Pregnancy. What are the chances?

neversuitedher

Had unprotected sex on Saturday night, i know how wrong and how stupid i have been. I was drunk and scetchy on details, I asked the guy the next day if i need the morning after pill he says i dont. He says he didnt cum so i will be fine. But im worried, what do ya think. I know i must sound really immature, im 20 by the way. Never again.

Faith

Surely you could tell, at least when you went to the bathroom, if he'd come or not? Are you on the pill? Anywho, there's always a chance I'm afraid. Best thing to do is take a test as soon as it's viable.

It would also be wise to book an STD test. You have no idea what he might have given you.

Yes, take the morning after pill. You can get pregnant without ejaculation. Also book an STD test for 2-3 weeks time. And read up about how pregnancy and STD's, and don't take the word of a random guy you slept with regarding whether or not you need the MAP. It's your life that would be affected, not his.

neversuitedher

i asked again and he said hes 100% sure he didnt cum at all. still a chance? im not on the pill. can i get the map in the chemist? could i still get it tomoro?

AARRRGH

There's always a chance.

Do you have a regular cycle? If so, what day are you on? You can normally work out roughly when you're ovulating.

neversuitedher

yeah pretty regular, i would say around 24

neversuitedher

neversuitedher wrote: »

i asked again and he said hes 100% sure he didnt cum at all. still a chance? im not on the pill. can i get the map in the chemist? could i still get it tomoro?

YES THERE IS A CHANCE. If you're in the ROI, I think you need to get the MAP prescribed by a doctor, but you're supposed to take it within 72 hours of intercourse.

aidan24326

neversuitedher wrote: »

i asked again and he said hes 100% sure he didnt cum at all. still a chance? im not on the pill. can i get the map in the chemist? could i still get it tomoro?

The MAP is a prescription drug so you'd have to go to a doctor. He/she will advise on whether you can still take it. It's effectiveness is reduced the longer you leave it. It's not necesarily completely ineffective after 72 hours, just less effective than if you'd taken it sooner.

And next time I wouldn't be relying on the guy you've slept with for medical advice. It's unlikley that you're pregnant, but not impossible. It goes without saying I know but next time be more careful!

mood

aidan24326 wrote: »

The MAP is a prescription drug so you'd have to go to a doctor. He/she will advise on whether you can still take it. It's effectiveness is reduced the longer you leave it. It's not necesarily completely ineffective after 72 hours, just less effective than if you'd taken it sooner.

And next time I wouldn't be relying on the guy you've slept with for medical advice. It's unlikley that you're pregnant, but not impossible. It goes without saying I know but next time be more careful!

Go see a doctor asap. You really need to know more about sex and contraception for the future. You shouldn't even be having sex if you know so little IMO. Don't rely on a guy to inform you. Generally girls know more as we normally are the one more effected by it.

Danniboo

Why did you leave it so late to inquire about this? You shouldn't be relying on some random guy he'll probably say NO anyways in fear of getting stung for 70e. I'd go to your GP and get an STD test and ask for some info on sexual health, contraception etc. Until you're educated on these things i'd refrain from having sex.

mood

Danniboo wrote: »

Why did you leave it so late to inquire about this? You shouldn't be relying on some random guy he'll probably say NO anyways in fear of getting stung for 70e. I'd go to your GP and get an STD test and ask for some info on sexual health, contraception etc. Until you're educated on these things i'd refrain from having sex.

Everyone should remember just because thing like this often happen at weekend you can still get info. All you need to go is go to a chemist if you can't find a doctor. They would inform you I'm sure and maybe have a list of doctors on all.

edvedfan

neversuitedher wrote: »

i asked again and he said hes 100% sure he didnt cum at all. still a chance?

the guy doesn't have to cum for the girl to get pregnant.

Darthhoob

whether he came or not...get the MAP. a guy doesn;t need to cum to imnpregnant someone.

DONT go by what he sys...i imagine thats one reason you got into this mess in the first place. less than 100 euros for the MAP and a tiny bit of embarrassment? or being a parent for the rest of your life with some numbnuts as the father? your call.

sorry to be harsh but many people have said it now, yet you're still asking whether it's ok to listen to this bloke

dudara

The MAP is most effective when taken 72 hours after intercourse. In your case, that window passed on Tuesday night. The effectiveness of the MAP decreases after this period has passed but you can still take it.

