girl asking guy out?

LegacyUser

Hey folks...
long time reader, first time poster here! I'm a girl in her late twenties (28), looking for some advice on how exactly to ask a guy out. (He's 39) We have a slight history, in that we've spent a few nights together over several weeks in Nov &Dec. (little bit of fooling around, but mostly just sleeping really, as both of us had early starts!)

Early Dec. we were supposed to meet for lunch in town, but he cancelled first due to work, then I had to cancel the rearranged one, as some family stuff came up. I rang him to cancel, and said in the voicemail to let me know when suited him next to meet. Sent him a text a few days later asking if he fancied meeting up again, and didn't hear anything from him, and got on my "well-he-can-just-get-in-touch-with-me-so" high horse, and left it at that!

So, I had been trying to put him out of my head, kissed a guy when I was out over Christmas, and thought I was starting to forget about him... but then I met him last Thursday night at a friends party. She doesn't actually know him, a friend of hers invited him, so I was completely shocked to see him there! I had intended on going home early, but when I saw he was there, stayed a bit, and I'm kinda glad I did, as we stayed talking silly talk until 4am! Kissed a few times during the talk (both of us sober as we were driving with work early in the morning.), then went our separate ways. And I haven't heard from him since!

Now, he has my number, and I don't know if it's that he's as shy/pig-headed as me, ie, well, if you like me so much, you ask me out. Or if he just doesn't like me? Or if he has an issue over the age difference? He mentioned it jokingly once or twice (ie, sure you wouldn't remember that, it was way before your time etc!)

Anways, I've decided to try and bite the bullet, and ask him out...but I'm too scared to ring him! I'm also having major problems with my phone, so I don't want to text, as I don't know if my texts are getting through-if people try and ring me, it goes straight to my voicemail & some texts to me aren't getting through, so I don't really view phone contact as an option...I don't want him thinking I'm trying to "play games" by not being contactable if he does get in touch. (or maybe he has been, and I don't know about it?!)

I was thinking about an e-mail ...but what do I say?! I'm also really nervous, because I really like him....! And I've just re-read this, and I know how stupid it sounds, I'm telling myself to e-mail him, but does anyone have words of encouragement or could reply with good/bad experiences? Or anything to give me a bit of guts to go ahead with it?!

The Nice Jumper

cowardlylioness wrote: »

Hey folks...
long time reader, first time poster here! I'm a girl in her late twenties (28), looking for some advice on how exactly to ask a guy out. (He's 39) We have a slight history, in that we've spent a few nights together over several weeks in Nov &Dec. (little bit of fooling around, but mostly just sleeping really, as both of us had early starts!)

Early Dec. we were supposed to meet for lunch in town, but he cancelled first due to work, then I had to cancel the rearranged one, as some family stuff came up. I rang him to cancel, and said in the voicemail to let me know when suited him next to meet. Sent him a text a few days later asking if he fancied meeting up again, and didn't hear anything from him, and got on my "well-he-can-just-get-in-touch-with-me-so" high horse, and left it at that!

So, I had been trying to put him out of my head, kissed a guy when I was out over Christmas, and thought I was starting to forget about him... but then I met him last Thursday night at a friends party. She doesn't actually know him, a friend of hers invited him, so I was completely shocked to see him there! I had intended on going home early, but when I saw he was there, stayed a bit, and I'm kinda glad I did, as we stayed talking silly talk until 4am! Kissed a few times during the talk (both of us sober as we were driving with work early in the morning.), then went our separate ways. And I haven't heard from him since!

Now, he has my number, and I don't know if it's that he's as shy/pig-headed as me, ie, well, if you like me so much, you ask me out. Or if he just doesn't like me? Or if he has an issue over the age difference? He mentioned it jokingly once or twice (ie, sure you wouldn't remember that, it was way before your time etc!)

Anways, I've decided to try and bite the bullet, and ask him out...but I'm too scared to ring him! I'm also having major problems with my phone, so I don't want to text, as I don't know if my texts are getting through-if people try and ring me, it goes straight to my voicemail & some texts to me aren't getting through, so I don't really view phone contact as an option...I don't want him thinking I'm trying to "play games" by not being contactable if he does get in touch. (or maybe he has been, and I don't know about it?!)

I was thinking about an e-mail ...but what do I say?! I'm also really nervous, because I really like him....! And I've just re-read this, and I know how stupid it sounds, I'm telling myself to e-mail him, but does anyone have words of encouragement or could reply with good/bad experiences? Or anything to give me a bit of guts to go ahead with it?!

More women should ask lads out. You could always ask him to ask you out. Flip it back on his ass!

Shivers26

I agree with the previous poster. If he seems interested then ask him. If you feel more comfortable doing it by email then go for it, just keep it light.

I got chatting to a guy recently, definite mutual attraction so after a while I just said 'are you going to ask me out then' and we had a lovely date and have plans to meet again.

Good luck!

Kiera

Go for it. Drop him an email. I dont see the problem with girls asking guys out at all.

Fingers crossed