Thoughts, please

missunderstood1

hi all, thanks for taking the time to read this, please if you have any clues, reply

ok, well i thought i was getting my period like a month ago, getting cramps etc.

havent got it.. still have the cramps a month later and they are there on and off all day every day. my breasts have been tender and sore the last week also. i've had this unexplained numbness in my thigh for a week, on top of that as discusting as it sounds i keep farting and notices my urine smells a bit strong.

now i done a pregnancy test last monday, and it was neg, although i did do it late in the day, from what i read its best to do it with your first urine of the day.

i know im going to have to buy another test but they aint exactly cheap and getting to a chemist isnt easy because of where i live.

the man on that was on the scene is being so dismissive of the whole thing and i feel im turning into some sort of stalker but i have no one else to tal;k to about the hole thing and it would be nice if he would give me five minutes of his time. Im so emotional all the time and cry of the stupidest thing..e.g brust into tears brushing my teeth the last night.

do you think there is a possiblity im pregnant even though i got a negative result?

thanks for reading my ramblings..since the man wont talk to me. Im turning to my fellow boarders

Steve

The obvious reply is go and talk to a doctor, that way you'll find out for sure.

If you don't want to go to your family GP for fear of gossip or whatever then just pick one from the yellow pages

missunderstood1

yes that is the obvious solution, but a doctor is 50 euro:eek: i know i sound as tight but i cant really afford it, so id have to wait a couple of weeks to get the funds. i know i know but my financial situation is very bad to say the least.
I think i wrote the thread just to say it out loud ( i know im typing) i just feel a bit lonely and terrible scarred. Im 21 and the fella is 31, we have been sleeping together for nine months. He wont even talked to me and i feel he thinks im making the hole thing up, cause i had told him 2months ago i had feeling for him and he totally dismissed me saying he thought it was cute that i did, hes exact words we we had an agreement that it was only ever sex and he was affraid that id eventually get feeling for him. Hes a toatal twat and have zero respect for him now and getting pregnant by him is the worst possible thing i could ever imagine happening to me.

Midnight Sundance

Wat bout a tesco test. Duno how reliable it is but prob has to conform to certain regulations. Once you are late it should probably give a result. You could just be worrying which causes them symptoms.

Steve

It's always good to talk about things that are getting to you

I don't know what to say about not being able to afford 50 euro to see the doc other than to consider what it will cost you long term if you are indeed pregnant.

Have you any family or friends that you can ask to help out?

If you can't afford a pregnancy test or a GP visit, how are you going to afford to raise a child, or to get an abortion? If I were you, I would stop having sex until I could afford to use hormonal contraception plus condoms and had talked to my partner about what would happen if I got pregnant. Pregnancy tests are usually reliable 2 weeks after conception using first urine of the day.

missunderstood1

right i can afford to get a test and can afford to go the doc, i just cant afford to waste the money, im being stupid but my heads all over the place. I was on the pill but had to go off it due to abnormal cells or something when i got a smear. Im not stupid, accidents do happen.

missunderstood1

missunderstood1 wrote: »

right i can afford to get a test and can afford to go the doc, i just cant afford to waste the money, im being stupid but my heads all over the place. I was on the pill but had to go off it due to abnormal cells or something when i got a smear. Im not stupid, accidents do happen.

The pill doesn't cause abnormal cells. I know a lot about it, having had plenty of issues myself. And there are plenty of other methods of contraception. And I wouldn't consider a pregnancy test a 'waste of money'. What else do you have to buy that's more important?

MissHoneyBun

[quote=[Deleted User];64338074]If you can't afford a pregnancy test or a GP visit, how are you going to afford to raise a child, or to get an abortion? If I were you, I would stop having sex until I could afford to use hormonal contraception plus condoms.[/QUOTE]

Do you ever make mistakes or do you live your life perfectly? The OP is looking for help, not to be patronised.

OP, you're going to need to see your doctor one way or another so maybe you could ask if your parents could give you some money for a doctor's appointment on the grounds that you feel like you're "coming down with something" and then speak to your doctor about your issue and also have him/her run a test while you're there.

You do need to act on this though.

missunderstood1

imma going to get another test on monday and if this pains do persist i will see my gp. looks its not about the money or getting a test i just am worried sick and just wanted someone to talk to.

i had myself conviced i was preg and then when i done the test and it was neg i was like great but i just dont feel like myself.

thanks for the HELPFUL replies though guys, i really appreciated

MissHoneyBun

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

Do you ever make mistakes or do you live your life perfectly? The OP is looking for help, not to be patronised.

OP, you're going to need to see your doctor one way or another so maybe you could ask if your parents could give you some money for a doctor's appointment on the grounds that you feel like you're "coming down with something" and then speak to your doctor about your issue and also have him/her run a test while you're there.

You do need to act on this though.

I take responsibility for my actions. If I thought I might be pregnant, I'd get a test, no matter how broke I was, and if I couldn't afford or didn't know how to use contraception, I wouldn't have sex until I could. I am giving OP advice, not coddling her.

None of us are in a position to reassure the OP she isn't pregnant, as we just don't know and she hasn't even told us the details about what (if any) contraception she was using and exactly what happened. So there is little point in advising anything other than to see a doctor and take proper precautions from now on to avoid unwanted pregnancy. I understand someone wanting reassurance, but it would be irresponsible to advise that she did anything other than see the GP to find out what's going on. It might just be paranoia, but 50 quid is worth the peace of mind and chat with a GP about chances of pregnancy and how to prevent it.

missunderstood1

right i dont need adviv=ce on conteceptive, iv been having sex for a few years now and this is the first time its happened. like i said i have taking a test and will take another one. we used a condom but i dunno i just find it strange thaat i havent gotten a period since the start of dec but having been getting period like cramps for 3-4 weeks and my breasts are sore.

missunderstood1

missunderstood1 wrote: »

right i dont need adviv=ce on conteceptive, iv been having sex for a few years now and this is the first time its happened. like i said i have taking a test and will take another one. we used a condom but i dunno i just find it strange thaat i havent gotten a period since the start of dec but having been getting period like cramps for 3-4 weeks and my breasts are sore.

Yes, it is strange. That's why you should go to the doctor. Even if you're not pregnant, something else could be causing the lack of periods. It could be nothing or it could be something but no-one here can tell you what it is.

missunderstood1

i wasnt expexting anyone to turn around and say i was pregnant or not my reading my thread.. jesus just wanted to put down my thoughts in writing, isnt that what boards is about.. and if someone has some kind of experience, advice or anything really to say about a persons thoughts and feeling then they write back.

Steve

missunderstood1 wrote: »

i wasnt expexting anyone to turn around and say i was pregnant or not my reading my thread.. jesus just wanted to put down my thoughts in writing, isnt that what boards is about.. and if someone has some kind of experience, advice or anything really to say about a persons thoughts and feeling then they write back.

Unfortunately, you'll get all sorts of opinions here. Some won't be what you want to hear but that's the nature of the internet - in fairness, if it's anything it's balanced.

In fairness, nobody here can tell if you're pregnant or not, all we can do is talk about it and speculate - if it turns out that you are then there's plenty of advice to be had here - please go see a doc first and find out for sure