Ex-friendship advice please

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Going unreg for this one for personal reasons.

I would love some advice on the following situation . . .

Me and this girl have known each other since we were three, really close friends for the bones of twenty years.

Unfortunately our friendship doesn't work anymore. We've had our ups and downs the last few years but now for my sanity I've decided not to get friendly with her again. (Our friendship has been going in circles for a long time with periods of not seeing each other and periods of being very close)

There are many reasons why I think the bad outweighs the good at this stage, was very angry with her for a while but have realised that this is doing me no good. I recently read a comment: anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It made me snap out of wasting my time thinking angry thoughts.

The issue is this: I live near and am friendly with her family, they often ask me about her and I don't know how to say we're not close anymore without a. making them feel uncomfortable and b. getting into the reasons why we're not close anymore.

The other similar issue is that we have a lot of mutual friends, we moved away together when we were 18 and became part of a lovely group of people who we're both still close to.

I have a Facebook profile, the people I've added as friends are all my friends, ie no randomers. She took me off her friends list, a fact that is very noticeable to our mutual friends. Bear in mind that she hasn't spoken to me since she did this. We've had no major falling out but to be honest I'm tired of pandering to her mood swings so I didn't bother enquiring as to why she did this.

It's not the fact that she removed me, it's just such a public thing to do, I've had people asking me why etc and I don't really know how to answer them without sounding like a beeyotch. So far I've just subtly changed the subject.

I'm going to meet a lot of my friends this weekend and I'm a bit stressed out cos I don't know how to answer the inevitable questions.

Any advice or similar stories will be much appreciated

humanji

Just leave her be. There's little else you can do. With regards her family, just tell them you haven't spoken to her in a while and leave it at that.

You can pretty much tell that to your friends too. If they pry, tell them the truth, ie that you don't know why she's acting that way.

The Recliner

Faithless next time you post make sure it has something useful in it for the OP or you might not be posting here for a while