Awkward!!!

LegacyUser

Really stumped so advice welcome.

Work for very large company. Had eye on one of the guys there for a while but who is in different unit so no interaction. We were at a work thing - free bar - place rented out etc so typical antics were going on. We were dancing etc all night, ended up leaving and going on somewhere else at the end of the night...small group of us but spent most of the night with the boy. After a lot of shots etc the inevitable happened back in his place. We made a few jokes about it bumping into each at work but said it needn't be as on different floors and we're both out on client sites a lot.

We haven't spoken or made contact since. What should I do? Send him an internal message or wait to bump into him. I think the longer we leave it the more awkward it will be...but don't want to put myself out there on a plate (ironic given what happened - I get that)chasing him as would feel silly rejected etc We only knew each other in passing before this. One or two mutual acquantices etc.

Yes I do like him but have no idea what if anything may happen but the longer w eleave things...less likely etc etc

Any advice? (I get it was silly impulsiveness but hey these things happen)

kenbrady

You like this guy and you have already slept with him. Now you are afraid to even send him an email for fear of rejection. He either rejects you or not.
Go up to his department and ask him to have a coffee during break.

LegacyUser

Sort of get impression nothing may happen. Got on really well; hung out a while next morning and all fine but he made a comment that we were both adults so no need for things to be weird. That didn't seem like he was dying to see me again. I already feel very foolish for sleeping with him so don't want to feel worse if he has no interest in taking things further.

Miss Fluff

Twinklestarlitl wrote: »

Sort of get impression nothing may happen. Got on really well; hung out a while next morning and all fine but he made a comment that we were both adults so no need for things to be weird. That didn't seem like he was dying to see me again. I already feel very foolish for sleeping with him so don't want to feel worse if he has no interest in taking things further.

Tbh I'd be of the opinion that he knows where to find you if he is interested. If you bump into him flirt with him and give him encouraging signals etc but I'd let him make the next move.

LegacyUser

Let me get this straight. You like him, things happened so he was obviously well on for it too. He might be thinking the exact same thing such as he likes you too, so just sound him out. You'll soon know what vibe he's giving out. Suggest a drink/coffee. Nothing to lose at this stage. If he knocks you back at least you'll know instead of beating yourself up! These things aren't necessarily easier for the guy.

unattendedbag

Twinklestarlitl wrote: »

Got on really well; hung out a while next morning and all fine but he made a comment that we were both adults so no need for things to be weird.

Yet here you are saying things feel awkward. This is not just a case of fancying someone at work. You alrady have contact and a connection with him so you are well entitled to ask him if things will go any further. Just ask him if he fancies a meet up some night. He will make it clear there and then if he wants to or not.

Barracudaincork

Twinklestarlitl wrote: »

he made a comment that we were both adults so no need for things to be weird. .

IMO he isnt interested in you, based on what he said here. If he was interested he wouldnt think it was weird as he would be seeing someone he fancies again, however if he isnt interested and you guys have slept together then it will be weird, he is basically saying I hope you are adult enough to deal with the fact this is a one off. Sorry if that bursts your bubble, im just being honest based on my opinion.