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Wedding ideas!!

  • 01-02-2010 9:45pm
    #1
    je55ie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 423 ✭✭


    Hi all, just looking for your opinions and ideas, me and my fiance want to get married but have different ideas as to the way we want the day to be. I would be happy to have a traditional wedding with everyone there but this is not my h2b wants as he is not great with dealing with being the centre of attention. anyway i am willing to compromise and have a small wedding with just immediate family at the church. talking 20 at the most including bridesmaids/groomsmen and flower girls. now heres where im looking for ideas about the reception. He would like to get out of the whole top table so its not so intimidating and not have the official speeches but I would still like some quick speech etc and first dance etc, has anyone any ideas as to how to approach this? also how do I get out inviting everyone to the church


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  • #2
    DanGlee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 385 ✭✭DanGlee


    Bloody weddings... my missus in on the whole buzz now, we getting married next year!

    I think, you can pretty much do what you want, its YOUR day. I've been to a wedding where there was no top table, this is easiest with all round tables.

    I think speeches are optional. Anothing thing I saw at the last wedding I was at was the bride giving a quick 5 min speech, I've not seen it before, but certainly nothing wrong with it. i think my wife-to-be whats to give a little speech too.

    I like your H2B would not be keen on a speech, but I will tell her how lovely she looks, thank everybody and thats about it, short and sweet, no need to worry about being funny and having to talk for 15 minutes of something!

    Do what makes you happy and your both comfortable with! Its your day!


  • #3
    je55ie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 423 ✭✭je55ie


    Thanks for your reply, round tables is a good idea. Our speeches would be record short if they were to happen Id say.


  • #4
    hazeler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 197 ✭✭hazeler


    jessie37 wrote: »
    Thanks for your reply, round tables is a good idea. Our speeches would be record short if they were to happen Id say.

    my cousin got married new years eve. Before dinner, I flew to the toilet, no lipstick re-application or fixing of my hair, in and out... ;) and when I came back out (in record time!) the speeches were over. My h2b was roaring laughing as I couldn't believe it. 3 people spoke and that was that. Soup was served.

    round tables are great at a small wedding, ye can be in the middle and surrounded by other tables, reduces the "look at them up there" type thing... or what about a "U" shape like back in school... ye in the middle and then the rest of the family making up the rest of the U??


  • #5
    How Strange
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,339 ✭✭✭How Strange


    We're getting married later this month and our ceremony is a civil one which will be held in a country house hotel followed by a late lunch. There will be max 20 people there; we will all sit at the same table as we're being given a private function room and there are no speeches. I told my Dad this because he hates having to speak in public and I wanted him to relax, enjoy the day and not be nervous about it for a week before. My OH and I may give a small speech but more along the lines of thanking both families etc.

    I categorically don't want any of that traditional wedding stuff so no chair covers or flower arrangements or top tables.

    We're having a party later with a band and dinner but again no top tables or speeches. I wanted a first dance but the OH said he didn't. It didn't really bother me enough to insist on it so so we're not going to have one.

    OP, you've lots of time to discuss it with your OH and you'll find you'll change your mind 100 times before you decide what you want. The most important thing is arrange it together and sometimes that will involve you compromising on what you initially wanted. I don't agree that it should be all about the bride, although alot of weddings are just like that, and it should be a day that you both enjoy.


  • #6
    John Mason
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 10,661 ✭✭✭✭John Mason


    20'ish at the registry office and then 20'ish people for dinner in a nice resturant and then have room booked somewhere for the dancing and drinking where everyone is invited

    that way you get the best of both worlds, a NICE dinner, none of this wedding muck and you still get to have a band, DJ and first dance, cut the cake etc


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