So I got dumped by text....

That_Guy

And this is not the first time. I was extremely in love... and I guess I still am with my now ex girlfriend.

We got on so well together and everything was going great. We were only going out for 3 months but I had known this girl since last March and we were always hanging out together without anything ever happening.

We were having drinks one night and she asked me as to why we weren't going out as we seemed perfect for each other. So we started going out and all the original friendship we shared was still there and everything was great.

I had been longing for this girl for ages and when we started going out we were both over the moon and madly in love with each other.

Tonight I got a text from her saying that she wasn't happy in the relationship and that was that. I rang her and asked her what happened and she said that she still loved me but that I had stronger feelings towards her than she did for me..... Which baffled me as to why she told me she still loved me.

There was no signs that this was about to happen or anything. We had met last week and were happy in each other's company and we were planning to go to Newcastle in March for a weekend.

I've since deleted her number, deleted her from Facebook/Bebo etc and have let the healing process begin but it fcuking hurts.

cheesey1

Hello,

I know how you are feeling, I too was in love and got dumped OK not by text we had been together almost a year and have mutual friends. he didn't have my number but got it from a friend and we text and had a great time fantastic summer went to 3 weddings together all was fabulous and we enjoyed each other company and then out of no where or at least thats what it seemed to me he broke it off without any reason, we were in contact when it was over and I bumped into him last weekend we slept together and everything was fab on Sunday like old times, but then I was back at square one didn't know what was going on, so last night it came to a head and he just said sorry it didn't work out differently - so threw his toothbrush in the bin this morning and asked for my key to be posted back to me as i had given it to him as a token of my affection so to speak and it was obvious he doesn't want it now - so what I am saying is I know how hard it is to get over someone you love and you did the right thing by deleting her number/facebook/bebo - I haven't done that yet, unfortunately know his number by heart but going to try my hardest to not text, just fill you life with people who do genuinely care for you.

littlefriend

Ah you poor thing. My ex text me on Christmas eve a few years ago to break up with me. I was so upset at the time but now I think its almost funny. I did take him back after that which was possibly my biggest mistake ever. I never trusted him again and I should have listened to everyones advice and moved on from him.

Thing is, if somebody cares so little for your feelings that they are willing to text you to finish a relationship then really they aren't worth knowing. Well done deleting numbers etc. Please be strong and stick to this. You'll be fine soon. Be well.

Kicks

That's a really sh*tty thing to get a text like that, least she could have done was call you to be straight about it. You sound like your taking it on the chin and fair play to you for that - I think you're dead right to cut contact, especially in these situations where it was out of the blue for you, a little bit of contact from her can just start messing with your head and you don't need that crap in your life - been there, done that, and it just wastes everyones time.

Keep the chin up, you sound level headed and confident about it - I'm sure it hurts like hell at the minute but keep yourself busy and it'll pass with time.

LegacyUser

For starters - well done on deleating her facebook / bebo / number etc... although i do warn you.. try your best not to cyber stalk to see what they are up to etc.. Everyone does it and it makes it so much bloody harder to get over the person. you prob also know her number even though you deleated it... so please resist ALL urge to contact her on a night out etc.

I agree a really ****ty thing to do via text.. seriously a wise person said to me before.. feel the love from family and friends.. they wont leave you.

I had a similiar situation quite recently all crap via texts and emails from him...when he could have done the decent thing and called me properly or met up with me and explained himself. It leaves you very confused & questioning yourself and at the end of the day nobody deserves that. Not all us girls are afraid to talk on the phone - its simply the mature thing to do.

A guy I was with a while back told me he wasnt sure he wanted to be with me when we were away on holidays in Australia! Now that was pretty low.. considering we had a week left and i had to fly back with him! I was devestated but figured there are so many more decent people out there and I deserve more then that!

You will come around to the same thinking honestly.. In my opinion she should grow up and treat people the way she would like to be treated.

That_Guy wrote: »

And this is not the first time. I was extremely in love... and I guess I still am with my now ex girlfriend.

We got on so well together and everything was going great. We were only going out for 3 months but I had known this girl since last March and we were always hanging out together without anything ever happening.

We were having drinks one night and she asked me as to why we weren't going out as we seemed perfect for each other. So we started going out and all the original friendship we shared was still there and everything was great.

I had been longing for this girl for ages and when we started going out we were both over the moon and madly in love with each other.

Tonight I got a text from her saying that she wasn't happy in the relationship and that was that. I rang her and asked her what happened and she said that she still loved me but that I had stronger feelings towards her than she did for me..... Which baffled me as to why she told me she still loved me.

There was no signs that this was about to happen or anything. We had met last week and were happy in each other's company and we were planning to go to Newcastle in March for a weekend.

I've since deleted her number, deleted her from Facebook/Bebo etc and have let the healing process begin but it fcuking hurts.

That_Guy

Thanks guys for the replies. It's annoying that she couldn't even ring me or say it to my face. I would've been less pissed off if I had gotten a call or met face to face. I would have had a lot of respect for her but all that respect, even though I thought she was a fantastic/lovely person is completely gone now.

It's the lowest of the low and cowardly. Nice to know that all I meant to her was a fcuking text message.

Anyway, I've plenty to be doing with myself. College work, drums and a lot of reading.

I've since thrown out the love letter she wrote me, the card she gave me for Christmas.

I'm much better off without her if that's the way she's gonna act. Childish and immature and extremely cowardly.

Chin up and all that.