The waiting game

LegacyUser

Like the cliche goes when I definitely wasn't looking - may have found him.

Was out and despite protesting otherwise got sudeblinded by a great guy. Chatting a lot dancing etc got on great, goodnight kiss and he asked for my number.

Haven't heard from since hate this waiting part. If he has any notion of getting in touch how long should I give him and wait in hope? Do boys still go by the 8pm Wednesday dumb rule?

Snabe

when did you meet him?

this is pretty straightforward - in my experience, if the guy likes you, he'll contact you pretty swiftly, next day or whatever.

Colonel_McCoy

Myself and friends follow the 2 to 3 day rule! Stupid I know!

Wibbs

Hatethspart wrote: »

Do boys still go by the 8pm Wednesday dumb rule?

Yep boys sometimes do.... I'd tend to agree with Snabe as I woud be the same and Id say the same of mates. That said depending on circumstances or even next day shyness that may vary.

LegacyUser

OP - going through something similar in that met a fantastic guy who I thought I'd really clicked with. He asked for my number and never heard a peep.

Guys why ask for our number if you have NO intention of calling?? Is it to be polite? Or is it to keep options open? I don't get it!!

Barracudaincork

Boys will follow some stupid rule.

Men will call you if they fancy you.

pennylane22

Metooop wrote: »

Guys why ask for our number if you have NO intention of calling?? Is it to be polite? Or is it to keep options open? I don't get it!!

In fairness at the time he may have been planning to contact her but the next day when he wakes up hungover he may be feeling a different about it. Its no reflection on you its just he may not be interested in anything more than a one night stand and feels you may be the kind of girl who wants something steadier. If I am in a situation like this I always take the guys number and I don't give him mine, that way I can text him when I am ready and if he texts back thats great and if he doesn't I will just get on with my life.

Barracudaincork

Metooop wrote: »

Guys why ask for our number if you have NO intention of calling?? Is it to be polite? Or is it to keep options open? I don't get it!!

You dont really know if he did or didnt have any intention to call you, dont be so down on yourself and assume he had none! Anything could of happened since eg hit by a bus or maybe he met the OP the following night and likes her more!!, doesnt mean he hadnt intented on calling you, its just the situation changed.

LegacyUser

Upshot is never from the guy. What do you guys reckon about trying to get in touch with him? Or should I just accept that if he was interested he'd have been in touch by now?

Peggypeg

Hey OP,
If I were you I'd contact him if you have his number, if you like him you've nothing to lose. Maybe send him a text and see if he wants to go for a drink. I think most of those "rules" are antiquated and I don't think a sound, mature and sensible guy would follow them anyway.
Best of luck.

Angus Og

Send him a message and say that if he's interested, you're interested; if he's not, tell him you understand.

Maybe he's just scared.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the input - just a little frustrating as we got on so well and got impression he was definitely interested. Suppose better to regret doing something than regret not doing anything . Will let you guys know what happens.

LegacyUser

I have a similar problem too except he was texting me and has now stopped. Last night I called him but got no answer and I wondering if I did something wrong. He did say he was really busy at work but I have been around long enough to know that if a man really likes you he will generally make an effort to send a text saying I am really busy etc. I am just so confused now and I don't want to text saying 'ok I guess we will leave things' because maybe he is busy. To make things worse I am stuck at home bored with no distraction other than a football match I don't want to watch.

Angus Og

If you think it's been too long, then what have you got to lose by telling him how you feel? He might be busy, but then again he might be trying to let you go.

If he doesn't respond, then you may have to forget him.