stupid internet porn

LegacyUser

ok cant believe im writing this but here goes, am with my bf 7 years and always had an amazing sex life till now, am 7 months pregnant and have not had sex since christmas, its not that i haven't been in the mood but think he just dosn't fancy me i dont blame him really.

Anyways was using the laptop at home lately and clicked on previous google searches wanted to check out somehting i was looking at the week before and in the list i see searches for "sex pictures" "naked teens" now i couldnt give a fiddlers that he is looking at porn on the net i do it myself from time to time whats bothering me is the "teen" part im 28 he is 38, there will come a day in the not too distant future when ill have my old body back and as far as sex goes am raring for it already. But ill never ever be a teen again, as far as sex goes im p for anything always loved experimenting but now im worried ill never really be able to please him cause im not what he wants.

ManOfMystery

OP,

Did you see this in your internet history itself, or just in the address bar within the Google site? Just asking as that address bar throws up results generated by all the Google searches being carried out worldwide, not what your other half has been searching for.

However if it's in the internet history then it would appear to be down to him.

e04bf099

susisocks2 wrote: »

ok cant believe im writing this but here goes, am with my bf 7 years and always had an amazing sex life till now, am 7 months pregnant and have not had sex since christmas, its not that i haven't been in the mood but think he just dosn't fancy me i dont blame him really.

Anyways was using the laptop at home lately and clicked on previous google searches wanted to check out somehting i was looking at the week before and in the list i see searches for "sex pictures" "naked teens" now i couldnt give a fiddlers that he is looking at porn on the net i do it myself from time to time whats bothering me is the "teen" part im 28 he is 38, there will come a day in the not too distant future when ill have my old body back and as far as sex goes am raring for it already. But ill never ever be a teen again, as far as sex goes im p for anything always loved experimenting but now im worried ill never really be able to please him cause im not what he wants.

I wouldn't worry about it. If he wants off he'll look at things that'll give him a cheap ****. He is not comparing you to teens. Lads don't have a type that they are only attracted to. If girl says like big burly lads but ends up with a slim nice guy, you wouldn't expect the nice guy to be insecure, would you? He would usually know what his relationship is based upon and know that she doesn't value her little fantasy over her sex-life with him. I mean, do other people actually have strict "types" that they are only to attracted to, and none others? I don't.

But youth IS attractive, especially when a lad gets older, because there is an element of submissiveness and malleability as well as other qualities attached that the chauvenist in us all is attracted to. Sorry, but that doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you any more.

On the other hand, if there are other signs, he might just be that shallow that he likes youth and fertility more than maturity and a loving adult relationship. But I doubt it.

Wacker

ManOfMystery wrote: »

OP,

Did you see this in your internet history itself, or just in the address bar within the Google site? Just asking as that address bar throws up results generated by all the Google searches being carried out worldwide, not what your other half has been searching for.

However if it's in the internet history then it would appear to be down to him.

AFAIK Google never prompts common search results for porn. If it says naked teens, then someone has been searching for naked teens.

OP, there really is no way of knowing whether you bf only finds 19 year olds attractive, or if he was just in an unusual mood one night while online. Try to put it out of your mind, as worrying about such things cannot help. Also, congratulations on the impending motherhood!

anucksunamun

Wacker wrote: »

AFAIK Google never prompts common search results for porn. If it says naked teens, then someone has been searching for naked teens. !

On Google Chrome it does prompt you.

I totally agree with 04bf099 as regard to a strict type.

OP have you considered that he may be concerned with hurting you/the baby? Have you talked at all about the fact you are not having sex as of late? Hope things get better soon.

BobbyOLeary

I wouldn't look into it too much. Teen porn typically refers to 18 to mid 20's. It does mean that the images are going to be of younger girls than your OH and yourself but so what? To give a flippant example, I looked up interracial threesomes the other night, does that mean my caucasian girlfriend should be worried that I'll suddenly come home with two nubian princesses? No.

People look at a variety of stuff when looking at porn. As a previous poster said, he was probably looking for a cheap ****, that's all.

jenga-jen

OP try not to worry!! I've had similar situations in stumbling across porn/search history on computers of friends and boyfriends.

Some of the stuff people look at :eek:

Then again, if you were looking yourself (not saying you do or don't! ) and saw something while 'browsing' then you might go back to google and search directly for it!

