Took the wrong turn and saw her!! darn!!

LegacyUser

Hey,

Feeling a bit weird and need advice. I was on the bus this evening and everything was lovely reading my book and listening to the flaming lips without a care in the world, having spent a lovely day looking after my baby brother.

So anyways I glanced out the window only to see my ex with some chap holdings hands, with her lovely big smile looking as happy and beautiful as ever. All of a sudden I felt my heart pounding and that gut horrible feeling we all know. and tears started coming down my eyes. In my head I just went 'oh no'. Looked at my watch and asked myself why delayed my journey home to sit in the park and read my book!! she didnt see me too and maybe i wanted her too??

Just to give you a background we went out for almost a year, ended at the start of November last rather well even though she did something horrible to me which made me question her intentions as well as her character and essientially brought our relationship to a close, both tried to remain friends but I called an end to it as I found it rather hard. She hasnt really been in my mind as of late, had a few precarious encounters of xmas but that is it!! nothing more.

Should I just let it go, I kinda feel like I want to talk to her now. I really want her to be happy but it brought up questions of myself, I suffer from low self esteem and lack confidence in myself when it comes to meeting girls and am rather shy and reseved and dont give much away!! But I am a very protective person and she has had a lot of problems in the part as well as currently dabbling in some undesirable substances!! In my opinion!!

I would love to meet someone new and lovely with a big smile and who loves cuddles!! but I guess I was jealous of her having moved on and it just seems that all my good work on myself over the last few months have been for nothing, ugh guess i just feel a little hopeless at the moment and sorrowful!!

After reading this I notice that I dont know what I need to be told but any thoughts would be appreciated.

HalloweenJack

It sounds as if she's moved on.

Getting in touch with her won't accomplish anything. If anything, it could knock you back further.

It's hard when your ex has moved on before you have but there's not much that can be done for it.

From the sounds of it, you and her would have trouble in a relationship again (you mentioned what ended your relationship and that you don't approve of her substance abuse). I reckon it'd be best for you to stay away from her.

Wagon

Shít one. bad luck there. i know that feeling. November wasn't a long time ago so don't be too hard on yourself. It's pretty normal to get like that with an ex for a while after it ends. And there's no point contacting her, what would you even tell her? the less you contact her the sooner you'll get past her. you know that yourself.

Sleep on it mate, you'll probably feel a bit better in the morning. If you need something to distract yourself, get 4 sterios and listen to Zaireeka its something i want to do myself one day.

mobilecore

I feel ya mate. Everyone has been there sadly.
Obviously you are feeling that emotion inside of you ... use it.
if you are in a gym .. go down and do a create workout.
If not, go out get drunk and score someone. Its been 3 months. She is with someone else. You obviously wouldnt take her back with the time and fact she is with someone else.

Use what you feel inside you. Dont just let it eat away.