Is it better to try and be rejected rather than not to try at all

LegacyUser · 09-02-2010 8:57pm #1

Just want to get your thoughts on this...would you rather be a person who asks risking rejection or one who dosnt ask?

i know people will say "oh you should ask and at least give yourself some chance" or something like that, which is easy to say when sitting in front of a computer...but when you are actually in the situation where would you class yourself?

and im not talking about some randomer who you will never see again.. a person you work with or go to school with or a least see fairly often...where if rejected things can be sorta awkward..

I_am_Jebus · 09-02-2010 9:16pm

Well you need to weigh up the situation to be honest. Each situation will be different. Are there any signs that this person might be into you etc... etc... what is your current relationship like with the person and many other factors.

But to be honest, generally, if you feel strongly about someone then really the best option is to ask. Those strong feelings won't go away and you need to put closure on it one way or another so you can move on with or without the person

legend365 · 10-02-2010 12:32am

What?.... would you rather feel empty and sad inside everytime you saw that person because you never took that chance, that leap. And now shes happy with someone else you know will never treat her as good as you could....

The choice is simple in my book

jimmycrackcorm · 10-02-2010 1:31am

Risking rejection is ok if you go in wholly prepared for a FAIL. Then you have nothing to lose and you actually can benefit by getting a result as a bonus.

Statistically you are going to lose out heavily but it won't matter if you understand the odds - like a good gambler.

Ave Sodalis · 10-02-2010 1:55pm

Ask them anyway. I know I'd feel flattered if someone asked me out whether I say yes or not.

longneck · 10-02-2010 3:49pm

have same situation myself!!!have told the other person i have feelings for them, thought i'd never hear from them again,scare them off,but no.however he's never mentioned what i said or brought it up since!!!!!!!!!back to square one methinks!!

Sanjuro · 10-02-2010 4:53pm

Been there, done it, survived! Believe me, OP, it's a far better thing to try and fail than to never try at all. As Wayne Gretzky said, 'you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.'

Getting rejected isn't that bad anyway. After you get over the initial bruised ego, you feel way better about yourself. At least you have the courage to take chances, and you know you can survive a knock back! Nobody who has never taken a chance can say that.

Peggypeg · 10-02-2010 5:19pm

Hey,
Always go for something if it what you want, so what if there's a little awkwardness if you get knocked back, at least you'll know you tried. And you'll always be able to get over awkwardness with a little patience. I'm not just saying that by the way, I saw my current bf, thought yum yum and went for it. 3 years later and we're still madly in love, to think we could have missed out on that because of fear or shyness :eek:
Go for it,
Best of luck.

Is it better to try and be rejected rather than not to try at all

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