Guys, do you like being chased?

LegacyUser

Idle query here.

Met a man, had good craic and asked him out for a drink. We met and I thought it went very well. Both said we'd like to meet again and kissed goodnight. Felt very good!

After a few of days of silence, I texted and there have been several exchanges since, all good fun and slightly suggestive.

But no sign of him asking me out.

It feels like he's waiting for me to suggest something. Either that or he's not interested, but then why the hell is he responding as he is? Entertainment?

Do some men just like being chased?

Thought a few times I was being a bit of a fool contacting him but I am interested so decided to give it a shot.

Opinions?

LegacyUser

I never understand these types of threads. Do you like being chased? Do you like having someone like you to the point that they're willing to risk rejection to ask you out? Do you find it flattering and enjoyable. I bet you do. What makes you think a guy would be any less appreciative, in fact they may even be moreso since I think men usually aren't as lucky to have the privilege of being asked out as much as women. I know for myself it's great to know that someone likes you enough to ask you out, even if you don't feel the same about them, but of course it's even better when you do.

Ickle Magoo

I think everyone likes being chased up to a point. Ask him out on a date and get your answer one way or the other. In my experience if someone is absolutely not interested then you'll know pretty sharpish - the very fact there is exchanges and suggestive exchanges at that would infer he is interested.

Is there any reason why he hasn't asked you out? Wife? Gf? Rebound? Etc, etc - be wary but there is no harm in taking the lead if that's what he likes. Best of luck.

RandolphEsq

I love to be chased. That attention a girl who's interested gives me. Aww to play her and let her fall for me is a great buzz.
Of course, if I was to let them give me attention and chase me, I am interested in them. Probably more than they would ever know no matter how it ends up

LegacyUser

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Is there any reason why he hasn't asked you out? Wife? Gf? Rebound? Etc, etc - be wary but there is no harm in taking the lead if that's what he likes. Best of luck.

I'd be wary of this too. I was in contact with a man quite recently, he was hot and cold. Turns out he's just out of a long term relationship. I told him I'd keep in contact if that was alright, he said ok. I didn't keep in contact though because he didn't seem too bothered. He ended up texting me at the weekend, texted him back and haven't heard from him since. I have him labelled as 'doesn't know what he wants', and I'm not going to bother helping him to find out!
Keep asking men out if you feel like, there's no harm in doing it. Just be careful that you don't put yourself out too much. If you don't hear from them, or if it seems that you're doing all the running, leave them. Go out and meet someone else, someone who'll realise that you've put yourself out there and they're willing to meet you half way

LegacyUser

Thanks, people. Ye've said a few things that seem to fit.

A reason he's not available eg wife/girlfriend - he says he's separated, but I've come across 'separated' men before who are still living at home. Haven't had a chance yet to find out if the wife knows she's separated!!

He doesn't seem that bothered - that's it right there. Asked him would he like to meet up this weekend, he said that'd be great. But he texted to put it off and it's back in maybe land.

If we hadn't got on so well, I'd have cut contact before now. But he's the first man I've really fancied in quite a while and I know you can misjudge people at first till you get to know them.

And as for go out and find myself someone better, when you're older with settled friends it's not so easy, and when you do go out the choice ain't there!

Still, he's well on the back burner now. If he makes the effort, I'll meet him again and see what's there, if anything. In the meantime, I'll be out and about.