Girlfriend and I with a little problem!

LegacyUser

Hey folks just wondering if you guys can help me out,

I've been going out with my girl for just over a year, and how to put it, it's been rough but it's clear that we both love each other, maybe more from me but i could be wrong. It started off with a jelous ex trying to feck us up by making up rumours saying that I had contacted her saying i was still in love with her and the likes, which after several months later my girlfriend finally realised and got over that I was truthfull and had nothing to hide.

The thing is she's very insecure with the way I carry on, I used to be good friends with this girl with whom she made me cut the connection for what ever reason, i never asked I loved her, we had problems when I was txting my friends girlfriend about different things nothing big just about clothes etc both me, my friend and his girlfriend thought nothing of it, it was all friendly and nothing bad, but when my girlfriend heard about it she completely flipped out to the end where she wanted to break up with me as she put it " it's like cheating on her ".

It's gotten so bad that I've just gone out with the lads with out telling her and she's been so upset and hysterical that she's made me come home and because I didn't tell her she's kept asking me who i was hooking up with, even though i wasn't even in the place. She's gotten mad when girls who are friends of friends, have added me on facebook.

But here's the kicker she's recently started txting her old fling so to speak recently she's asked me if i've had a problem with it and I've said no that i trust her, but she's made a point in txting him while I'm there and not telling me.

I see this girl every single day, I ring her first thing in the morning and last thing at night and fall asleep with her, but as much as I love everything, it comes to a point where i really really want this relationship to last that i really believe that seeing me everyday for the past year and a bit will actually kill us, like it's not healthy.

She's getting annoyed at every single thing i do at the moment because she has some very stresfull exams coming up and I'm trying to do my best.

I'm not by any stretch of the imagination the worlds best boyfriend nor will i ever claim to be, but am i being unfair for seeking some things here like being able to go out with the lads on my own and having a few drinks without her going mad, or even not seeing her everyday so we can last much longer?

I need help with this what do you think i should do?

allybhoy

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The thing is she's very insecure with the way I carry on, I used to be good friends with this girl with whom she made me cut the connection for what ever reason, i never asked I loved her, we had problems when I was txting my friends girlfriend about different things nothing big just about clothes etc both me, my friend and his girlfriend thought nothing of it, it was all friendly and nothing bad, but when my girlfriend heard about it she completely flipped out to the end where she wanted to break up with me as she put it " it's like cheating on her ".

It's gotten so bad that I've just gone out with the lads with out telling her and she's been so upset and hysterical that she's made me come home and because I didn't tell her she's kept asking me who i was hooking up with, even though i wasn't even in the place. She's gotten mad when girls who are friends of friends, have added me on facebook.

But here's the kicker she's recently started txting her old fling so to speak recently she's asked me if i've had a problem with it and I've said no that i trust her, but she's made a point in txting him while I'm there and not telling me.

I see this girl every single day, I ring her first thing in the morning and last thing at night and fall asleep with her, but as much as I love everything, it comes to a point where i really really want this relationship to last that i really believe that seeing me everyday for the past year and a bit will actually kill us, like it's not healthy.

She's getting annoyed at every single thing i do at the moment because she has some very stresfull exams coming up and I'm trying to do my best.

I'm not by any stretch of the imagination the worlds best boyfriend nor will i ever claim to be, but am i being unfair for seeking some things here like being able to go out with the lads on my own and having a few drinks without her going mad, or even not seeing her everyday so we can last much longer?

I need help with this what do you think i should do?

Hmm sounds like there are some underlying trust issues and double standards there alright.

So let me get this right... Your GF clearly wasnt happy when she thought you where texting your friends GF even though your friend and his GF have no issue with it, however she thinks its perfectly acceptable for her to txt her ex? Sorry but that just doesnt wash with me. Have you never thought of raising this issue with her and asking why is it acceptable for her to txt her ex yet you cant even have any female friends or meet your male friends for a drink?

She sounds either extremely insecure\possesive\immature or else perhaps there is a chance (ive seen this before) that she is cheating on you with her ex and is acting this way because she knows you shouldnt trust her and therefore she shouldnt trust you. I think you need to sit down and have a calm and honest talk about your future with her as things cant keep going the way they are, your friends will loose touch (and possibly respect) with you if she keeps acting the way she is.

Personally I wouldnt be happy with my OH to be texting her ex, nor she would be with me, but maybe thats just us. I also wouldnt be with anyone who didnt trust me 100% or let me out of their sights long enough to meet my mates for a pint or a lads night out.....maybe you should start thinking likewise.