The MAP is a prescription drug so you will need to visit a GP to obtain a prescription.

A man does not have to ejaculate in order for sperm to be deposited. The odds are less if he does not ejaculate, but there is still a possibility.

Additionally, you had unprotected sex. You may wish to consider getting checked out for STIs.

neversuitedher

panic over got my period this morning, wont let it happen again.

mood

I really hope you find out as much info as possible about contraception etc before sleeping with anyone again.

PS Panic not over until you get clear results from an STI test. You never know what the guy could have had.

Darthhoob

ditto what mood said. you still have the possibility of having an STI. so still need to go docs about it. pregnancy is not the only thing you should worry about when having unprotected sex.....

aidan24326

Darthhoob wrote: »

ditto what mood said. you still have the possibility of having an STI. so still need to go docs about it. pregnancy is not the only thing you should worry about when having unprotected sex.....

Her worry is in regards to pregnancy not STI. Her chances of being pregnant are slim, her chances of now having an STI even are slimmer again. So stop scaremongering.

Toots

aidan24326 wrote: »

Her worry is in regards to pregnancy not STI. Her chances of being pregnant are slim, her chances of now having an STI even are slimmer again. So stop scaremongering.

I don't think that's scaremongering, she's equally at risk of getting an STI. In fact I'd say the risk of STI would have been higher than the risk of pregnancy

sajama

aidan24326 wrote: »

Her worry is in regards to pregnancy not STI. Her chances of being pregnant are slim, her chances of now having an STI even are slimmer again. So stop scaremongering.

I understand why the OPs main worry would be pregnancy - however she should also be worried about an STI and seems to be ill-informed about certain aspects of sex. As other posters have pointed out, it is entirely possible a person can get pregant even if he doesn't come, and I agree that she should refrain from having sex until she knows more about the possible consequences.

Anyway OP I'm glad that your main panic is over now But please do get an STI check too...

vorbis

Ah now this is scaremongering. The "guy" in question is probably the same as any other person on this board. Most people don't have communicable STIs. Its a risk but pregnancy is a far greater risk statistically. I always wonder why so much emphasis is placed on all types of STIs. Obviously Aids and Syphilis are serious but something like genital warts is akin to getting cold sores.

Odds are the OP is fine regarding STIs but shouldn't make a habit of unprotected sex.

Toots* wrote: »

I don't think that's scaremongering, she's equally at risk of getting an STI. In fact I'd say the risk of STI would have been higher than the risk of pregnancy

Bottle_of_Smoke

vorbis wrote: »

Ah now this is scaremongering. The "guy" in question is probably the same as any other person on this board. Most people don't have communicable STIs. Its a risk but pregnancy is a far greater risk statistically. I always wonder why so much emphasis is placed on all types of STIs. Obviously Aids and Syphilis are serious but something like genital warts is akin to getting cold sores.

Odds are the OP is fine regarding STIs but shouldn't make a habit of unprotected sex.

Admittedly people on this board do seem to really love chiming on about sti tests at any given opportunity but there is a lot of stuff around. Sure chlamydia's curable but its worth knowing if you have it or not!

Nevyn

vorbis wrote: »

Ah now this is scaremongering. The "guy" in question is probably the same as any other person on this board. Most people don't have communicable STIs. Its a risk but pregnancy is a far greater risk statistically. I always wonder why so much emphasis is placed on all types of STIs. Obviously Aids and Syphilis are serious but something like genital warts is akin to getting cold sores.

Odds are the OP is fine regarding STIs but shouldn't make a habit of unprotected sex.

While chlamydia's curable the longer a woman has it the greater the risk to it doing damage to her fertility.

