Need to change my life.. where to start??

LegacyUser

Hi Folks,

Just confused in general...

So I'm working a stable job in admin. Good wages, People I work with are good fun. So I have nothing to complain about really.

Except I want to travel... I have traveled before, but want to do some more on my own.

I am 28 and not in a stable relationship. I don't have a career. I still don't know what I want to do. Montossory Teaching has always been in the back of my mind (or similar), although the course I would like to do is a full time course in AMI. As this opens me up to Primary Teaching too. So I have always put off the course as it's full time.

I worry about living my life in this dreamworld, and not getting the chance to have Children, and not going for the career I want, because I have a life at the moment where nothing is wrong. I am sailing from day to day always dreaming about the things I want to do.

I'm looking for words of encouragement from those of you who have been in the same position as me before, and have maybe taken the chance. I have no plan in life, but some day I would like to get married and have Kids. I want a fulfilling career and I want to travel a bit more. I want to buy a house someday and all that stuff. But at the moment living normally just bores me.

Leaving, my job, to go traveling for 1 or 2 years. Then come back and go to college. Is this a terrible idea?

Thank you..

theg81der

Its a fabulous idea go for it lifes to short. What would you do if you knew the world was gonna end next month? do it now, today.

You need to decide what you want, just had a lecture last week in college where a lecturer said, not that I hadn`t heard it before, but if you don`t know where you want to be in 5 years you have no chance of gettin there.

Why don`t you start by thinking of what you`d like to do in the next five years, where do you want to be in your life, what would make you proud, where would you like to have visited. If your a visual person do a vision board and put pictures up to represent your desires.

Take the leap, no point living if your not alive!

iguana2005

yeah go for it - apply for an OZ visa as Australia is stunning and you will love it. Looking for a husband, wanting kids and buying a house is SO 2008...go travel and broaden your mind FAST!

LegacyUser

Hi Folks,

Thanks, that's a good point, if I don't know where I want to be then I'll never get there.

I have traveled through Australia and Asia for a year. But I want to travel some more, and travel some of it on my own for the experience of it, and doing what I want to do. I want to go back to College, as admin/office work doesn't suit me. I have tried to study part time, but I start to panic as I'm never sure which is the right thing to do first... I think I should be traveling when I'm studying, and I think I should be thinking about buying a house too.

It's difficult to make the decision to leave a stable job and head off traveling, and hope to come back to college when I return. This is easier said than done, but all I know is I'll have regrets if I don't do it, and I don't want to have them!

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

I'm feeling the same way though i'm a bit younger. I'm nearly 24 and would have liked to have my degree/masters at this stage but I don't and it upsets me every single day. I did a 2 year course in Office Information Systems and Public Relations which I got a Higher Cert from, but I just won't feel happy or fulfilled until I go back and finish what I intended to do. My friends are off travelling in Australia and i'm stuck in a job that doesn't excite me anymore. It's a good job, i've done some courses in it and the pay is great. However I owe a lot of money and i'm just stuck in a rut. I'm scared to death i'll be one of these people who wakes up one day and says I wish I had of done this.

dearg lady

I think it's important to go after your dreams but you have to be realistic too. How long is the course you're thinking of doing, or is it still a vague idea? I would research quite thoroughly courses, options, costs of courses. I wouldn't say it's necessarily better to travel first or go to college first, as long as you can find a way to do both that's the main thing.

good point from theg81der, I'm going to take that advice and write down what I want to do in the next 5 years! It's very easy to let the time slip away through indecison.

Dark Phoenix

OP I think you need to figure out what you want. On the one hand you say you dont know what you want to work as and on the other you are afraid to leave in case you don't get the career you want.
Are you happy in your job or would you really rather be doing something different? Are you prepared to put in the work to go to college to achieve it - do you want it that much?
You need to work out for yourself whats more important some people work to live, others live to work. For me - my job pays for the things I want to do in life thats it.
Think about what you want in 1 year, 2 years, 5 years and see what your priorities are that will help you to make a plan

Angus Og

I think you should go if there is even a chance that you will regret not doing so. Have you thought about doing something like aid work? You sound like someone I know, and he hasn't looked back since.

LegacyUser

Hi Folks,

Thanks for the replies.

You are right in saying I seem confused. I am!
I don't know what I want to do for the rest of my life, but if I have to pick something that I would like to do for the next 10 years it would be Montossori Teaching/Primary Teaching. I have always let the full time College part put me off.

I don't hate the job I'm in. I just have no interest in it. It bores me. I feel wasted. Anyone can do the job I'm doing at the moment, and I don't add anything of myself to the job. I want to do something where I can give in the job, help others, and get satisfaction that way.
I understand that most of us work to live, and I certainly have lots of interests outside of work. But I spend 39 hours of my week working in a job where I feel wasted. This is a lot of time in my week where I always feel I could be doing more.

I need to make a decision. You are right. I want to travel on my own for a while to get the experience and to prove to myself that I am ultimately independant :-). I want to have a career/job where I am giving something in the job. Where I am helping others. It's difficult to make a decision to leave a stable job aith great benefits to go fulfill my dreams. Especially when family and friends can't understand it, and think I should be happy to make do.

In 5 years time I would like to know that I have traveled, and am a Teacher, or studying to get there. I think only then would I be happy to settle in life. At the moment I am not able to sit still.... I think watching tele is a waste of time!!!

thanks for the advice... Am I crazy?

Angus Og

You're not crazy, you sound like a lot of men (maybe most men are crazy?). Anyway, I'm sure someone else would gladly take your humdrum job off you.

LegacyUser

Thanks Angus Og for the words of encouragement about not being crazy...
But I am not a Man :-)

Angus Og

Makes sense, now that you've said it.

LegacyUser

hiya have you thought about the hibernia h.dip in primary education? 18months, evenings and some saturdays, throughout the whole time some 17 weeks off (4weeks tp, 3 weeks gaeltacht, 2X5 weeks tp throughout the 18months). If you have a degree and irish you can do it. I repeated my lc last year to get the honour and i got accepted, starting saturday. Like you I was afraid of moving but afraid of staying where i was. I think you need to take an evening and write down what you want and how you can get there. Dont think about how long it takes to get tehre but how long you might regret it. With montessori you can only teach to a certain year. You can also study (without the irish) in england and do the 3yr b.ed (think it is called something else over there go to educationposts.ie for forums on the options). you are still only young and if they move back the retirement age from 65 have over 40 years in a working environment left. Best of luck!