How do ye deal with a terrible shock? Coping strategies please!

LegacyUser

I got a terrible shock recently. I don't want to go into detail other that there is a court case involved; that someone else has defrauded me; that, having investigated the fraud and consulted a solicitor, there is very little I can do to prove my innocence in the matter (although I've been careless in my oversight of another person's work); that I will probably receive a nasty fine and almost certainly some nasty media exposure which will damage me professionally.


I'm feeling terrible and cannot function with the shock. Can't concentrate. Can't sleep. Appetite gone. Am thinking of not going to work tomorrow just to get my head a bit straighter.

So, how would ye cope with shock? Go to the doc? Take a day or more off work to get the head straight? Take a pill? Anyone know a good joke? Any thought of the day?

Peggypeg

It's a little creepy seeing this thread. On Sunday just gone my boyfriend and I went sledding in the Phoenix Park and he fell. He broke his spine. I only found out last night that he will make a full recovery, thank god. I went to work yesterday and quite honestly it's been a nightmare since it happened, I feel sick most of the time. It was such a shock, I mean a broken spine! I think it's the most shocked/terrified I've ever been. I've done what I always do, it's advice that my mother gave me that I can use in every situation, it's "Just put one foot in front of the other". It means when it all gets too much for you bring it back to basics. When I got up yesterday morning, knowing the love of my life was lying in hospital with a broken spine I just couldn't deal with it so I broke it down. Step 1: Get dressed, step 2: drive carefully to work (it can be dangerous driving when you're very emotional so take care), step 3: go into work and so on. When it get's too much, just take a break from your own head, just concentrate on doing small managble things and acknowledge that you are doing a good job and reward yourself with a pat on the back.

Best of luck sweetheart. I hope you feel better soon.

Just try to take your mind of it, I suppose. Don't expect anyone to have any sympathy. I saw someone get stabbed right in front of me the other week, had to call an ambulance and speak to the police, turned up to work an hour later a shaking mess and was told to go home, only to have the boss and supervisor phoning me the next day giving out that I didn't follow proper 'going home early' procedures. I saw someone get stabbed to death, I wasn't going home with a bit of a headache! People don't tend to understand how much shock can affect you. I think the best thing for me was just trying to relax, watch funny videos on Youtube, meet my friends for coffee and just act like everything was normal. It was hard seeing it in the papers the next few days, but I've pretty much forgotten all about it now. I guess it was easy enough as it wasn't a friend or relative who got hurt, but it was a bloody shock at the time.