She's driving me crazy

LegacyUser

ok so im madly in love with this girl, i just want to go up to her and tell her how i feel but i cant...not now. problem is i cant stop thinking of her. i know she likes me but when i see her talking with other guys it kills me, particulary a guy whose better looking than me. what can i do? i cant actually function atm. how do i get over this?

i'm insecure, i know i look well, perhaps better than i do, but i know she would prefer this other guy to me. i know she likes me but i keep fearing that today i might not look good enough and she won't like me any longer.

help me.

enviro

Its not all about looks. Go for it and try believe in your self more. You say she likes you so thats great.

PhysiologyRocks

Even if it were all about looks, they don't alter that much from day to day.

Plus, if a guy looked nice, I would see that as a bonus, as opposed to the main attraction.

I used be like you until one day i realised that women are just like us, and in some cases worse off.
You see you have to realise that whilst you may put certain women on pedestals, they are human beings too with insecurities. Accept who you are, be comfortable with who you are and in time you will become a more assured rounded person. don't spend your energy infatuating over one girl. the world is full of beautiful women. i wouldn't recommend pubs or nightclubs as you meet drunken defensive idiots but join clubs and societies, and get to know not just women, but people. from civil interaction with people you learn to be a more confident person. by this i learned how to make friends and eventually realised that there is a world outside certain women. i realised that relationships are not the be all and end all and when i least expected it i ended up in one. just don't waste your energy over one girl as trust me its not healthy. channel your energy into lots of different areas and thing will happen - just you wait!

6th

Date yourself for a while! By that i mean take some time to treat yourself as if you were courting yourself, give yourself compliments, let you know that you let you and get across what it is you like about yourself. If this girl was feeling low and insecure what would you do to make her feel better! Do that stuff for you. Does that make any sense? Cos i think to put yourself, your jealousy and insecurities onto her would be an awful thing right now. Maybe she deserves to be with that other guy? Sorry to be harsh.

globemaster1986

If you feel your a decent looking chap thats an advantage over many guys but what women like are guys that are confident and comfortable in themselves without being cocky! And all my female friends would say if you can make a woman laugh your half way there;)

LegacyUser

op again. ye i think i look good(at times) but ive always been very well kinda boring. i never went to wez or anything and never had a girlfriend.

but you guys my feelings for this girl are like unbelievable. we were meant to be together i just know it. but how can i tell her this. if she said no and went with the other guy i mentioned in op i would be destroyed. it would ruin me

desolate sun

opizback wrote: »

if she said no and went with the other guy i mentioned in op i would be destroyed. it would ruin me

OP it's obvious you feel strongly about this girl but saying things like this is really unhealthy.
This type of thinking comes from being insecure. You really need to work on your insecurities before you go near this girl. No girl wants to go out with a really insecure guy. I don't mean to be harsh and I am not saying you're not good enough for this girl. It's just insecurity can eat away at a person and a relationship.

Work on you, as another poster said, work on building up your self esteem. You will be much more attractive to the opposite sex. Confidence shows in your whole persona.

Think about it, if you approached this girl and she said no and it destroyed you, it would be devastating for you. A more healthy scenario would be a confident you approaching this girl and if she said no, you would feel disappointed but you would pick yourself up and carry on, knowing you are an attractive man and there are other women out there.

Angus Og

Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.

Not my words, but it's hard to put it better.

Aibreann

insecure wrote: »

ok so im madly in love with this girl, i just want to go up to her and tell her how i feel but i cant...not now. problem is i cant stop thinking of her. i know she likes me but when i see her talking with other guys it kills me, particulary a guy whose better looking than me. what can i do? i cant actually function atm. how do i get over this?

i'm insecure, i know i look well, perhaps better than i do, but i know she would prefer this other guy to me. i know she likes me but i keep fearing that today i might not look good enough and she won't like me any longer.

help me.

whats your age and I will you the proper answer. if you are 20's then this happened to lot of people and it is the age

LegacyUser

im 18

opizback

opizback wrote: »

op again. ye i think i look good(at times) but ive always been very well kinda boring. i never went to wez or anything and never had a girlfriend.

but you guys my feelings for this girl are like unbelievable. we were meant to be together i just know it. but how can i tell her this. if she said no and went with the other guy i mentioned in op i would be destroyed. it would ruin me

Oh my god your only 18, a mere pup. There's women i was mad about when i was 18 like you are now but nowadays i couldn't care less now i never seen them again. i don't even think of them. its only when you end up in a meaningful relationship with someone who loves you for what you are you realise how silly all the teenage crushes are.

Relationships are not the be-all and end all. Don't get me wrong, its nice to be in one, its nice to be with someone you like but seriously there is so much more to life then to focus all your love and affection on one person esp at your tender age. look try get to know her a bit better, sure ask her for a drink/coffee, if she says no its her loss. get your game going with other women though. Its a big world out there.