How to let her go?

LegacyUser

Regular poster anseo.

I broke up with my gf of 7 months there last week. In my early 20's, first "serious" relationship I guess. She is just shy of 20.

Quick background info. Not your typical romance. She added me on fb randomly. We chatted and skyped constantly, etc.... Then I lumped on a flight out(6000 miles!!) after a couple of months to see if there was anything there. Which there was. We had a great(read sensational) time together for the couple of weeks that I was there before returning home. We stayed together for like 6 months then without seeing each other. Back to the whole online romance. Skype, msn and emails.

In the last few weeks I was getting apprehensive. More so to do with long term prospects, distance + separation, petty arguments, lives going in slightly directions and the usual melodrama.

I made it clear in my mind that it was best to break up. I have feelings for this girl, no doubt but I don't think it is enduring so to speak. So I handed in my notice and gave my reasoning after much thought and consideration.

So I feel better all round if a little sad still. More so for her and being guilty for hurting her as she was so good to me. She Deleted me off facebook, said she was not speaking to me again and goodbye and not to talk to her.

I obviously wanted to keep some sort of contact as I am not type of person to write off an important section of my life as if I was pulling chapters from a book for $hits and giggles. So today almost a week later. She unblocks me from msn, asks to do a video call on skype. Tells me she is looking at our photos all the time, thinking of our time together, asking me questions and the rest. Saying that she knows how things are but that she loves me and that I should know. Making the usual general chit chat as if we were still together.

One thing I will say is that I was genuinely happy to see her and that she seemed to be in good spirit. However, am I right in thinking that I should be giving her as much distance as possible? I mean for both of us. Is it not mutually beneficial? Am I giving her false hope and mixed messages by being friendly and playing happy/goofy with her?

I feel I am almost ready to move on and consider other women. Maybe not from a serious relationship perspective just yet

What's the best thing to do here as I am more than perturbed?

LegacyUser

if this girl lives 60000 miles away, of course it will be difficult to keep up the relationship. If you really do not want to be with this girl then you have to break contact with her. If ye are still in contact then it will be harder to get over each other. Think about what you want - and then decide again. It sounds to me you still love her and her you. Do you think you can keep up with the long distance thing? If not -then break contact. If you can - then maybe in the future ye might move closer together.