Birthday

Cant sleep

its my boyfriends birthday next week, mine is a week after. we have only been going out 3 weeks and i have no idea what to get him at all. he mentioned needing to get a ipod, what ya think? lazy way out?

Angus Og

If he mentioned it, then he probably wants it.

John Mason

:eek: what:eek:

do not buy him an ipod, a cd or vouchers for ipod music or something small will do

you hardly know him

Angus Og

Yeah, I forgot to mention that. Ipods cost a lot, don't they? He should be happy with your kisses.

Chinafoot

Totally agree with irishbird. An Ipod after 3 weeks?! No way.

Unless you're completely minted don't be buying him something that expensive that soon into a relationship. I'd be dubious of any fella that expected me to spend that much on him after such a short space of time.

Cant sleep

im pretty broke but the thing is, everywhere we go he pays for EVERYTHING (which drives me crazy). another thing he is bringing me away for the night for my birthday. i dont just want to seem tight. either of us have fnck all money but he always pays. costs 130euro. what ya think?

Chinafoot

Cant sleep wrote: »

im pretty broke but the thing is, everywhere we go he pays for EVERYTHING (which drives me crazy). another thing he is bringing me away for the night for my birthday. i dont just want to seem tight. either of us have fnck all money but he always pays. costs 130euro. what ya think?

If you're happy to pay for it as a happy birthday/thank you for paying for everything then go ahead. Perhaps consider not letting him pay for everything in future if you're both skint. Not exactly fair on him.

Cant sleep

Chinafoot wrote: »

If you're happy to pay for it as a happy birthday/thank you for paying for everything then go ahead. Perhaps consider not letting him pay for everything in future if you're both skint. Not exactly fair on him.

totally agree, i have said it MANY times. and hink hes getting the picture. thank god

Chinafoot

Cant sleep wrote: »

totally agree, i have said it MANY times. and hink hes getting the picture. thank god

Don't just say it though. Jump in with your cash first Easily done.

Cant sleep

Chinafoot wrote: »

Don't just say it though. Jump in with your cash first Easily done.

Tryed that and *magically* money appeared in my bag. Ha. we have had the "this has to stop" chat though, so things are about to change! phew

CityMan2010

My apologies, how old are you?

If you MUST Get him something small...less than 10 euro, thats including the card...peck him on the cheek and say happy birthday.

If you fell pressure to buy him something after 3 weeks...well that doesnt sound right to me...

but him a coffee and a have a chat...have a laugh....

And if HE is putting pressure on YOU to buy HIM gifts like iPods.....get rid my dear..any bloke that could do that after 3 weeks, or at all, ever....is not worth the knowing...

rob

LeixlipRed

After 3 weeks I would never buy a girlfriend an expensive present. Maybe something cheap, something handmade or quirky. You don't know him at all and if he's disappointed with something cheap then he's not a very cool person.

Cant sleep

we are both 21, what about a football jersey or play station game (sounds very childish i know but im clueless) its not a "just known him 3 weeks" kinda thing ive know and been friends with him years, still something small? im just worried he will get me something more expensive, putting expense on himself yet again.

dolliemix

He left money in your bag after you paid for something???:eek::eek::eek:

There's something very patronising about that and would ring alarm bells for me.

It's sweet when men insist on paying maybe the first or second date, but if it continues beyond that, I always feel there's control issues going on, and I get out of there.

Buying something worth 130 euro three weeks into a relationship is way too extravagant.

Angus Og

Could you explain this to him? You've been friends for years, so I can't see a problem talking about it.

Your relationship will falter if this keeps up. After all, you clearly arn't with him for the money, so tell him that. Tell him he doesn't have to keep paying for everything.

Does he have any hobbies? Interests? An Ipod is all right, but he can afford that himself. Maybe he wasn't dropping a hint.

Cant sleep

Angus Og wrote: »

Could you explain this to him? You've been friends for years, so I can't see a problem talking about it.

Your relationship will falter if this keeps up. After all, you clearly arn't with him for the money, so tell him that. Tell him he doesn't have to keep paying for everything.

Does he have any hobbies? Interests? An Ipod is all right, but he can afford that himself. Maybe he wasn't dropping a hint.

i have told him, he said he didnt mind but i set him straight and said to him that i will be paying my share and the rest from now on. we will be together a month on thursday. anyone have any ideas? cd's and that are grand but its his 21st like. really lost here. he has a very expensive hobbie that i wouldnt be able to afford let alone know enough about to buy him anything for it. and he already pretty much has everything to do with it.

cheesey1

Buying an ipod for a boy you have been seeing 3/4 weeks is too expensive and he shouldn't expect you to buy this for him, its the thought that counts in a present. When I was dating my ex it was his birthday 3 weeks into our relationship so I got him a card and made him dinner and we snuggled up on the sofa for the night. Its the small things that count and that he will remember. Maybe think about asking him to cancel the night away for your birthday and doing something non expensive.

Angus Og

An expensive bottle of whiskey. (Still less expensive than an Ipod. Not trying to encourage alcohol abuse )

Something for his car. (Does he drive? :pac:)