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not sure what to be thinking

  • 18-01-2010 2:40pm
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 182 ✭✭


    the ususal story relationship broke down, over nothing in particular we have been in contact the last while by text and at the weekend send a few on Friday and got replies, asked if he missed me at all and got an answer of course we have been together a while and we had great times out, great chats, good company and great sex, then when I was off to bed said night and then a few hours later got one saying night as well then on Saturday texting again for a while in the morning, he was going out to watch the rugby and get some stuff for his new apartment and again last night we were texting for a while, where he told me he was off to the cinema this week and I said I was too and was he going on a date - know I had no right to ask but he said no going on his own. I then said a few hours later that I was sorry for asking it was really none of my business and good night. he replied saying it was fine it was just general conversation and that he was going to bed soon. About hour later got a text saying night. Now I don't know where this is going, I still pine for him and miss him a lot and I think sometimes by his messages he misses me too and there was no big reason we split up neither of us went off with anyone else or kissed anyone else or in general were spiteful to each other. Sometimes I think maybe he thinks we were getting stuck in a rut and just not doing much we use to when we first dated but then we were just watching TV going to the movies maybe going out sometimes but not that much. We are suppose to be meeting this weekend to get my key back and I was wondering what you might think would it be worth saying something to him and what kinda things can we do to get out of a rut, he has just moved and I had been looking forward to going to see him for a change and doing stuff where he now lives. would be grateful for any advice.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 195 ✭✭thinks too much


    I think the first thing you need to ask yourself is if you still love him and if so do you think getting back with him is what you really want. I and my now wife broke up when younger. It was because things became stale and mundane. Like yourself close contact remained and then I suggested we try again. She said ok and we started to do things again just like when we first went out and it was great.The simple things really, walks lots of chats about the most stupid subjects , and slowly the relationship blossomed even further. eventually we get married and 10 years later we are still happy. I think if both of you really want it to happen it will. and so not be afraid to tell him how you are feeling. No point wondering later if you should have said something as Life is way too short to have regrets. I really wish you the beat and hopr things work out for you one way or the other.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 182 ✭✭cheesey1


    when we first broke up it was kinda weird as in he spent the night with me and then we texted a few times and then on the Sunday morning he told me that he believe it or not he missed me and just realised the consequence of his decision. I left it for the day and texted him that night and asked him could we not give it another try and just communicate more but he said we would only start to aggitate each other in a few weeks. So its like we texted at the start of our relationship, we met each other and texted for about two weeks before we went out on a date so it kinda broke the ice as we had been texting about stuff. One part of me says bite the bullet and just ask him this weekend and another part of me is afraid of what he might say.


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