Crying

happydayz8

Hi All,
Ever since I have had a child - he is now 3 - I feel like I've lost it emotionally a little. I'm a fairly happy person now. Mind you I wasn't in a very good place during pregnancy and for a while after that. However, I cry really easily, for example a CONCERN add makes me cry. I also think I'm in general emotionally imbalanced. Maybe I'm paranoid, but should I seek help, speak to my GP or are women just like this?

Ickle Magoo

There is no harm in speaking to your GP and explaining how you feel so any underlying medical condition can be ruled out.

I have definitely become more easily upset, especially about child related issues, since I became a mother. The silliest things that I would have rolled my eyes at a few years ago set me off so I think pregnancy, especially a difficult one, birth, PND, motherhood - it changes us. If you are worried about yourself at all then definitely talk it over with your GP, though.

Best of luck.

happydayz8

Thank you very much Ickle Magoo. The thing is when I was pregnant and had my son it was difficult but I just went into some mode that didn't let me be vulnerable. I didn't have PND. Only since I'm in a happy relationship and I'm physically healthier I feel so emotional and this does just not make sense to me. I should be all around happy with a wonderful son and a wonderful boyfriend.

Ickle Magoo

Perhaps it's your bodies way of releasing all the tensions and emotions you are still carrying from that time? I had PND and I felt like I was walking around in cotton wool - now it seems like my emotions are in technicolour, I'm not sure if it's my bodies way of dealing with that episode or if now I am out the other side, everything just seems magnified in comparison. I know you say you didn't have ante-natal or pnd but it rang a bell with me. xxxx

happydayz8

sorry I'm hammering you with questions now Ickle Magoo but did you seek medical help? That is exactly how I feel, even though I never got diagnosed with any thing.

Ickle Magoo

No apologies, I want to help, that's why I posted.

I went to my GP when I was feeling really weird and detached & she diagnosed me with PND and gave me anti-depressants. I took a few but hated the weird feeling they gave me even more than the woolly feeling so I binned them.

I improved my diet, forced myself to get out and about more, forced myself to go buy clothes, get my hair done, meet friends and eventually it lifted - and now I feel super-emotional but I'm not sure if I've actually become more emotional or if the lack of feeling any emotion for so long just makes it seem that way. :)

happydayz8

You are a very good! You put my feelings into words. I recon I'll go to the GP tomorrow and see what she says. And if I don't like that maybe we should put together a help group for Anonymous Emotionaholycs – what do you think. And thanks for your help! Have you never thought of getting a second opinion?

shellyboo

Happydayz, you said it's just since you've been in a relationship you've been feeling this way - did you go on the pill when you got with your new partner? Just asking because I had years of depression, mood swings and over-emotional behaviour when I was using hormonal contraception - it wasn't until I came off for a while, then went back on, that I realised how utterly it affected my personality.

Just a wild stab in the dark!

Bonito

Happydayz maybe you don't have any imbalances here and a reason why you find yourself more touchy and emotional to sensitive subjects is because you're happy and feel safe and in your relationship you know you have your partner there to comfort and protect you. That's just a guess on my behalf but if you didn't suffer PND or anything like that and you're only problem now is being too cuddly then I wouldn't worry too much If you're concerned pop over to your GP.

Also agree with shellyboo. Sometimes the pill, bar, coil can play havoc with your emotions and throw you all over the place between really mellow to balling your eyes out 3-4 times a day. Wouldn't hurt to visit your GP

happydayz8

just rang my GP and I've booked an appointment for today. I stopped the pill because my cycle was all over the place, so maybe that has an influence. Also Bonito you are making a very good point, maybe I'm just allowing these feelings now. Lets see what my doctor says as I find it is taking over my life a little. Feel better now tho as I'm doing something pro active

Bonito

It's always a possibility Just try not to cry when the doctor tells you there's nothing wrong other than you're turning into a big cuddly teady bear

All the best Op and hopefully your GP can help you out

happydayz8

ok, GP thinks it is a strange one. After a long discussion she put me on a pill called Mercilon as I wanted to use oral contraception again any way. She said it may help. As I'm also going to stop smoking - Champix - she wants to see me in 6 weeks to see how I'm getting on. In the mean time she told me to keep talking about my feelings to my partner and see if that helps.

So now I'll have a look if there is a support thread on Champix on here - Doctor said that is really important when quitting smoking. So, thanks to all of you for your kind words and help!!!x

Bonito

Good to hear Op Even better news mercilon have a whole site dedicated to their product and explaining why it will work for you and what it does etc

http://www.mercilon.net/main.html

Also there's a quitting smoking forum on here and I'd say they'd be delighted to get a newbie over there

Ickle Magoo

happydayz8 wrote: »

You are a very good! You put my feelings into words. I recon I'll go to the GP tomorrow and see what she says. And if I don't like that maybe we should put together a help group for Anonymous Emotionaholycs – what do you think. And thanks for your help! Have you never thought of getting a second opinion?

Emotionaholycs sound good.

Glad you got the GP, hope you get to the bottom of things.

2nd opinion? Nah, I'm out the other side of it now, thank goodness. I was chatting to the girls today about feeling more sensitive or tears being closer to the surface since having a child and three out of five felt the same, so perhaps pregnancy/motherhood does change something in some women? Good to know we're not alone, anyway! :pac: