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What will I do?

  • 26-01-2010 12:18am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I've known this guy for a while through one of my friends who knew one of his and we became a couple after a few weeks of texting and dating and so on.

    Thursday night he took me out and introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend which I got along great with and he told me afterwards when we went back to his house that they all really liked me and that they were glad he was happy again.

    The story is, his ex-girlfriend had broken up with him a few months back, she was the only girl he'd fallen in love with and she broke his heart.
    I knew all this and I was kind of on edge about it because no-one had affected him like that before, but he had promised me he was over her, we were together now.

    Then suddenly, the ex-girlfriend started texting him out of the blue (after no contact for months) telling him how much she loves him and how stupid she was to let him go and that she wants him back.

    My problem is now he's acting cold towards me, barely contacting me and when he does, he's telling me it's messing him up that she's saying this to him and he doesn't know how he feels anymore.

    I'm scared I'll lose him and he'll go back to her.
    What should I do?
    Am I being really stupid here?


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  • #2
    unattendedbag
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 456 ✭✭unattendedbag


    No your not being stupid at all. You are probably feeling frustrated and confused at him which your well entitled to be.

    Whats your relationship with this guy at the moment? Are you's dating/seing each other? or are still officially on the friends stage? He sounds like he's caught in two mind at the moment. What you need to be asking yourself is how will he react to an ultimatum? In otherwords, is he gonna choose you or his ex? But bear in mind if you go down that road then you might lose as she might have a stronger bond with him. If you do lose then some might say move on and forget, but then again you never know what could have been.

    Honestly If you really want to be with him then try to show him whats on offer. Get close to him, and show him your really interested, and if he's not interested after a week or so then time to start thinking of giving him the ultimatum.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    We're together, he's introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend. I think one of his friends might've told the ex-girlfriend about us and she's purposely doing it to cause problems for us.

    I'm worried what'll happen if I do make him choose.... :'(


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