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Always end up in the friend zone.

  • 08-02-2010 10:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    There's this girl i met at work who is really my type.
    However, i never seem to be able to show a girl that i like them.
    In the end i always just end up more like a regular friend.

    What should i do to try avoid this happening again?


Comments

  • #2
    Colonel_McCoy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Colonel_McCoy


    ask her out on a date?


  • #3
    I_am_Jebus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 458 ✭✭I_am_Jebus


    Colonel_McCoy wrote: »
    ask her out on a date?


    This is spot on really. Simple as it sounds.. it is the key. Get to know her a bit, don't wait too long though and ask her out. You may / may not be rejected but if you don't ask a girl out you'll never know.


  • #4
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    Seriously, as above. You're ending up in the friend zone since you're trying to be friends first. You should jump directly from casual acquaintance with some spark to asking on date, not trying to move to closer 'friendship' first.


  • #5
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    I agree with the other posters, you have to go for it sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it, the more chance you will be branded with the friends mark and that's almost impossible to remove.

    Also, never ever ever ever try to be friends with a girl first in the hope that it will lead to something more. I don't mean you have to rush into something heavy straight away, but I think if you are interested in someone, the worst first impression you can give is that you just want to be their friend.

    Go for it, she might say yes, she might say no, none of us know and quite frankly, neither do you. The only way you will find out is to go for it. It's either that, or just wait until you are in the friends zone and she says something like "Oh if you'd asked me sooner, I'd have said yes". Or worse still, she was single and interested but because you didn't make a move, she's now seeing some other prick (lets be honest, all guys label guys going out with girls they like as pricks, even if they've never met them and know nothing about them).

    The only thing to be wary of is the work situation. If she says no, are you going to have to see her and work with her every day?


  • #6
    Peggypeg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 578 ✭✭✭Peggypeg


    Hey OP,
    I agree with the above, ask her out. Your comfort zone is probably the friend zone, you need to get out of that or you'll get stuck. Everyone gets knockbacks so don't be afraid of that and sure if you do get knocked back you could be her friend then. Just ask her out.
    Best of luck


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