Cheating?

LegacyUser

Been with my BF for 2 years, been living together for 1. We're both in our late 20's and have had our fair share of ups and downs as a couple in the last year. Most of this down to my insecurities, I became quite paranoid about things during the year. Not sure why as I'm not usually that type of person but I had been putting myself under severe pressure with work. Anyway, this made my BF feel smothered and he knows I was snooping behind his back. I know that he kissed a girl on a lads night out a while back but it was after we were going through our rocky patch so I forgave him.

The other night we were in bed and my BF started coming onto me and woke me up. He was half asleep too. This happens at times and usually we end up waking up and having great sex but not this night!! He started talking to me, saying things like how much he'dbeen waiting this and then he started tracing a line on my stomach and talking about "my scar". I don't have a scar. Anyway, I rolled away and when he sat up and opened his eyes he looked surprised to see me. Then he just put his arm around me.

Now I'm freaked that he may have slept with this girl, and even worse he wants to do it again!! I know that you don't have much control over what you dream about but I'm still freaked none the less. I haven't said anything to him about it as because of how paranoid I was last year, I'm afraid that I may be putting two and two together and coming up with five!! Any thoughts?

Kicks

Before going all out accusing him of sleeping with someone I think you should try just asking him what he was dreaming about - I don't see that as being insecure but pretty normal to ask. If he yelled out "No!! Don't do it!!" do you not think you'd ask him what he was dreaming? This should be no different. Ask specifically about the "scar" comment, it may be innocent but you should take in his reaction and take things from there.

whatsamsn

Well,
since he was half asleep you have to accept the possibilty he was dreaming.

You did say you have panonoid tendencies as people will bring up in later posts im sure.


I know what you're obviously thinking "he was dreaming about another girl, or half awake and he got confused". This alone is not enough to suggest he cheated on you. if this was combined with more, who knows. But fact is its not enough.

Dont let it get to you. Just look past it.
if you want piece of mind ask him what it was about? but dont come off as paronoid and then see what he says.

kittenkiller

Ask him straight about it.
No one on the internet knows whether or not he cheated.
Only him.

Sorry, good luck.

Annie Bananie

My bf talks in his sleep all the time and says the most weird things. You can ask him about it, but that is nowhere any proof for him cheating.