Cant touch my man-help!

Whynotme

Sounds ridiculous but really causing problems for me. Basically it has got to the stage where I am sleeping as far away from him as possible. If I so much as touch his skin he jumps like he has had an electric shock. This is how he describes it. My arm/hand is shoved away. If he is fully awake there is no problem, the problem seems to arise when he dozes off or is fully asleep. I love to cuddle up in bed, I love to be close to him but am getting to the stage that I lie rigid in the bed and therefore don't sleep properly.

I am wondering could an underlying medical problem be the cause? He has been under considerable stress lately.

Any advice welcome!

star-pants

If he is under that amount of stress and pressure that the touch of someone (that he should expect) shocks him/makes him jump then I'd suggest he go see his GP just to be on the safe side.

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How long have you been together?

If its not long maybe he just isn't use to sleeping in the same bed as someone else. It took me some getting use to.

Darthhoob

i'm like that, i always have been though. i love cuddles etc when fully awake but when trying to sleep/half asleep i like to be as far away as poss. sometimes even the heat of another body can keep me awake....i can sleep through alarms and alsorts...but touch me and i jump lol

not sure why this is...but my son is the same and has a type of autism along with some sensory issues...i seem to have the same sensory issues. touch can be a weird thing for me.

perhaps your partner has sensory issues? hypersensitivity? stress can make it worse.
whatever it is a ditto what someone else has said and get him to see his GP

Whynotme

Thanks for the replies. We are together almost 5 yrs. We don't live together so wouldn't be there all the time. This is new, never had the problem before which is why it is causing an issue with me.

He suffered an injury about 9 wks ago, a burn, which is super sensitive and is very slow healing. This in part (imo) is due to the stress he is under. Now the stress is receding and hopefully life will get back to normal. I am just worried that there is another underlying issue. Our relationship is perfect (well as perfect as it can be living apart, not by choice), so this is why I am having difficulty dealing with the no touching issue!

Emme

Whynotme wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. We are together almost 5 yrs. We don't live together so wouldn't be there all the time. This is new, never had the problem before which is why it is causing an issue with me.

He suffered an injury about 9 wks ago, a burn, which is super sensitive and is very slow healing. This in part (imo) is due to the stress he is under. Now the stress is receding and hopefully life will get back to normal. I am just worried that there is another underlying issue. Our relationship is perfect (well as perfect as it can be living apart, not by choice), so this is why I am having difficulty dealing with the no touching issue!

Burns can be extremely painful. That could be the root of his problem. Could you discuss this problem and suggest sleeping in separate beds for a while until the burn heals more? Not that you don't care for him any less, but that you want him to be under less stress and able to get a good nights rest so his burn can heal properly. Good luck.

Dord

If it's just recent and came on suddenly maybe he should go to his doctor about it.

Bonito

Visit your GP with him Op. Meanwhile try cuddling before falling asleep so he knows your there and doesn't jump when he falls asleep?