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Slept with good friend

  • 24-01-2010 8:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Me and a good friend got very drunk and slept together.I work with him.We both agreed it was a one off.Can things ever go back to normal?everytime I look at him I feel upset,ashamed and mortified.I had no romantic feelings for him prior to this and I dont want a relationship with him now.We are both very awkward around each other and others are beginning to notice this.


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  • #2
    thefeatheredcat
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    There's no reason to feel ashamed and mortified about it, lots of people including myself have done the same thing. It happens. Maybe you're just realising that a one night stand isn't what you want or that you don't like casual sex. And it's always that bit weird after sleeping with your friend anyway.

    If both of you don't have romantic feelings for eachother then you can salvage your friendship but you need to talk to eachother before it gets beyond awkward.

    If you value your friendship then make the effort just to check that things are ok with both of you and talk it out and just be glad that it was a one nighter with a friend you know and trust and not a stranger you've just met.

    From personal experience if there's no romantic feelings on either side and a strong friendship exists, you're within a chance of smooth sailing. If there's romantic feelings on one side then it's going to make things very difficult. But in any case I would advice not to let it happen again as you run the risk of losing the friendship and just becoming sex buddies and then everytime you meet it turns out to be for that reason.

    Value yourself and the friendship and find yourself someone who you can have a meaningful relationship with to be intimate with.

    And if you end up falling out or you find distance in your friendship, don't beat yourself up, that happens. Chalk it up to experience and learn from it.


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