Think I'm now depressed

LegacyUser

Since finishing college, I've wanted to move to London and work over there. It's been about 8 months now and I'm still unemployed. I've been over twice for interviews and I've failed at them. I prepared well, just unfortunately the pressure got the best of me and I couldn't sleep the night before. When I went to the interviews, I was exhausted and nervous as hell. Im so embarrassed about coming home without a job. I just makes me feel worthless.

Now I'm back in Dublin, living in my parents house. I've lost all my confidance and I'm now embarrassed to bump into people from the past in case they think I'm a bum. I've been saying for months about how I'm moving over to London but nothing has come of it yet.

I've started drinking heavily and even doing drugs. Most nights I go out now, end up in a complete drunken blackout and making a show of myself. I regret everything the next mourning. I just feel at the moment that I need drink to enjoy myself.

I havn't got enough money to just move over there and get a job when I'm in London. I'm starting to think I should look for a job in Dublin. Alot of my friends have emigrated/travelled and loving every second of it but I just feel like my life is going nowhere. I hate everything about myself at the moment. Help

shellyboo

The middle of a recession is no time to be chasing pipe dreams like a life in London. Start looking for a job in Dublin and be thankful you can live with your parents while you're unemployed!

I've no clue how you can afford drink and drugs if you're not working.

shellyboo

shellyboo wrote: »

The middle of a recession is no time to be chasing pipe dreams like a life in London. Start looking for a job in Dublin and be thankful you can live with your parents while you're unemployed!

I've no clue how you can afford drink and drugs if you're not working.

A pipe dream? I live in London and there are a hell of a lot more opportunities here than in Dublin. I've had no trouble finding work, and I'm still a student. I'm always bumping into people from back home around the place. I think staying in Dublin is madness at the moment unless something like a family or a house is tying you there. The difference between there and here is incredible. I never hear anyone really talking about the recession or cutting back here. It isn't a constant topic of conversation like at home.

OP I do agree with shellyboo that you are able to live at home and that your parents live in Dublin. You're way better off than a lot of people whose family can't support them or who live in the sticks. Doing drugs is just silly. I know it's difficult, but come on. You're not dying of cancer, you're just unemployed. Many people are in the same boat. If you have money for drugs and drink, you have money for constructive things like IT courses to improve your skills, confidence, language courses, whatever. Two failed interviews isn't a lot, it just seems worse because you had to go over to London for them and people knew, and the pressure seems greater. If you continue to do interviews, you'll probably get used to it and end up less nervous.

tenchi-fan

Don't beat yourself up too much that the interview went bad. Interview skills are one thing they don't teach you in college so I'd recommend reading up on interview technique and maybe doing some mock interviews if someone can gave you one. I've had some disastrous interviews and even if I went for one now I could easily have an off-day and screw it up.

I assume you haven't any actual experience .. so look at it from the employer's POV.. why would they employ someone from Ireland with no links to the area, no previous experience, and nervous at the interview? They might think you're a bit naive in a way.

So you'll really need to convince the employer that your other skills make up for this. You should make sure you have hobbies and interests outside of work - even being involved with a club or charity. Even if it's just a half-assed, looks good on paper thing! Like coaching kids in football once a week.

You should definitely be applying for jobs in Ireland just to perfect your interview technique, maybe even work here for a year or two to gain some experience. If you get a job you can move out of home, or save until you have enough then move to London without a job, but rent a flat and job-hunt.

The booze... been there, when I was working in a dead end job I was drinking the whole time. It's a laugh at the time then all the self-doubt and regret builds up! You just need to remind yourself that heavy drinking is acceptable for students but if you're jobhunting or working you need to be a bit more mature.