Trophy Girlfriend???

LegacyUser

Hi guys...

I'm with my boyfriend for a few months, and from the start I've gotten the feeling that I'm not much more than a trophy GF to him.

I mean, he is very into OTT public displays of affection. He seems to love showing me off to his mates and is always all over me in their company, and in anyones company really. When I stay over at his, he tends to want his mates that he lives with to know for sure we've been "doing it!". He also gets jealous if another guy talks to me and tends to ask a lot about my male friends and my ex's.
I'm starting to find it all a bit juvenile to be honest.

He's a beautiful guy and I'm so mad about him, but this is doing my head in.

Is this a sign of a big insecurity on his part? I've never had to deal with this kind of thing before and don't know how to take it really.

Have any of you been in this situation, or can anyone give me any advice?

I have asked him to tone it down when we are in public, saying that other people don't want to be seeing people all over each other in public, but he comes back with comments like "oh they don't mind, they are just seeing how happy we are", etc.

Thanks for reading!

Katjia202

Katjia202 wrote: »

Hi guys...

I'm with my boyfriend for a few months, and from the start I've gotten the feeling that I'm not much more than a trophy GF to him.

I mean, he is very into OTT public displays of affection. He seems to love showing me off to his mates and is always all over me in their company, and in anyones company really. When I stay over at his, he tends to want his mates that he lives with to know for sure we've been "doing it!". He also gets jealous if another guy talks to me and tends to ask a lot about my male friends and my ex's.
I'm starting to find it all a bit juvenile to be honest.

He's a beautiful guy and I'm so mad about him, but this is doing my head in.

Is this a sign of a big insecurity on his part? I've never had to deal with this kind of thing before and don't know how to take it really.

Have any of you been in this situation, or can anyone give me any advice?

I have asked him to tone it down when we are in public, saying that other people don't want to be seeing people all over each other in public, but he comes back with comments like "oh they don't mind, they are just seeing how happy we are", etc.

Thanks for reading!

i wouldn't so much mind the public displays of affection on their own but giving your friends indications that your 'doing it' is childish and bang out of order. its not dumpable but it needs to be nipped in the bud right now. a relationship needs privacy. im sure even some of his maturer mates think 'way too much information'. i think amounts of affection in public should be shown within reason. some are more affectionate then others in public, fair enough, but there is a line. holding hands and the odd kiss is fine but if its gets ott then time to talk, maybe thats just me.

i remember having a conversation with a guy in college some years back and his girlfriend walks up and literally starts eating the face off him. i felt like i was watching foreplay of a porno in the flesh.

prinz

Katjia202 wrote: »

Is this a sign of a big insecurity on his part?

70% immaturity, 30% insecurity. I don't think people like that will learn the easy way.

Curry Addict

i guess you are finding this very unattractive behavior. u probably need to tell him but do it very gently, give him lots of reassurance and hope he has the prescence of mind to take it and work on it.

Emme

How old is this guy - 13?

LegacyUser

A friend of mine had a similar situation, she really did feel like he treated her like a trophy girl friend. She found it frustrating. Couldn't connect with him. She didn't really tackle the issue so as a result She ended up feeling used. She used the phrase, treated like an object

I'd confront him about it

Sleepy

Sounds like the lad can't believe his luck at having a girlfriend tbh...