Where to find lads?

gayguy2009

I've been using gay dating sites for the past year or so and i've never had any luck! I decided to delete my accounts because I only get led on or cannot find anyone my type. Most lads on those sites just want random sex.

I'm 19 years old, easy goin, nice looking, straight acting. I've never went on the scene at all, but I dont really have anyone I could go with. I'm not nessicerily pushed either because I've heard 90% of them that go are camp.

Is there anyone else in my situation. Anyone know how or where I can meet guys my age, or should I just start back on the dating sites?

Dwn Wth Vwls

If I don't say this, someone else will. BeLonGTo is for people 14-23. It's obviously not for dating, but you might make friends. More friends means either people to go out with, or just generally a wider social network to meet new people through.

If you're in college, join the LGBT society. You might try some of the lgbt groups outside of that too, like the sports from http://www.outinireland.net/. Basically the more new people you meet, the greater your potential.

Not being attracted to camp people is one thing, but don't let it dictate what you do or don't do. You shouldn't judge something without even trying it, just because you think you won't get along with people you haven't even met yet.

Annasopra

there's talk of a few of us meeting up on 6th March as well if you want to come along - mainly people in mid 20s see thread - where to meet decent gay guys

Sir Ophiuchus

OKCupid isn't that bad, though it has a fairly limited selection of Irish gay guys.

And, as Johnnymcg said, there's a meetup planned in March from this forum.

normaldude

you could try the gym, im 31 fairly built and stay fit, and the gym i go to has young enough crowd, but have gotten a few stares and smiles, or long glances in shower, from some guys in the gym, you kinda now the guys who are gay or curious after a while or by chatting, the gym in gym tend to be fit too and straight acting more so than you get in gay bars, i thats the type you like. BTW i got a bf.;)

stephen_n

normaldude wrote: »

well i been in sauna in toronto and NYC and in dublin and the ones I was in was full hot guys even the boiler house in dublin the sat nite i was there was ok, guess you get gay, bi, curious and married guys who just what to have fun and know the risks.
The guys I mean as hot are generally fit guys who look after themselves prob under 40, im 29 and would be fit i guess, so the question I was asking is there fit good looking guys under 40 going into the sauna in cork or not? Please tell the scandal on the place if anyone has been in the there -I think the last six pages have been kinda an excerise on moral issues but Im just wondering what the place is like, and what kinda guys go there?

normaldude wrote: »

you could try the gym, im 31 fairly built and stay fit, and the gym i go to has young enough crowd, but have gotten a few stares and smiles, or long glances in shower, from some guys in the gym, you kinda now the guys who are gay or curious after a while or by chatting, the gym in gym tend to be fit too and straight acting more so than you get in gay bars, i thats the type you like. BTW i got a bf.;)

Man people age quick around here!

normaldude

sorry age is 31 can see my birth cert if u like - must have felt younger earlier - least some of us quote our age on here, and dont give hairdresser's from robbie keane land advice

Boston

I've a reasonably uncomplicated social life. I've a fair few friends, male, female, straight, gay and Bi. A secret to my success has been not hitting on straight men in the gym showers. What the fuk like.

Dwn Wth Vwls has given you the best advice. I'd add to it by saying that you seem to define yourself based on what you're not.

shay_562

Boston wrote: »

A secret to my success has been not hitting on straight men in the gym showers. What the fuk like.

Sometimes a simple click of the 'thanks' button isn't sufficient, and an 80s-style "Word up, homesauce!" is also necessary. Fuck sake, like...

Stark

Boston wrote: »

A secret to my success has been not hitting on straight men in the gym showers.

How do you tell which ones are the straight ones?

martinpaul

Hi. Im a decent guy. im very shy and dont know anyone in the gay scene. i was wondering if anybody would be interested in meeting up tomorrow night for a chat or whatever?

normaldude

Boston, I didnt say to hop in the shower with them like, but maybe check them out in the weights room, I think there lot gay guys who are like me, who are not interested in watching queeny boys dancing on the stage in the George, but prefer checking out manly fit guys working out.

Guess there is no simple rules on finding out if there gay or not, just maybe the old way of going up and asking them about 'how there training going?' and take it from there you find out if there a click - watch out for the married guys though as happened to me recently - this hot guy had been chatting to in gym for ages and think were checking the other out in changing rooms, but then saw him in pool with wife and two kids!

Boston

Maybe he was straight and friendly. You know, male bonding, its this thing men do regardless of sexual desires. You may think you're being subtle and discrete but given that the entire point is to be noticed, I guarantee the lads in questions will pick up on your behaviour. The vast majority will feel really put out, do you even care? I can only think of one time I felt a guy was checking me out in the male changing rooms and it was extremely uncomfortable. Moan about "Queeny gays dancing on stage" but behaviour like what you've mentioned builds animosity towards homosexual / bisexual men and makes it harder to integrate into society.

Aard

OP, like DWV said, clubs and societies may be the way to go. You may have a better chance of meeting "non-camp" guys in clubs where the common interest is one other than just being gay. Maybe a political group like Labour LGBT*, LGBT Noise, or MarriagEquality. Or a sports club, as mentioned.

If you're not into clubs, then usually the friends-of-friends route can work.


*Example for illustrative purposes only; I know nothing about this group.

Stark

Apparently Dublin Frontrunners is the place to be http://www.irishtimes.com/newspaper/health/2010/0209/1224264024883.html

normaldude

Stack,

Love to check out frontrunners, they dont compete in events around the country maybe? Im down in cork and no club like that down here, friends in london have great choice too, guess that one the disadvantages about been gay in the sticks............

Annasopra

normaldude wrote: »

Stack,

Love to check out frontrunners, they dont compete in events around the country maybe? Im down in cork and no club like that down here, friends in london have great choice too, guess that one the disadvantages about been gay in the sticks............

There are sports resources in Cork - Hillwalking, Tennis, there is a running club in Kerry - but nothing to stop you trying to set up a running club in Cork

stephen_n

normaldude wrote: »

you could try the gym, im 31 fairly built and stay fit, and the gym i go to has young enough crowd, but have gotten a few stares and smiles, or long glances in shower, from some guys in the gym, you kinda now the guys who are gay or curious after a while or by chatting, the gym in gym tend to be fit too and straight acting more so than you get in gay bars, i thats the type you like. BTW i got a bf.;)

I'm 37 and have no problem with my age or saying it never really understood the pre-occupation with age!

unreggd

normaldude wrote: »

you could try the gym, im 31 fairly built and stay fit, and the gym i go to has young enough crowd, but have gotten a few stares and smiles, or long glances in shower, from some guys in the gym, you kinda now the guys who are gay or curious after a while or by chatting, the gym in gym tend to be fit too and straight acting more so than you get in gay bars, i thats the type you like. BTW i got a bf.;)

As was said, most of the time guys check each other out at the gym it's completely non sexual

Most of the time its curiosity towards their workout