Genital warts is not akin to getting cold sores herpes is, and herpes can not be cured nor can genital warts, bot cause sore out breaks on the gential area which need medical treatment for the rest of the person's life and both have to be disclosed to new sexual partners.


http://www.ifpa.ie/eng/Media-Info-Centre/News-Events/IFPA-in-the-News-2009/What-Ever-Happened-to-Ireland%27s-Sexual-Health-Strategy

Earlier this year, the HSE admitted it was concerned at the resurgence of syphilis during the 2007-08 reporting period. In 2001-02, there was a major outbreak of syphilis in Dublin, which mostly affected men who have sex with men (MSM). The outbreak was contained and the numbers decreased between 2003-06. However, since 2007, there has been an increase in new cases of early syphilis. In 2008 alone, there was 96 new cases of early syphilis reported.

Another concern is the increase in diagnosed cases of chlamydia, which is the most common STI notified to public health departments in Ireland.

In 2008, there were 1,855 new cases diagnosed in the HSE East region alone – an increase of 35 per cent on 2007 figures. WHO figures reveal that Ireland’s chlamydia rates have exploded in the last decade, rising from 17.41 cases per 100,000 in 1998 to 86.35 cases per 100,000 in 2007

And HIV is on the rise among hetrosexuals

http://www.dublinaidsalliance.ie/2008.htm

170 NEW DIAGNOSES OF HIV INFECTIONS IN FIRST SIX MONTHS OF THIS YEAR

Dublin AIDS Alliance concerned by increase in heterosexual route of transmission

The latest reported prevalence figures on HIV in Ireland show there were 170 newly diagnoses of HIV infections in Ireland during the first half of 2008. This brings to 4,951 the total number of HIV infections reported up to the end of June 2008.

Of the 170 newly diagnosed cases, probable route of transmission was known for 127 cases. Of these, 65% were acquired through heterosexual contact. Heterosexual contact accounted for 53% of cases in the same period last year. 23% were among men who have sex with men ( MSM ) and 12% were among injected drug users (IDUs).

All it can take is unprotected sex with one person once, so it is better go have safe sex and to get tested to protect your health.

vorbis

vorbis wrote: »

Ah now this is scaremongering. The "guy" in question is probably the same as any other person on this board. Most people don't have communicable STIs. Its a risk but pregnancy is a far greater risk statistically. I always wonder why so much emphasis is placed on all types of STIs. Obviously Aids and Syphilis are serious but something like genital warts is akin to getting cold sores.

Odds are the OP is fine regarding STIs but shouldn't make a habit of unprotected sex.

It isn't scaremongering. Around 1 in 10 people in their teens/twenties have chlamydia, and you have to bear in mind that a significant proportion of people don't have casual sex at all, or never unprotected casual sex. Someone who is willing to have a one night stand without using a condom is pretty damn likely to have it, moreso than your average person. Paranoia would be afraid of getting an STI in a monogamous relationship where both partners had been tested. Scaremongering would be advising such a person to get tested every six months just in case. In this case, nobody is scaremongering. I think it's scary how many people bury their heads in the sand. Sure, 'odds are' she's OK, but someone has to get STI's, and a one in ten or one in five chance isn't exactly low.

mood

I know a midwife who see women having babies who have genital warts quite often and she doesn't even work in a city hospital. It is not the rare. This particular STI has not cure, you could infect all future sexual partners and imagine the shame of saying 'Not tonight (or for the next week or so), my genital warts have flared up again!'

The OP really is very ill informed about sexual health and need to cop on before having sex again.

Darthhoob

aidan24326 wrote: »

Her worry is in regards to pregnancy not STI. Her chances of being pregnant are slim, her chances of now having an STI even are slimmer again. So stop scaremongering.

if more people worried about STIs less people would be having unprotected sex to begin with, STIs are alot easier to catch than geting pregnant.

BOTH can change your life...but there are some lethal STIs out there and so people SHOULD worry about them

i am not saying she has one, it's very probable she doesn't...but she needs to get checked before long. if she doesn;t and she does have an STI...not only will it be harder to treat/cure BUT she'll possibly be infecting others along the way.

Motley Crue

i reckon u should just get the pill to cover ur back

mood

Motley Crue wrote: »

i reckon u should just get the pill to cover ur back

The Pill or the Morning After Pill? If you knew anything about contraception you would know that the morning after pill won't work if taken a week after having unprotected sex. Also the Pill and Morning After Pill don't protect from STIs.