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Feel pathetic that I cant get over a girl

  • 25-01-2010 12:33am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Maybe I just want to get this off my chest, because I know what the right thing to do is, but I still feel like ****.

    I was seeing this girl for 2 or 3 months on and off about a year ago. It wasnt very serious, but I fell for her in a big way. Shes a nice girl, didnt want to lead me on, so she ended things before they got serious.

    We had a lot of mutual friends and she wanted to stay friends so we did. About 6 months down the line though I tried to get things going again. Not sure why I thought anything had changed - it hadnt!

    After that she didnt try and stay friends. I didnt make much effort either. So another 6 months has passed where I havent even seen her; but I still cant get over her.

    Ive had my fair share of girls, relationships (proper ones, this one wouldnt count) and rejections; as any 24 year old has. So why cant I get over this girl!

    One of my friends asked me just before Christmas how Id feel if he went out with her. I said it wasnt a big deal; nothing ever happened between us and a year has passed at any rate.

    I didnt want to admit to him that I still like her because I feel so pathetic. I made my move, twice, and need to get over it.

    I cant explain why Im even writing this, I suppose its just that I dont feel like I can say any of this to my friends. If one of them told me they were still cut up over a girl they dated for a month over a year ago I'd tell them they seriously need to suck it up.


Comments

  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Sometimes we never got over certain people and certain relationship.
    We do learn to keep living and move on. What you feel may never go away, but that doesn't mean you won't in time come to have feelings for someone else.


  • #3
    TheGreenGiant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 300 ✭✭TheGreenGiant


    Completely empathize with you there. I am having the same difficulty as you. I met this girl at a friends bbq over the summer. Started txting after and things were said that made me feel really wanted by this person. But then college started and she stopped txting me as frequently as she did. I have only met up with her twice since then, but there was always a good vibe between us. I never got an answer from her and probably never will, which in a way really leaves you hanging, but she knew well how I felt about her. I really fell for this girl because for me she was so different than anyone else I have ever met. I always think about her, not in a posessive way or anything, but sometimes a thought would run through your mind like, I wonder what shes doing, or is she thinking about me, which I know probably isn't the case. lol But when you meet somone you instantly fall for, its very hard to just simply forget the person.

    But as a best friend said to me, you got to move on, its her loss in the end. She got her chances. But as we all know, its easeir said than done! But he's bang on, there are plenty more fish in the sea, its all about catching the right one for you :)


  • #4
    missedlove
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭missedlove


    Suck it Up, I know how you feel!!

    I am in love with someone who I guess he just used me for sex.

    I want closure so bad. I just want to know the truth and how he really

    felt about me... if it was just sex. fine. whatever. I just want to know so

    badly. I wish you the best!


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