am i wasting my time??

harps90

would love your opinion please.
reconnected with an old flame,well actually,first love, via internet 8 months ago.confessed to him that i have feelings towards him in october.he just asked "why,you have'nt seen me for years"
since then ,we have daily contact,either by text or phone.usually he initates the daily contact.the contact is very comfortable,we can talk for hours and it feels like 10 minutes!!we talk about meeting up but so far that has'nt happened, i get the feeling he is a bit nervous.
thing is ,i do'nt feel like i've any right to push things too hard as it was me who broke his heart.what does he want of me?????????

kittenkiller

Have you asked him?

If the conversation is so easy between you and you've spent hours talking, surely intent on either part has been mentioned?
If not, just ask him.

Do you know if he's in a relationship at the moment?

[paranoid thoughts]If you ended things before, I'd be careful that he's not out to hurt you like you did him.[/paranoid thoughts]

harps90

thanks for replying.
neither of us are in relationships at present.
paranoid thoughts have crossed my mind, but he was never that kind of person ,and still sounds the same so i do'nt really think he's going down that route.
that said, i have never brought anything deep and meaningful up ,other than the one message i sent.i think thats because i'm afraid of his response, if its negaive that is. i'm not much of a talker anyways,in terms of discussing feelings etc.
i presume he's not bringing things up because theres a fear that history could repeat itself.
i need courage people!!!!!!!!

In my opinion

harps90 wrote: »

thanks for replying.
neither of us are in relationships at present.
paranoid thoughts have crossed my mind, but he was never that kind of person ,and still sounds the same so i do'nt really think he's going down that route.
that said, i have never brought anything deep and meaningful up ,other than the one message i sent.i think thats because i'm afraid of his response, if its negaive that is. i'm not much of a talker anyways,in terms of discussing feelings etc.
i presume he's not bringing things up because theres a fear that history could repeat itself.
i need courage people!!!!!!!!

Go for it, arrange to meet.

Taltos

In my opinion wrote: »

Go for it, arrange to meet.

Agreed - more than likely you have both matured over 10 yrs so you are both in much better places now mentally.
Give him a shout and meet up for a coffee somewhere.
Go on do it...

harps90

thanks again for the replies. just spent yet another 2 hours on the phone but still did'nt say what i wanted to!!!!!!!!:(any tips on how to make my mouth work????????

goodmum

I've learned from experience not to waste time!
If you cant say it to him, text him. Ask if he'd like to go on a date with you. He will either reply yes, great idea. Or no, not such a good idea.
Either way, you'll know the outcome and can move this relationship forward.
Whats the worst thing that can happen??? He says no...you'll get over it.
But hopefully he'll say yes:D