Personality or Looks???????

madheaded

What do you go for??? I know this was already asked in after hours but i want to see what young people go for. Personally i go for a mix of both prob 70:30 in favour of personality

soccymonster

In fairness, everyone is just gonna say, oh i love both! :pac:

and i'm one of those people...

Slugs

In theory, personality, but I mean, you've gotta have standards you know

Niall09

Needs a poll tbh

Both for me though.

Aoibheann

Well, upon meeting someone, the first thing you're going to notice is how they look (none of us can see into somebody's head and think "oh, they've got a lovely personality there..!). So, upon first impressions, looks will obviously be key. This isn't myself being shallow or anything, it's the only way it could be really! :P

The important thing is, it's the personality that keeps you interested in a person. I couldn't see myself being remotely attracted to someone who looked good, but didn't have two brain cells to rub together.. So personality is clearly the thing that matters most in the long run. Of course, getting someone who has both looks and a great personality is an added bonus..

phlegms

A good combination of both.

KnifeWRENCH

Both are definitely important. Personality just about wins out though.
Although I reckon talent is also a factor. Talent = sexiness.

Luno

I like an all rounder meself
Get the best of both worlds!

justaday

both. the girl has to be good looking but i would choose the girl i fancy in my class over some hot celeb any day.

TheCardHolder

When I walk into a bar, it's the looks that attract me. So it's looks at first, but if the realationshiplasts, that will be down to personality. Honestly the thing I'm attracted to is a sense of humor .i.e they laugh at my jokes :P

Pigwidgeon

What Aoibheann said pretty much sums up the way I think about it.
Obviously you're going to need some form of physical attraction in the beginning, hence the looks, but from there on out it's all about the personality.

Pygmalion

Personality is better, but looks are important too, no point being with someone you aren't attracted to.

So like, is everyone just saying the exact same thing but in slightly different words?

ironictoaster

Pygmalion wrote: »

Personality is better, but looks are important too, no point being with someone you aren't attracted to.

I couldn't have put it better myself.

Slow Show

90:10 for personality.
Ok OK, 80:20.

But right now I'm eh liking this lad and he has such an amazing personality but other girls said he's kind of ugly and they wouldn't go for him...and I think he's good-looking. I suppose his personality has kind of influenced my opinion on his looks, if that makes sense. I don't really mind if the girls don't agree with me, makes things that bit easier.
But I've never been one for liking people mainly for looks now that I think of it. I'm quite proud of myself now

Pygmalion

Pygmalion wrote: »

So like, is everyone just saying the exact same thing but in slightly different words?

creggy wrote: »

I couldn't have put it better myself.

I WIN! MY WAY OF SAYING IT IS THE BEST!

DancingQueen:)

For me it's been different with different people so i'd say it depends on the person really.

almostnever

Brains.

Pygmalion

almostnever wrote: »

Brains.

Brains over personality?
A lot of people are quite clever but more than willing to use it as an excuse to be a condescending prick tbh.
I'd rather someone of average intelligence who knows it than someone a bit clever who thinks they're a genius.

mardybumbum

At first, 80% looks/20% personality.
Then those percentages slowly reverse over the ensuing months.

almostnever

Pygmalion wrote: »

Brains over personality?
A lot of people are quite clever but more than willing to use it as an excuse to be a condescending prick tbh.
I'd rather someone of average intelligence who knows it than someone a bit clever who thinks they're a genius.

Not necessarily over personality, but I know lots of people who I love and are very bubbly and engaging people, and I think that that is a kind of intelligence.
In terms of my own personal taste? Well,it isn't particularly well defined but I also hate arrogance. Despise it. Clever people who don't act like know-it-alls are my ideal,I guess.

Aoibheann

Pygmalion wrote: »

Brains over personality?
A lot of people are quite clever but more than willing to use it as an excuse to be a condescending prick tbh.
I'd rather someone of average intelligence who knows it than someone a bit clever who thinks they're a genius.

I'd consider someone's intelligence to be part of their personality tbh.

I wouldn't want anyone who's hugely arrogant about their intelligence, definitely not (although I probably can come across as something of a know-it-all >.<). However, intelligence is something I personally find to be very attractive. I don't mean book-smarts/academia, I mean intelligence of any form. I don't think it's superficial to want someone who's on a similar level with you, whatever that level is. I like having somebody I can talk to about anything under the sun, from something completely ridiculous, to having actual serious debates about different issues. Then again, I just opinionated people.

almostnever

Aoibheann wrote: »

I'd consider someone's intelligence to be part of their personality tbh.

I wouldn't want anyone who's hugely arrogant about their intelligence, definitely not (although I probably can come across as something of a know-it-all >.<). However, intelligence is something I personally find to be very attractive. I don't mean book-smarts/academia, I mean intelligence of any form. I don't think it's superficial to want someone who's on a similar level with you, whatever that level is. I like having somebody I can talk to about anything under the sun, from something completely ridiculous, to having actual serious debates about different issues. Then again, I just opinionated people.

Aoibheann put it infinitely better than I, this is what I meant.

Davidius

Well no amount of good looks can save them from being a bitch. I can't say the opposite's true.

Besides, the more they reveal their horrible personality the easier it is to see their physical imperfections. In the same way, having a good personality makes it easier to simply miss the bad physical traits.

degausserxo

I woulda said personality tbh. What I find attractive rather than looks themselves is someone's confidence.. like in terms of fmaous people, say, I find Dara Ó Briain really attractive because of the air of confidence about him, even though most of my friends/general people would be like 'nah, he's bet.'


