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Terrified

  • 10-01-2010 3:00pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    I am in a long term relationship and we want to get married soon. But I am absolutely terrified of it!!! Terrified that the wedding day will be a disaster - i'll be too nervous at the altar, with the speeches, meeting people, etc!!! I fear I'll be an absolute wreck. I also worry about what others think of me getting married and who to invite, etc.

    Maybe I have Social Anxiety really bad??
    I'm also anxious in queues at shop checkouts, or when out with others or when invited to events!! I get so anxious!!

    Please help.


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  • #2
    Victor
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    Split from other thread.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Sounds perfectly understandable OP. I would be much the same as yourself. I dislike attention and fuss as well.

    If you do want to get married why dont the two of you just go away and do it together.

    You're not an attention seeker, not everyone is into the big show off buzz, there is nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.

    Don't force yourself into a horribly uncomfortable ordeal that you are going to hate every minute of just because others expect it.

    People come in different flavours. Do what suits yourself and ENJOY it instead of enduring it.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    My other half wants to have a proper wedding with all friends and relations invited. And really I do as well. But I just dread it. I just have no confidence in myself!


  • #5
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    You sound like you really want to do it, you are just a bit scared of the whole idea of arranging and having a wedding? Maybe have a read of Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers or something similar - then get down to planning the big day. The more planning and better organisation you have, the less there is to worry about.

    Call in a couple of close friends or a sister or your mother to help with some tasks so you are not taking on all the stress without anyone else to lean on. Wedding arrangements can be quite stressful, especially if you are working to a budget or limited guest list. Work out exactly what yourself and your OH want and work towards getting that - just try to find the least stressful ways of doing everything - and most importantly, keep in mind the day itself and how proud of yourself you'll be for throwing such a big event. Best of luck! :)


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