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  • 09-02-2010 3:13pm
    #1
    kats26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭


    Hello, previously wrote how my boyfriend and I broke up and that it was hard on me and we had been in contact, text, phone and always long phone conversations. but then I decided that enough was enough and I had to stop contacting him which I did and then on Friday night I got a text from him asking me if I was awake, now it was not a bootie call and he was not out drinking he was also just awake and we were texting on and off for a while, then on Saturday night he texted me to tell me a good movie was on that we had spoken about before I had never seen but he had and that it was funny - now I don't know should I be reading anything into this, has he just realised what he is missing..... :confused:


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  • #2
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    Depends on how good your reason for breaking up was? If you decided that you wanted to break off contact, that's good, but you will have to tell him that or he will keep contacting you.


  • #3
    kats26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭kats26


    he did the breaking up not me and I've been upset almost every day since, its been a few weeks now, would take him back in a heart beat but don't know why he texted me was it just because he couldn't sleep or what and now this is playing on my mind!!


  • #4
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    He got used to you being there, I guess, and now can't help keeping up the old habits. He may not realise that it is affecting like this.

    As I said, it depends on the reasons for the break up. Maybe he regrets it.


  • #5
    kats26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭kats26


    thats what I keep hoping, it wasn't over anything at all didn't see it coming totally out of the blue and have been tempted to phone him and ask him why he texted me and if there is a chance we can give it another try, but half afraid too!


  • #6
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    Don't be. If you think there is a good reason to hope, why not try it?


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  • #7
    kats26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭kats26


    because when we broke up he said I could try and change him mind and I said would I be able to and he said no it was strange how things turn out that he never thought he would be the one dumping me. then he texts me .... now I could be brave and just bit the bullet and call him because he said before it was hard breaking up as we had great times together, going to the cinema, sitting chatting, our sex life was great so thats why its all out of the blue for me and just when I start to convenience myself not to text he texts and I'm back to square one again.


  • #8
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    Well, texting is a bad idea all-round. Either meet face to face, or decide that you won't keep hoping and tell him not to contact you again.


  • #9
    kats26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭kats26


    texting is a bad things he moved to another city just after Christmas and I'm not sure if that was part of his reasoning for breakup whereas I on the other hand had been looking forward to going to visit him and it would have been different for us not to see each other 4/5 times a week but absence makes the heart grow fonder (or so they say) - might give him a call as we always have good chats and maybe say it to him then.


  • #10
    legend365
    Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭legend365


    I've been in these situations....its not nice.

    OP DONT try convince him to give it ago, this will probably confirm his thoughts that he still holds a place in your heart and therfore...control. If you ring him keep it friendly but explain that you dnt want him contacting you anymore and end it.

    This will show him that you are prepared to move on and either have him wondering did he make a mistake or possibly...the opposite :/

    Tis your choice but the whole 'give it another go' seems like begging to me.

    Follow your heart.


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