problem with flatmates girlfriend

kafukled

Hi
Not a major issue, but being young enough I thought I'd seek some advice on it.

Im currently sharing a two bedroomed flat. I get on well enough with my flat mate hes a nice and guy and believe or not I dont mind his girlfriend all that much.

His girlfriend is sharing a flat with my friend. Its not a great flat the heating is crap and the shower is freezing. They moved in recently enough just before christmas.
The flatmates girlfriend has been staying over alot lately, this I dont mind too much either and its understandable given the state of their flat.
I've been letting my friend sleep on our couch the odd night as well so she can have some heat and a warm shower while their waiting to get their flat sorted. Shes apologetic about it and very grateful.

Now the issue. My friend was kinda pressured into moving into that flat with the girlfriend, shes a shy girl and was already under pressure at the time with exams etc
Now the girlfriend is having money problems.
She didnt pay any electric or gas into the meters in their flat for the last week and they seem to be using alot of gas.(i suspect the boilers ****ed + its a really hard place to heat up)
My friend had no problem paying these as she thought the other girl would pay her half. She spent about 50 odd quid in one week:eek:
Tonight she said to my friend "I cant afford to pay the heating or electric so now you can leave them on as long as you like"
The wording is very iffy. Thats the exact phrase she used, like she was now doing my friend a favour.
My friend was never happy in that flat anyway she was pressured into living there and now has to heat the place on her own.
I feel shes been taken advantage of because of her shy non-confrontational nature. Especially considering when she moved in there they were in agreement that they would split the heating costs. The girlfriend might think this is ok simply because she doesnt spend that much time there.
My friend said fine, even though shes not happy with it:rolleyes:
I've talked to my friend about it and she is going to say something.

Now it seems to me that the inevitable turn of events here is

1. My friend decides to move out of her flat and go somewhere else because she cant afford to heat it on her own
2. Flatmates girlfriend unable to afford to go anywhere else moves in here.

Now I know my friend also agreed to live there, but the heating this just wrong.

I would have no problem with my flatmate's GF living here but one thing worries me. I've seen how she is with money etc and how she has treated my friend.
Would I be mad to allow her in here?
I just think that with three people living here, our electricity bill will rise. I've already budgeted it all out so I can afford to keep my car and go on the odd night out with the current expenditure. Not so if I have to pay for her stuff too.
If she moves in here, would it be obtuse to ask that she pays some electricity?? I know she cant afford it, but as far as I'm concerned this means she simply cant afford to live anywhere and needs to go home.

Im beginning to think shes actually a bit of a leech tbh
That her staying over here more and more is just a weird way of getting out of paying the bills. Then when she is properly settled it still wont be official and I wont say anything. I'm not even sure if she really is as broke as she says. I dont want to have to get involved in weird mind games and **** with this girl but I'm not happy with how she has treated my friend.
Essentialy I think she picked up on someone with a very nice nature and pressured her into doing what she didn't want to do, I mean holy ****.
The girl was in an obvious state because of exams etc and yet she wouldnt just leave her alone. She kept on about it to her constantly.
And then when she decided she wasnt going to pay the bills, worded it in a way so it sounded like she was being the nice one.
I know my friend has been a bit spineless but do I want a manipulative person in my home?
Theres not much I can do about her moving in here to be honest, we split the rent in the flat and if shes sleeping in my flatmates room theres not much I can do. We will end up spending more on electricity though. So would it be wrong to ask that either her or my flatmate stump up a bit more??

This has been a weird post, kind of a cross between a rant and asking for advice. But any opinions welcome.
I'm probably just being an asshole as usual though, I wish I wasn't one:(
But thats a different thread:pac:
Thanks

mud

If she moves in the rent should be split in three as should the bills. This needs to be laid out at the start.

Not much you can do for your friend, she is letting herself be controlled by this girl She should move out.

I've been in a situation where other people had to mind me for a while, I did a lot of house-work and cooking while the situation was occurring, when I got back on my feet I repaid the kindness by paying an esb and a gas bill and treated everyone in the house to beers and takeaway.

This is how you treat your friends, not by announcing you can't pay for something as basic as esb/gas and expecting it all to be ok.

drusk

If she moves in, or it even looks like her current situation becomes permanent, you need to muster up some courage, sit them down and tell the couple that everything should be split three ways. Otherwise, you're being taken for a ride and should move out.

Why not move into a different apt with your shy friend?

House-sharing with a couple is bad in my experience, in so many ways. If i were you I'd get out of there.