Calling all Bankers who hate their job????

pink27

Im working in a bank and Im unhappy in the job, unhappy being an understatement. Im so stressed out not just midly but severly stressed out. Ive worked there for last 3 years. Everyday I have to content with horrible cranky customers that seem to do nothing but complain. I understand money is money but Im really getting depressed about it. And Those Exams we have to do before 2011, I havent passed one, not for lack of trying. I love the staff I work with and have made really good friends but Im miserable. Its gone to the point where its affecting my relationship with the partner and its just not fair on him.
I really really wana leave and have tried but its hard with the whole recession. At this stage, i would rather be on the dole. I could go on about it but that is the bones of it.
Do ANYONE ELSE FEEL THE SAME OUT THERE??

dan_d

YES!!!!
I'm not a banker but oh my God yes. There's been tears, depression, moaning, and absolute hatred of where I work on my part. I feel backed into a corner with no way out, and I swear to God if I hear one more time "but you're so lucky to have a job".......50+ hour weeks under unbelievable pressure and stress, so much so that I 'm beginning to feel it's affecting my mental health and it's definitely affecting my relationship not to mention the fact that I have no life......what the f"&k is "lucky" about that??? When do you draw the line and say enough is enough??
Okay so I'm seriously ranting here, but it's a Sunday night and I'm already worked up over having to go in tomorrow morning.
It's not good.:(

pog it

Are either of you due holiday time off work? I would book the dates asap, take as soon as you can, if even a week, and it will give you opportunity to take a step back, perhaps consider career/job alternatives, look at courses/apply for other jobs you like.. relax and go back to work after the week off with options and alternatives working behind the scenes and something to keep your mind off the job you hate.

Definitely no job is worth putting your mental health and relationships at risk.. so if you are proactive about changing things that itself will help so much.

dan_d

Thanks pog it....I'm doing my absolute best but it's not easy. I'm hoping so much that I'll find something with less hours and less pressure - but as you know it's not easy right now.

chris85

maybe keep an eye out for positions within the bank. Also unless you are contracted for 50+ hours a week i would not be doing them. They legally can't ask you to work over 48 hours.

http://www.citizensinformation.ie/categories/employment/employment-rights-and-conditions/hours-of-work/working_week

dh0661

chris85 wrote: »

maybe keep an eye out for positions within the bank. Also unless you are contracted for 50+ hours a week i would not be doing them.

Read post #2 again - dan_d stated he was not a banker.

OP I am not a banker either, I do understand your frustration with horrible cranky customers

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but without customers (of any sort these days) there's no job - end of story.

chris85

dh0661 wrote: »

Read post #2 again - dan_d stated he was not a banker.

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People are picky today. I take it you get the basis of my point.

jpm4

I hear ya. I work in the headquarters of a well known bank, and even though am not on the frontlines it's still pretty grim. I've been there 2 1/2 years now - just long enough to miss the times of pay rises and credit cards behind the bar all night and just in time to help clean up the mess. It's embarrasessing to admit I work for this place to be honest, but like many people I don't have many other options.

Am getting through this time by concentrating on other things besides work in my life.

Priapus

dan_d wrote: »

I swear to God if I hear one more time "but you're so lucky to have a job"......

Haha - I have to agree. I HATE hearing this!!!

Yeah it is not a great time to be working in a bank. Its a career that is open to all kinds of abuse these days. And the stress of whats going to happen next makes for a tense atmosphere sometimes.

Martian Martin

Just leave - life is too short and too fantastic to be ruined by one aspect of your life (work) One aspect that YOU have the control over to change.

jimoc

I used to get very stressed over work until I learned two great things.

1. People don't hate YOU, they hate the institution that you work for so don't let anything that they say affect you personally.

2. Smile. Yes, I know its stupid, but it actually does work. If you smile even when you are pissed off it will eventually effect you and those around you and make things just seem brighter.

3. When you walk out the door to go home leave all the crap in a heap by the door and pick it up the day after. Never take it home, emotionally I mean.
When you get home, hug and kiss your partner and if they want to know about your day only tell them the positives. It makes for a much nicer relationship if you are not constantly bitching at them over something they have no control or input into.

Raiser

OP definitely take some time off if you can - best of luck with everything

- Not completely related but thought of this on reading the thread

From Seinfeld - The Ticket, Newman is due in Court and needs an ingenious excuse - The fact that Kramer never got to be....A Banker.

Seinfeld - The Ticket wrote:

Kramer: I never had an air conditioner.

Newman: No! That's no reason to kill yourself!

Kramer: Why? It gets hot at night, you can't sleep. You ever tried to sleep in a really hot room?

Newman: Every night I sleep in a really hot room, I don't want to kill myself.

Kramer: Well, I slept in really hot rooms and I wanted to kill myself.

Newman: No, no, no. That's not gonna work. Something else.

Kramer: I was never able to become a banker.

[Newman has a revelation.]

Newman: Banker! So you're killing yourself because your dreams of becoming a banker have gone unfulfilled. You-you-you-you can't live without being a banker.

Kramer: Yeah, yeah. If I can't be banker, I don't wanna live.

Newman: You must be banker.

Kramer: MUST be banker.

Newman (satisfied): Okay, we'll go with the banker story.

Seinfeld - The Ticket wrote:

[Courtroom]

Newman: I had gone up to Westchester. I go there every Tuesday. I do charity for the blind in my spare time for the Lighthouse. I was in the middle of a game of Parcheesi with an old blind man and I excused myself to call my friend as he was very depressed lately because he never became a banker.

Judge: I don't understand.

Newman: You see, it'd been his lifelong dream to be a banker and he uh, just the day before he was turned down by another bank. I believe it was the Manufacturer's Hanover on Lexington and 40th Street. That was the third bank to turn him down so I was-I was a little concerned. I wanted to see how he was doing. Well, Your Honor, he was barely audible. But I distinctly recall him say...

Kramer (interupts involuntarily): Yo-yo Ma!

Newman: So I sped home to save my friend's life and I was stopped for speeding. Yes, I admit I was speeding but it was to save a man's life. A close friend. An innocent person who wanted nothing more out of life than to love, to be loved and to be a banker.

Judge: So then he didn't kill himself.

Newman: No sir. He did not. But only by thge grace of God. He's in the courtroom today

[Stands up, points to Kramer.]

(dramatically) sitting right over there! And he can corroborate my entire testimony.