Karma? True or just life?

sadlady2010

After losing a few family members & friends over the last year I'm beginning to think that I'm cursed even though I don't walk on cracks on the path & always, always, wave at magpies. The latest friend that has gone is in the last few days.
At this stage I'm afraid to look anyone in the eye never mind talk to them in case something bad happens.
So, is this Karma? Or is it just life?
Settle my nerves people if you can!!!!!

Crann na Beatha

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MaybeLogic

Take comfort in the fact/possibility that you're just a statistical aberration.
The Universe isn't out to get you.
About 3/4 years ago I had 6 mates die within the space of 18 months, nothing since.
That's just the way the dice roll.

Voodu Child

The concept of Karma has nothing to do with walking on cracks or waving at magpies.

My name is URL

Sorry for your loss.

Don't beat yourself up about things too much.. what you're feeling is grief, not Karma biting you in the ass

Jesus Wept

sadlady2010 wrote: »

After losing a few family members & friends over the last year I'm beginning to think that I'm cursed even though I don't walk on cracks on the path & always, always, wave at magpies.

Did the people who died have a similar logic?!

Healthcare >>>>>>>> Avoiding walking on cracks and ignoring magpies.

Hopefully things pick up for you soon.

sadlady2010

My name is URL wrote: »

Sorry for your loss.

Don't beat yourself up about things too much.. what you're feeling is grief, not Karma biting you in the ass

You see I understand the grief thing but it's not that. I might, might, as a woman gossip, the odd time, about other people. Don't judge me!
Is it possible this harmless gossip has brought on a **** load of bad luck?
Or do good things & bad things just tend to happen in groups?

mahamageehad

Am...you'd have to have done something Pretty bad for karma to get you back like that....

Its just the way of the world i'm afraid!

admiralofthefleet

do the lotto, surely your bad run must turn

sadlady2010

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

do the lotto, surely your bad run must turn

Oh if only!
I'd have the money spent/ given away before I'd have it in the bank anyway, which could be a good thing considering.

Senna

sadlady2010 wrote: »

You see I understand the grief thing but it's not that. I might, might, as a woman gossip, the odd time, about other people. Don't judge me!
Is it possible this harmless gossip has brought on a **** load of bad luck?
Or do good things & bad things just tend to happen in groups?

Its not related in the slightest.. but stop gossiping anyway.

MaybeLogic

sadlady2010 wrote: »

You see I understand the grief thing but it's not that. I might, might, as a woman gossip, the odd time, about other people. Don't judge me!
Is it possible this harmless gossip has brought on a **** load of bad luck?
Or do good things & bad things just tend to happen in groups?

As regards bad luck I'm of the opinion there could be a reverse-placebo effect at work. But this effect only works on a personal level and in no way affects people around you.
It's just an unfortunate glut of deaths and there's absolutely no need to beat yourself up about it.

Jesus Wept

What if it is related though.
...Makes ya think.

Son Of A Vidic

I can see the logic behind your username now, you've had a rough time no doubt. Superstition is just that - superstition. Life goes like that I think, it's nothing to do with you at all. So don't be sad, there's nothing you could have done that would have changed what you've been through. So forget about Karma and superstition it's just life. Be true to yourself and don't change who you are because of what you've been through. Embrace new friends and relationships and don't avoid them or fear them. I've no doubt this is what your family members and friends who you lost, would want.
Anyway, welcome to boards.ie your new Cyber family!

Sharpshooter

sadlady2010 wrote: »

After losing a few family members & friends over the last year I'm beginning to think that I'm cursed even though I don't walk on cracks on the path & always, always, wave at magpies. The latest friend that has gone is in the last few days.
At this stage I'm afraid to look anyone in the eye never mind talk to them in case something bad happens.
So, is this Karma? Or is it just life?
Settle my nerves people if you can!!!!!

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

do the lotto, surely your bad run must turn

sadlady2010 wrote: »

Oh if only!
I'd have the money spent/ given away before I'd have it in the bank anyway, which could be a good thing considering.

You are indeed a sadlady in 2010, you have my condolences.

Dudess

How can we know whether karma exists or not? I think it's just a concept which is clinged to as a comfort. Plenty of utter ***** seem to sail through life, plenty of very good people go through absolutely horrific experiences. And as for our "dues" coming to us in the next life rather than this one, well again, how can we know?

OP, don't be so harsh on yourself for what's going on in your life - some good people unfortunately just have a very bad run of luck, and it seems like that's the case for you - the fact you're feeling guilty alone indicates you're a good 'un. To be fair, nearly all of us have crap to deal with at various stages in our lives, but in varying degrees. I really hope things will get better for you...

Little Acorn

sadlady2010 wrote: »

You see I understand the grief thing but it's not that. I might, might, as a woman gossip, the odd time, about other people. Don't judge me!
Is it possible this harmless gossip has brought on a **** load of bad luck?
Or do good things & bad things just tend to happen in groups?

No I don't think it's possible that your bit of gossiping brought on bad luck.
It's probably normal to feel guilty about anything bad you ever said/did to someone once their gone,but you really can't blame yourself unless you were in some way directly linked to their death. As you say that these people were your friends,I'm sure you couldn't have been that bad.
You need to stop blaming yourself for this, And though not to be commended, I think everybody has a bitch/gossip at some stage,even about people they love.
I'm sure your loved ones who passed weren't perfect either,cos nobody is-so I doubt they would want you feeling this guilt,so try to stop beating yourself up over it.

sadlady2010

Dudess wrote: »

How can we know whether karma exists or not? I think it's just a concept which is clinged to as a comfort. Plenty of utter ***** seem to sail through life, plenty of very good people go through absolutely horrific experiences. And as for our "dues" coming to us in the next life rather than this one, well again, how can we know?

OP, don't be so harsh on yourself for what's going on in your life - some good people unfortunately just have a very bad run of luck, and it seems like that's the case for you - the fact you're feeling guilty alone indicates you're a good 'un. To be fair, nearly all of us have crap to deal with at various stages in our lives, but in varying degrees. I really hope things will get better for you...

Christ on a bike!
I do actually look at people I know that get away with all sorts & often wonder how they coast through life without so much as a hiccup.
I don't wish or want bad things to happen to them but at the same time in the back of my mind I wonder how they get away with it without any consequence.
But there is a bad run of luck & there is being cursed. At this stage I'm leaning towards the cursed side of things.
Any advice/ chants/ dances to get rid of this bad run of luck is much appreciated.

P.S: I won't be posting videos of any dance. Especially if I happen to be naked. Sorry!

Rycn

sadlady2010 wrote: »

After losing a few family members & friends over the last year I'm beginning to think that I'm cursed even though I don't walk on cracks on the path & always, always, wave at magpies. The latest friend that has gone is in the last few days.
At this stage I'm afraid to look anyone in the eye never mind talk to them in case something bad happens.
So, is this Karma? Or is it just life?
Settle my nerves people if you can!!!!!

IMO there is no such thing as karma. If karma was real why did the Rwandan genocide happen, why were a bunch of random people murdered in 9/11, why everyday hundreds of children die in africa due to starvation, what did these children do to deserve to die a slow and painful death?

Nobody deserves alot of the things that happen to them but thats life, its a rollercoaster and for most of us we can try and look forward to something better when it gets that bad.

There are some arseh0les that just stroll through life being complete d1ckheads to everyone they come into contact with but yet they have not a bother going on for them, thats also life, and if "karma" was real, dont you think these gobshtes wouldnt be around??

Borneo Fnctn

I don't believe in Karma but I believe that a persons perception of Karma can be "a bitch."

recylingbin

If there was such a thing as karma, Killiney would be crushed by a massive bottle of peroxide, Dalkey would be hit by a tsunami of fake tan and one day, in Leitrim, the sheep would get to nail a local.

Sharpshooter

Rycn wrote: »

IMO there is no such thing as karma. If karma was real why did the Rwandan genocide happen, why were a bunch of random people murdered in 9/11, why everyday hundreds of children die in africa due to starvation, what did these children do to deserve to die a slow and painful death?

Nobody deserves alot of the things that happen to them but thats life, its a rollercoaster and for most of us we can try and look forward to something better when it gets that bad.

There are some arseh0les that just stroll through life being complete d1ckheads to everyone they come into contact with but yet they have not a bother going on for them, thats also life, and if "karma" was real, dont you think these gobshtes wouldnt be around??

I believe you.

m@cc@

Karma is just a world people use to console themselves when someone has got away with something. It doesn't exist any more than fate or destiny.

me-skywalker

Dudess wrote: »

How can we know whether luck exists or not? I think it's just a concept which is clinged to as a comfort. Plenty of utter ***** seem to sail through life, plenty of very good people go through absolutely horrific experiences. And as for our "dues" coming to us in the next life rather than this one, well again, how can we know?

OP, don't be so harsh on yourself for what's going on in your life - some good people unfortunately just have a very bad run of karma,.

FYP

From the moment you are born you are dying! You have to stop blaming yourself there is nothing you could have done or can do. Just enjoy your own life while you have and make the best of it as much as you can.

Rycn

me-skywalker wrote: »

FYP

From the moment you are born you are dying! You have to stop blaming yourself there is nothing you could have done or can do. Just enjoy your own life while you have and make the best of it as much as you can.

+1

Great post.

LiberalUtopia

Gosh! For all the bastions of logic and reason that populate "After Hours", what's this - a serious consideration of spirituality and the paranormal?! Whatever next? God might actually exist?! Heaven forbid!

(Just make sure you don't fall into a local minimum on the way to the Creator).

LiberalUtopia

me-skywalker wrote: »

Just enjoy your own life while you have and make the best of it as much as you can.

Actually, I disagree. If you gave me three words to describe the meaning of life, they're: do God's will.

"Enjoyment" of life and the never-ending pursuit of pleasure is quite nihilistic if you ask me.

m@cc@

LiberalUtopia wrote: »

"Enjoyment" of life and the never-ending pursuit of pleasure is quite nihilistic if you ask me.

Hedonistic even.

LiberalUtopia

m@cc@ wrote: »

Hedonistic even.

Indeed.

bonerm

I don't don't believe in all that walking on cracks or under ladders etc but I do believe that how you act in life will come back to you twofold.

Turtwig

OP, I can only try to empathise with your troubles and hope that your life get's back on the track. Life is funny, it never is meant to be fair, or good, or bad, it just ends up being that way for certain people. I've had some really sh1tty times too. (Two suicides and two friends killed in a car crash in less than six months) but that's just the way things happen. What defines us isn't how we live our lives when things are going good, but how we bounce back from things that went badly.

Keep your chin up, keep in contact with your friends, share your worries with others (don't overdo it!) and life will most likely turn itself around for you. Be Brave!

As for Karma, it's a load of bollocks that makes us feel weak and guilty inside. There may have circumstances that you could have performed better in or avoided altogether. You may have had poor judgement, but it's important to realise that all of us make errors of judgement. It's also important to realise that at these times we tend to kick ourselves more than is necessary. You may have made some errors. If so, I can guarantee you that not everything was your own fault. I don't even need to know you you tell something that obvious. What's done is done and can't be undone, learning to live with mistakes is the most difficult task in life that all of us face into. Blaming yourself or, your luck, will only get you so far; acceptance is the key to recovery: Things happens, we might not always like them, but we have learn to learn live with them and progress from there.