Old housemate using my address

LegacyUser

I am so annoyed about this. As the title says, my old housemate (who btw only stayed a month) has been using my address for all her mail. Her bf lives 2 mins down the road from us and she wont use it because her allowance will be cut!!

She even had the cheak to ask me to make a copy of the security key to the building and to the post box. I said no and she asked why.

I feel I need to report her but I have no idea how to go about doing it and Im not going to spend time and phone credit on a call to the social welfare office. Im moving in a couple of months and she freaked when I told her this.

I hate her, she was the most horrible housemate I have ever had. She was such a bitch, would comment on my weight, my friends, the house, she would complain if we had friends over for dinner. She is homophobic, racist and extremely spoiled. She had me close her window every night because she had never used a sash window, I have no idea how she opened it... She gave out to our other housemates for pronouncing my name wrong when she was the one who said it wrong. All this in 1 month!! She is from a very well off family and also a grad law student.

I can't stand her, and now she is calling me all the time because she is waiting for an important letter. She is being all nice and trying to make small talk. I've been nothing but nice to her and it takes ALOT to piss me off but fcuk me this has gone beyond what I would even do for old housemates I actually like. I had two missed calls today.

I don't want her to find out it was me who reported her. I just want her to disappear!!!!

I'm too nice =(

Killed By Death

You are WAY too nice.

Destroy the letters and rat her up to wherever.

Tell her right to her face it was you and don't be her doormat one second longer.

She is only trying it on with you, she will use you as long as you let her.

Return to sender - no longer at this address

thefeatheredcat

Are there others in the house that you can discuss this issue with and come up with a plan?

Don't get yourself personally involved in this - you could contact Threshold on this matter if you want some advice as they would have come across this before. you could contact your land lord/lady or letting agent and inform them of this situation and let them take responsibility of this. She is a former tenant. She is intimidating you to get what she wants.

I'd say contact your landlord/agent, inform them of the situation and explain what has been going on, mention the letters and the issue about the security key, and have them deal with her.

When she contacts you be firm with her and don't take her crap any longer.

Faith

Reporting possible fraud

The Central Control Section of the Department of Social and Family Affairs accepts reports of possible fraud offered by members of the public in relation to the Department’s schemes.

Reports are accepted by email, phone or in writing. All reports are dealt with in confidence. A member of the public may give details anonymously.

Contact Details:

By email: central.control@welfare.ie

By phone: (01) 704 3000, ask for Central Control Section,

By Post: Central Control Division, Shannon Lodge, Carrick-on-Shannon, Co Leitrim.

sam34

send all letters back, mark them "not known at this address"

Victor

Killed By Death wrote: »

Destroy the letters

That would be illegal. Just put "Return to sender - no longer at this address" or similar on it and stick it in any letter box.

sam34 wrote: »

send all letters back, mark them "not known at this address"

Not strictly accurate.

sam34

Victor wrote: »

Not strictly accurate.

:rolleyes: forgive me

mark them "not resident at this address"

LegacyUser

Faith wrote: »

Reporting possible fraud

The Central Control Section of the Department of Social and Family Affairs accepts reports of possible fraud offered by members of the public in relation to the Department’s schemes.

Reports are accepted by email, phone or in writing. All reports are dealt with in confidence. A member of the public may give details anonymously.

Contact Details:

By email: central.control@welfare.ie

By phone: (01) 704 3000, ask for Central Control Section,

By Post: Central Control Division, Shannon Lodge, Carrick-on-Shannon, Co Leitrim.

Thank you Faith, it was something like this I was looking for.

I have talked to the others about it but they all moved in after she left so I'm the only one she's been bothering. Up until now I've been sending the letters on to her bf's address as I can't stand dealing with her in person.

Will send an email to the above address. I still feel bad about ratting someone out though, even a person who has been really nasty to me. And even if what she is doing is illegal. Never knew it would be this difficult to do the right thing. Wish I didn't have a conscience!

unattendedbag

Deleted User wrote: »

Return to sender - no longer at this address

Yes. write this on it and stick them straight back into a post box. And if she asks you for her post again just tell her that you did this and will continue to do it for all post recieved in the future. You will soon find a lot less letters from her.

cee_jay

Fraud can be reported online now also:
http://www.welfare.ie/EN/ContactUs/Pages/reportfraud.aspx

As others have said, return the letters. can you make yourself unavailable to her phone calls? or even answer the calls, but rush off the line?

LegacyUser

cAr0l wrote: »

Fraud can be reported online now also:
http://www.welfare.ie/EN/ContactUs/Pages/reportfraud.aspx

As others have said, return the letters. can you make yourself unavailable to her phone calls? or even answer the calls, but rush off the line?

