Mentally and Socially dealing with an STI

LegacyUser

Okay, I put up a question yesterday about an STD. I presume it was closed as it was considered asking for medical advice or something. I wasn't.
I haven't been to the doctor yet, which is wrong I know, but I will be going as soon as I return.
That has nothing to do with what I was asking though. I wasn't looking for any sort of medical advice whatsoever.

Most of the responses were extremely unhelpful anyway, but I would like to thank Bonito for his very useful advice.


So, lets start again. Lets just assume this is a hypothetical situation. I have contracted an STI, which can be passed on without a condom. I have always practiced safe sex, so this is a bit of a blow to me as well.

I obviously do not want to pass this on to anyone else. This means I can't have sex. This makes life extremely difficult in more ways than one.
Firstly, there is the personal psychological damage.
Secondly, there is the constant worry of passing it on without sexual contact.
Thirdly there is how to deal with interaction with women over however long it's going to take to clear up.
Fourthly there is the fact that I have loads of friends that know me well and will be wondering why I'm not keen on meeting women anymore.
How do I handle this? Is there support forums etc out there that can advise me. I'm not sure should I tell my friends, it doesnt seem like the best thing to do.

This is the sort of help I was looking for yesterday, and hopefully someone can advise me today.

Gone Drinking

Go to the specialist, get diagnosed, take medication.

I had an sti once, went to the cock doctor, he gave me tablets, i returned in a week and it was gone. No big deal..

I'm assuming its not something serious (ie AIDS)

Bonito

Much better post Op. I still stand by suggestions I made yesterday and think they'd be good practice 'til you find out what's wrong. Also your friends are still your friends and just calmly address the issue with them before they start asking questions. Just because you may have contracted an STD it does not change who you are. Also you'd be surprised as to how many women would be understanding towards the subject that even though you took all accountable and responsible measures to have safe intercourse you still somehow contracted an STD from said female.

I wouldn't bring any of this up with your friends or women you meet 'til you get a definitive diagnosis from your GP because it could be anything. It could even be something as simple as ingrown hairs if you have recently shaven down there. If you're really concerned then avoid sexual contact and keep your hands as clean as possible because I imagine if you're going away for work there'll be handshakes and greetings of the sort.

As for Q's on support forums this, in my opinion, is one of the best on Boards and now that you explained your situation better in this thread I'm hopefull that the feedback you'll receive will be more helpfull.

LegacyUser

When people take the time out to offer their advice it's just plain rude to come out and say all your replies are extremely unhelpful.

It won't kill you not to have sex for a few weeks and unless you're friend actually watch you in the act I doubt they'll me any the wiser.

Besides, your priority should be getting your health sorted and making sure you haven't given this to anyone else.

mood

I still stand by what I said. You need a medical diagnosis and very possibly treatment. You could be up in a knot over nothing or over something that can be treated with one course of tablets for a week or two. You seem to be really jumping the gun here thinking it is something you will have for a long time or even long term.

Your friends won't be asking question if you don't sleep with a girl for a couple of weeks.

Nevyn

There are help and support groups for people who are having to live with and manage thier life in a slightly different way due to contracting an sti which can not be cured. If you are diagnoised your dr or the clinic should be able to put you in touch with such groups.

LegacyUser

mood wrote: »

I still stand by what I said. You need a medical diagnosis and very possibly treatment. You could be up in a knot over nothing or over something that can be treated with one course of tablets for a week or two. You seem to be really jumping the gun here thinking it is something you will have for a long time or even long term.

Your friends won't be asking question if you don't sleep with a girl for a couple of weeks.

Indeed. I don't mean to lessen your problems OP, but you seem to be making rather a mountain out of a molehill. It's not as if you've been diagnosed with HIV, or learned that you could be infertile due to an STI (which is what happened to me after I had sex one time, using a condom). Molloscum isn't even considered an STI by most people - I got it on my hands when I worked as an au pair, presumably caught it from the kids. Obviously, see a doctor and see what you can do about treating it, but perhaps be thankful it probably isn't anything serious. If your biggest concern is meeting women and what to tell your friends for a few weeks, you're pretty fortunate.

LegacyUser

confusedmuch? wrote: »

When people take the time out to offer their advice it's just plain rude to come out and say all your replies are extremely unhelpful.

It won't kill you not to have sex for a few weeks and unless you're friend actually watch you in the act I doubt they'll me any the wiser.

Besides, your priority should be getting your health sorted and making sure you haven't given this to anyone else.

I'm sorry, I didnt mean to offend. But majority of the responses were the exact same. Go to the doctor. I understand that that is a requirement, and mentioned the reasons in my post. I wasn't looking for medical advice.

One guy even insulted me telling me I didnt know what I was talking about because Molloscum isn't an STD and if I bothered to do some research, blah blah blah. Well, I did do quite a bit of research, and it is an STD.

I know self-diagnosis is dangerous, and I will go to the doctor, but it is pretty obvious from the symptoms that it is MC I have. Due to the fact that I am going away this week for 2 weeks I didn't see the point in dealing with it right now.

But to be honest, I might. I have a few hours in the morning and I might get what advice from him that I can before I go.

The Recliner

OK locking this thread now because in the same was as in the other thread the OP is not taking the advice which is go to the doctor and get help, they will also provide you with help in dealing with it