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  • 29-01-2010 10:18am
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    LegacyUser
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    I’m in an LDR for the past 5 months, when the relationship started he was just out of a marriage and has two young children with his wife.

    I know him from years ago, everything has moved very quickly but we are both very happy and love each other. He tells me on a daily basis how much he loves and wants to be with me and I am planning to move to be with him towards the end of this year. We are very open about everything and can talk about any issues or fears we have and the fear I have I have discussed with him and he has reassured me how much he loves me, how much he wants to be with me, that he will never leave me etc…

    However, my problem is that I can’t get over this fear, which is that I think he is going to break up with me. I don’t really know where it seems from, maybe because most of my relationships have never really lasted past 6 months bar one about 12 years ago which lasted just over a year. I don’t want to keep going over the same thing with him because I know it frustrates him that he can’t prove to me how he feels.

    He gets on with his ex, which is great for the kids and for them as it makes everything easier. They have started divorce proceedings and he has told me that even if we weren’t together he wouldn’t want to get back with his ex. I can be jealous, not overly, but the fact that she sees him more than I do, bugs me.

    When I say an LDR, he lives in the US and I live in Ireland. I meet his family and friends at Christmas so it’s not like he is keeping me secret and his ex knows about me. I suppose it’s my insecurities that are causing this fear, We are in contact every day, text, phone calls, skype, email. You name it we use it. I have no reason to doubt him in any way.

    I suppose my question here is, is there a way that I can get over this insecurity or do I just have to live with it for the moment and trust that in time I will learn to believe in what we have and that it will work.


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