She keeps calling from private numbers and I need to answer in case I'm called for an interview, I always rush off the line..

Angus Og

Stop being too nice. It's time for a showdown. Tell her exactly how you feel. She's a spoiled brat, and just think, you could be the one to help her change her ways.

gimme5minutes

This is crazy. You are letting yourself be used by someone who isn't your friend, who you don't even like and is only in contact with you for reason - to use you. At the very least tell her to f*ck off if she rings again and tell her from now on you are putting 'return to sender' on the letters. It might be an idea to think about reporting this twat.

Peggypeg

Hey sweetie,

That really is a pain in the bum. Please don't feel guilty for reporting someone who is fraudulently claiming benefits, it's stealing, it really is. Please do the right thing and report her, you can do so anonymously. As for your interactions with her, I would just avoid like the plague and she'll soon get the message. If you answer the phone and it's her, just say, I'm in the middle of something I'll ring you back and then don't. You really don't owe this woman anything and you don't have to interact with her if it just winds you up. Stand up for yourself a bit more maybe? Like I say you don't owe her anything and you've already put yourself out for her even though she's not a very nice person. Enough is enough, I would say.

Best of luck sweetie.

ManOfMystery

Why are you even being nice to her?

If she's not a close friend then I would have absolutely no qualms in telling her to her face that's she's a thief and she is totally taking advantage of you by using your address. And then, get lost.

Don't be a walkover and don't feel guilty about speaking your mind, this girl is obviously not your friend and is only taking advantage of your nature.

mood

Don't answer her calls, text etc. Why should you put up with abuse from her! Try to get her number blocked. Ask you mobile phone provider about getting this done. I think some phones even have this feature.

AnonoBoy

As everyone has said - send all her letters back with 'no longer resident at this address' on them. That'll sort out the dole pretty quick.

If she asks you did any letters come for her, lie and say there's been nothing.

It's not your responsibility to help her scam money.

Let her sort out her own life.

You owe her nothing.

Sleepy

If you have to answer the phone, there's nothing stopping you from hanging up as soon as you hear her voice. No need to be nice about it. She couldn't be nice to you during a month of living with you and now she expects you to do her bidding? Fvck her to be honest OP.

JonathanAnon

I agree with all of the above. You have to stand up to her. She's robbing the lot of us, remember that.

Barracudaincork

Victor wrote: »

That would be illegal.

Really is it illegal to destroy post coming into your own front door? What about unaddressed mail?

Barracudaincork

OP report her, you owe her nothing and you owe yourself a whole lot more.

homerjay2005

return all post to sender for sure and report her. keep maybe 1 letter that doesnt look important so that she doesnt suspect that your up to anything..

and if she is ripping off the state, that means she is ripping off us all.

Bull76

As everyone has stated, No need to be nice to her. Return mail to sender, contct fraud office report her. She's a law grad let her realise where fraud will get her.
Never be walked over by any one....Just hang up on her when she calls. simple as.

Victor

Barracudaincork wrote: »

Really is it illegal to destroy post coming into your own front door? What about unaddressed mail?

If it is unaddresssed (and/or un-named), it isn't really post, its it?

LegacyUser

Basically she's claiming she's still lving there and is pocketing the dosh, there's nothing stopping her saying you agreed to this arrangement if she does get found out which if you're not believed could see you in trouble for fraud. This is why you need to report it, let this jumped up little b***h go back home to mammy and daddy. How can someone with a good education be so ignorant. The irony, I want to study law and then defraud the state.

Barracudaincork

Victor wrote: »

If it is unaddresssed (and/or un-named), it isn't really post, its it?

Depends I know some post companies would deem it to be post, but i have no idea if An Post do. Im looking on google to see where destroying post is illegal and i cant find it, why do you say it is so? and i dont think my post of off topic as destroying post was given as a tip to the OP and you said it was illegal to do so.

amtc

It's the 193 Postal and Telecommunicatiosn Act

LegacyUser

Hi everyone. Reported her last night. Feels very good. I don't know why I've put up with it this long. I suppose I didn't give it much thought until she told me she wouldn't change the address. I hope she will have to pay back. Return to sender from now on!

Toots

OP, can she still get into the lobby of your apartment building? If not, just stick a label on your post box saying 'No mail for Jane Bloggs at this address, no longer resident.' One of my neighbours had a similar problem to you, and she did this, it worked a treat. She had to leave the label up for a few months, but she said now her ex housemate has made sure to have all her mail sent to the correct address.

MissHoneyBun

I must be naive because this just takes the cake!! :eek: Seriously, tell her to take a hike pronto!