..and they have to be funny. Humor > looks.

lou91

KnifeWRENCH wrote: »

Both are definitely important. Personality just about wins out though.
Although I reckon talent is also a factor. Talent = sexiness.

Definitely. Talent is hot. I don't know why, it just is.

Aoibheann wrote: »

I'd consider someone's intelligence to be part of their personality tbh.

I wouldn't want anyone who's hugely arrogant about their intelligence, definitely not (although I probably can come across as something of a know-it-all >.<). However, intelligence is something I personally find to be very attractive. I don't mean book-smarts/academia, I mean intelligence of any form. I don't think it's superficial to want someone who's on a similar level with you, whatever that level is. I like having somebody I can talk to about anything under the sun, from something completely ridiculous, to having actual serious debates about different issues. Then again, I just opinionated people.

Exactly. I never like saying "I only like intelligent people" because it sounds a bit elitist, but it's just about finding someone you can engage with.

Back to Personality V. Looks, at first meeting it's obviously looks, but after that I find it very hard to distinguish between the two. It sounds weird, but I consider face an aspect of personality. Expressions, Mannerisms etc.
So yeah, it's all about the package! (no innuendo intended)

jumpguy

I'm gonna pretty much sum up Aoibheann's statement in a nice snappy statement (which reflects my own views):

You come for the looks, but you stay for the personality.

soccymonster

degausserxo wrote: »

..and they have to be funny. Humor > looks.

i agree hugely! I really like when a guy is funny
and if they're a hurler it's a nice plus :pac:

Jesus Juice

I'll be totally honest it'd be looks to start off but if they're fools I'll just stop trying to go any further.

Although when you find out that the person you're talking likes everything you like and has the same taste as you in music/films etc it's and incredible feeling!

jumpguy

Jesus Juice wrote: »

I'll be totally honest it'd be looks to start off but if they're fools I'll just stop trying to go any further.

Although when you find out that the person you're talking likes everything you like and has the same taste as you in music/films etc it's and incredible feeling!

Mostly people I meet like that are already ****ing going out with someone or I meet them at some occasion, only to not see them again for a few months. :mad:

Jackobyte

Davidius wrote: »

Well no amount of good looks can save them from being a bitch. I can't say the opposite's true.

Besides, the more they reveal their horrible personality the easier it is to see their physical imperfections. In the same way, having a good personality makes it easier to simply miss the bad physical traits.

I agree with this. All of the girls I've proper like, it was mainly personality. If you like their personality, they appear more attractive to you.

Oneironaut

I find it's very hard to stay away from someone who's got a personality I like, whereas I usually feel a tad intimidated by good-looking girls- so if they're someone I can get along with it helps a lot.

Arcade Panda

Once their taller then me I'll give anyone a go:p

But seriously if a guy can make me laugh he could look like the back of a bus and I'd still fancy him:)

Ginja Ninja

almostnever wrote:

Brains

AAAHHHH!!! ZOMBIE!!!!.

*ahem*

I'd have to say personality,maybe 75:25,But all the relationships I've been in started as friends first then went on.

I kin dof hope it's the opposite for most that know me,I'll admit I'm not that great looking,but when you get right down to it,I'm just a cúnt.Actually anyone who can stand me is pretty okay IMO

Luno

Ginja Ninja wrote: »

AAAHHHH!!! ZOMBIE!!!!.

*ahem*

I'd have to say personality,maybe 75:25,But all the relationships I've been in started as friends first then went on.

I kin dof hope it's the opposite for most that know me,I'll admit I'm not that great looking,but when you get right down to it,I'm just a cúnt.Actually anyone who can stand me is pretty okay IMO

Ah don't be tough on yourself! If your ginger (taking from your username) then your already way ahead in my books,

It all depends really, love looks not with the eyes but with the heart.

Jay P

I was just responding to what people were saying about needing physical attraction to like somebody. I don't really agree with this to be honest. It hasn't happened to me but I know that it can happen that you can just become friendly with somebody you might not necessarily like in a physical way, but then once you get to know them, you might fond that you really like them.

But for me anyway, a healthy mix of both is pretty much necessary. Though when I've gone out with somebody, their attractiveness tends to rise the longer I've been with them.

If the girl is smart, funny and has a good taste in music, and is easy on the eye, then her attractiveness is exponentially higher than a girl who is just good-looking.

A Neurotic

Dumb skanks ftw.

Corkfeen

Looks are relatively important but I can't handle girls who don't think as much as me. Unfortunately I think most people aren't on the same plain of my mind which is a bit mad.

Jackobyte

I've always been intelligent for my age, above average, so i find it hard to connect and converse with many girls(i am not trying to imply girls are dumb or anything, its just many of the ones in my year are) my age so i'd defo go for brains... Someone who i can act like myself with, without dumbing down my vocabulary, etc., is attractive imo.

hitlersson666

bit o' both :cool:

norwegianwood

Looks aren't all that important to me tbh, but then I'm nothing special myself so that's probably why. If someone's confident, and they can make me laugh, that's what I consider attractive.

grenache

When i was younger, it was 95% looks, 5% personality. If she didn't resemble Claudia Schiffer then i would decline her invitation to put my tongue in her mouth. A decade on and i've matured enough to realise than personality is ten times more a turn on than looks. So now its 95% personality, 5% looks. I generally find that many good looking girls dont have much going on upstairs, where as average 'cute' girls have had to charm guys with their personalities over the years so consequently are a more attractive proposition.

Extrasupervery

A Neurotic wrote: »

Dumb skanks ftw.

IOU one crotch punch