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think i'm in love,but is he????

  • 06-02-2010 7:16pm
    #1
    longneck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭


    hi all.i'd really like an opinion on this.back in touch after a long time with my first love.been about a year now.started with emails,then on to texts,phonecalls and now skype.we get on so well,have loads in common and hardly a day goes by without contact instigated mainly by him.i have asked him where this is all going but all he said after a pause was he does'nt know.at first i was just pleased to be in touch with him and did'nt have a romantic thought in my head, however that has changed for me now and i'm completly confused.i do'nt wish to scare him off as i do enjoy the chats and laughs but i have no idea what he wants, if anything from me.what do you all think or advise?thanks.


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  • #2
    MIN2511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    You haven't seen him? All ye do is skype etc?


  • #3
    longneck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭longneck


    no,we have'nt met yet.did plan to but he seemed to get cold feet, was concerned i would'nt like him for some reason!


  • #4
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    Is this long distance or can you go round to his house at some point? How long is it since he was 'first love'? Can he have changed that much?


  • #5
    MIN2511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    I am going to be blunt here; you are not inlove, you are infatuated with what he tells you and what you think you know.

    This doesn't sound healthy imo, he may have a gf/wife and is living a double life at your emotional expense.

    The sooner you cop on and finish things the better....



    Sorry if i sound harsh but it's like me saying i'm inlove with a total stranger(actually that's what it is)
    He was your first love and that was then, things and times have changed...


  • #6
    longneck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭longneck


    we live in different parts of the country.i know a good bit about his life and circumstances.part of me agrees that i should cop on etc,and no i do'nt think you were harsh MIN afterall i did ask!! however the other part of me well, thats the confused bit!


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  • #7
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    You know about his life from what he's told you? Or because you've seen with your own eyes?


  • #8
    MIN2511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    At the end of the day, it's you and you alone that is in control of your life.

    Why are you confused? What is holding you back? Do you have friends, social life? When i say social life i don't mean work drinks, boards etc.... I mean do you hang out with mates, go shopping, dinners, cinema just do other things bar chatting with your ex and work.


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