I'd just forget about it and move on, the keys were important but it doesn't sound like they were too important to get worked up about. Tell no-one or you'll probably get into trouble, mark it down as a lesson learned and be more careful in future.

    I totally agree with this point. It was a mistake and you panicked, probably moreso because of how this guy normally treats you anyway.

    It's over, learn from it and get on with your day-to-day life and work :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    I wouldn't worry about it tbh. You put them away in a safe place in good faith and forgot about them and I think your hunch in him potentially causing trouble by you presenting them after the event is spot-on, he sounds like a complete douche bag. Don't worry about it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 565 ✭✭✭Millie


    hmmm wrote: »
    You should have handed the keys over and admitted your mistake, but you panicked instead. Big deal, it happens all of us every now and again and you originally cleared them away with the best intentions in mind.

    If it was me I'd just forget about it and move on, the keys were important but it doesn't sound like they were too important to get worked up about. Tell no-one or you'll probably get into trouble, mark it down as a lesson learned and be more careful in future.

    + 1

    You panicked and sure it happens to us all with no real bad intent meant.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,185 ✭✭✭Dark Phoenix


    chalk it up to experience and learn from it. You panicked you made a mistake we have all been there but its sorted now and no major harm done.

    You can't change anything now so there is no point beating yourself up about it.

    Anyway would this guy be beating himself up if he had unintentionally caused you trouble? If he really is suck a d*ckhead maybe its a form of karma for him!

    All you can do is keep the head screwed on in future - if you are forgetful under presssure make a note on your phone next time you have to remember something


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies everyone, yea im not exaggerating about this guy either, he was talking down to me again today, I kind of snapped at him for the first time as well which I think might have surprised him so hopefully he'll stop carrying on like that as time goes on.
    Yea the keys are cut and everything is sorted, my feeling as soon as I heard he was looking for them was 'oh sh1t', and if I had told him there and then i'm worried he would have suspected I left them away on purpose or something, either way I wasnt going to win.
    Glad people seem to think its understandable anyway.

    Regarding the cameras, I was really worried about that too, but Im pretty sure theres none there, also I think he thought he left them at home or dropped them or something.
    Next time im in that situation im just gonna leave them at his desk.
    Cheers


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 351 ✭✭globemaster1986


    Don't sweat OP! He never asked you and you forgot. In fact if i found myself in the same situation i'd have done the same thing. Cover your own a**e. With a pr1ck like him you wouldn't know that he wouldn't drop you right in it anyway? Besides he got mildly chastised, no big deal, sounds like he needed bringing down a peg or two anyway! Forget about it


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    Hi. No harm done. The guy got taken down a few pegs and you got off with it. I call that a result. Don't worry about it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,219 ✭✭✭PK2008


    "Keep your mouth shut and your head down."

    That little nugget of advice will get you through work, war, prison and life in general


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 380 ✭✭Leilak


    id say everyone knows u took them but theyre just not saying anything


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 126 ✭✭pfishfood


    Keep your head down, get on with your work, say nothing and forget it even happened. Its all been said by different posters. If this guy is giving you grief then keep standing up to him, he'd probably respect you more for doing it.


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