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Just broke up

  • 30-01-2010 5:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok so my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me today. We broke up before and got back together but this time is final. The reason was because we had a few fights and weren't as close as we once were. I feel kinda hurt and depressed. I also realised without her I don't have too much going on in my life. I'm a quiet person though not shy but I have trouble meeting new people. I have my close friends who I've been friends with for years but I only really see them once every 2 or 3 weeks. I guess I'm not really sure how to make new friends. Seems a bit silly at 25 I know but not sure what to do. Feel a bit lost. Any suggestions on how I might meet new people?


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  • #2
    happydayz8
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 181 ✭✭happydayz8


    It does not sound silly at all. Just go to all work dues. Maybe ask a colleague (any sex) if they'd fancy a drink... just to get out there. You only just broke up after a long relationship. Of course you feel a bit lost but look at it as the opportunity to meet the right girl.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi Happydays. Thank you for your post. I wish I could but I also work with my ex and I'm kinda stuck now. I kinda struggle at work dos too. With being quiet I generally don't get involved in conversations and kinda end up on the outside the majority of the time.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Jesus, its as if you’re talking about me!
    Making new friends is just so hard. In some situations I am the conversation leader in a group at work and I get on well with people in work, however, it’s only in a work setting.

    Once outside work or if a few are heading to the pub it’s as if I can’t related to anyone (bar old friends). I feel like a conversation killer (don’t even talk about work, I could be a bit quirky or something). Id feel embarrassed asking anyone if they wanted to head for a pint or go out at the weekend because everyone else seems to have their own friends or are in relationships, and just because you get on Ok with them, you mightn’t suit their group.

    The obvious (or most suggested thing) thing to join a club but I just doesn’t have the time with working hours.

    I saw as ad on gumtree.ie a while ago in the friends section. It was this guy in a similar situation who wanted to form a group of drinking buddies who he could head out clubbing with, go on the pull etc. Maybe try something like that. See if yaw can get in contact in him or even post your own ad.

    Just be gung ho about it I suppose! I think that’s what its all about.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Cheers pal. Its good to know I'm not the only one that feels like this. I can always make friends with girls but it's different with lads. Its good to have lad friends too which I do but they're not always free (gf's) etc so a few more would be good. I think a club or summit may be the way to go.


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