Can't get motivated

LegacyUser

Ok, This is isn't a major personal issue unlike some that are posted here. But I feel I should seek some advice on this and have found the PI forum to be very good in the past in helping me resolve a number of issues.

Basically, I can't get motivated - I come into work, put things on the long finger, evertually push them through when the deadline is in my face. I feel that I'm dragging along at a work and this may have something to do with my work life balance. I spend most of my free time pleasing others - it's generally where they want to go, what they want to do. Then I go resentful because my own hobbies and friends are put on the back burner.

My question is this - how do I remotivate myself at work? My second question is how do I get the balance back in my favour so that my free time or at least some of it is spent doing the things I enjoy?

anucksunamun

Lets start with getting some free time to yourself.. next time someone asks you to bring them somewhere you dont want to go... say NO... no reason, no excuse, just say no... you'd be surprised how many people just leave it at that..

When you plan things you want to do, and someone else asks you to do something else you dont want to do, just say 'I would but I have planned to do x,y and z... NO I cannot cancel it or do it another time, I want to do it today, sorry' You may feel selfish at first, but you have to look after yourself too, you cant give too much of yourself away.. you'll be left with nothing but regrets.

As to being unmotivated in work, you seem to be coasting along, is that due to boredom, perhaps you just dont like your job? Is there something else underlying this work problem? Would having a more committed plan in work help, writing yourself lists to do, and ticking them off as they are done... as in seeing how you are getting through the work, that may motivate you?

LegacyUser

anck su namun wrote: »

Lets start with getting some free time to yourself.. next time someone asks you to bring them somewhere you dont want to go... say NO... no reason, no excuse, just say no... you'd be surprised how many people just leave it at that..

When you plan things you want to do, and someone else asks you to do something else you dont want to do, just say 'I would but I have planned to do x,y and z... NO I cannot cancel it or do it another time, I want to do it today, sorry' You may feel selfish at first, but you have to look after yourself too, you cant give too much of yourself away.. you'll be left with nothing but regrets.

As to being unmotivated in work, you seem to be coasting along, is that due to boredom, perhaps you just dont like your job? Is there something else underlying this work problem? Would having a more committed plan in work help, writing yourself lists to do, and ticking them off as they are done... as in seeing how you are getting through the work, that may motivate you?

OP here again.

Thanks Anck Su Namun,

Good simple advice, but sometimes you just need someone else to say it. I've started taking your advice on board already, have arranged a night out with mates for the end of the month and am looking forward to it big time. I've told the Other Half and have said don't book me in for anything that weekend as I'll be busy.

As regards the work, I'm just going to put the head down and get stuck in and start knocking things off the to do list. This should help get me kick started again.

anucksunamun

Sometimes OP it just helps to actually write the things down yourself, so you can see them more clearly, and accept how they are making you feel.. maybe by just seeing it in black and white you really helped yourself here hope things work out for you