I highly doubt at 38 that he's secretly hankering for a teen gf or even early 20's. More than likely it's just a cheap thrill as the other posters said, much in the same way that at 28 you're going to 'appreciate' guys in the their early 20s without it meaning you want to run off with one.

IME as girls it's sometimes hard to understand the way lads view porn, it's a means to an end not something they want to pursue in real life!

+1 congrats on the imminent new addition as well

Peggypeg

Hey OP,

You're may be feeling anxious in general, after all you are about to have a baby so that is an emotional time anyways. With regards the porn, my bf is into the animated Japanese kind I'm sure he's not planning to replace me with an animated Japanese girl. I really wouldn't worry, sweetie. I know from talking to friends that you probably feel pretty uncomfortable at the moment and you're not going to feel particularly sexy at the moment, that can knock your confidence a wee bit. I'd say have a word with the OH and tell him how you're feeling, it's ok for him not to want to have sex with you at the moment and as someone else said hes probably worried about hurting you or the baby. I'm sure when you bring it up he'll give you a kiss and a cuddle and you'll feel much better. And don't forget, you won't be pregnant for much longer, I sure you'll feel much better once it's here.

Honestly sweetie, don't be worried or upset over this, talk to your OH and tell him you want a cuddle and I'm sure you'll feel much better.

Congrats on the new baby and Best of luck with everything.

MaxPower89

i wouldnt worry about this too much op.

maybe when you are looking up porn you look for muscle men or whatever..but that doesnt mean you are going to run off with some bodybuilder. most guys have a preference for what they look at, but it means precious little other than that.

have a chat with him to discuss, im sure he will be frank with you.

congrats on the new addition..:)

Barracudaincork

OP just say for arguements sake you wanted to search the net for porn. Would you type in 38 year old men, balding, cute and cuddley body etc or would you type in Fit hot naked men?

The first would describe more what your partner is like than the second, yet you love your partner and your attracted to your partner, yet given the choice of just looking, you wouldnt necessarily search for what you have at home.

He was just looking and ok may have knocked one out but i wouldnt be concerned that he doesnt fancy you any more and tbh it may be down to your pregnancy as to why you havent had sex. I have heard men get scared of hurting the baby or doing something wrong the further pregnancy advances, maybe post on the pregnancy forum re this?

Bottle_of_Smoke

Teens are hot. Men like to see them naked.

kpas

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Teens are hot. Men like to see them naked.

Ya fully agree with this op... Don't forget thats what we first started looking at when we hit puberty.. Its natural and I guess has a certain degree of familiarity...---Looking that is... anything else could be a bit weird..

Whatever you like looking at is what does it for you...

Starstream

OP, I wouldn't worry too much about the p0rn, that doesn't necessarily mean he is not attracted to you. I would however question why you have not had sex in so long. Why should you accept that he does not fancy you because you are pregnant, and even though you have been in the mood why does he say he does not want any?

Angus Og

Yeah, a lot of people seem to have missed the point.

First of all, he's with a woman 10 years younger than himself, so you can't really say for sure that he's not interested in younger women.

Secondly, she's looking for reassurance that he'll still want her, once the pregnancy is over.

A woman can feel quite vulnerable at such a point in her life, and maybe he's not giving her the attention she needs. The fact that she says she doesn't blame him for not fancying her should tell you that she's feeling worried about his lack of affection.

I don't think the pro-porn brigade should be hijacking a thread that really has nothing to do with pornography.

Notice that it is the younger women element, not the naked women element that's really bothering her.

Sleepy

Porn is fantasy. In fantasyland all women have the same bodies they did when they were 18/19 for the vast majority of men.

Real life is different and we know that.

I'm sure most women's fantasies involve idealised versions of their partners / fantasy partners just as ours do as men. Would I rather my partner's body hadn't been changed by childbirth and she was still as firm and supple as it was when she was 18? Probably, but I'm sure the novelty of that would wear off pretty soon and I'd end up exactly where I am now with her: still fancying the arse off her!

Don't over-analyse something as trivial as a middle-aged guy finding young women sexually appealing OP. It's like us blokes trying to over-analyze why women feel the need to have more than one or two handbags and dozens of shoes!