First Time

LegacyUser

So...
Im a 19 year old guy and ive been seeing this girl for a while, im a virgin, she isint.
Im meeting up with her soon, and the family will be away, and we've said we'll "do the deed" then.

She seems to be very sexually confident, and i think i might have made the mistake of telling him im not a virgin either...

Any tips? I'm fairly lost, and im not sure what to do!

tenchi-fan

if she's open enough about talking about sex maybe you should be too. just tell her.

Bottle_of_Smoke

watch a bit of porn, teen fu*king type stuff. Don't mean for technique but with the camera angles they use it gives you a good idea of what the vagina looks like when you're down there, where to stick it etc*
Wikipedia has quite graphic photos too for genitals which may be helpful

If you go down on her concentrate on the clit.

Seeing as you've said you're not a virgin its prob best not to change your story. You're hardly gonna be "found out", don't think my first was any different to my second....

Just try and relax. I think good sex is more about how attractive you find your partner, how used to each other's bodies you are and less about sexual technique.

Enjoy yourself



*remember its porn. She's not neccesarily into anal or you jizzing in her face.

Taltos

Yup - just be honest - and make sure you have condoms with you mate.

LegacyUser

from my experience i'd say to make sure you relax

when my first chance arose to do the deed i couldnt concentrate on anything except getting it up and in, as a result i was so nervous i couldnt do anything - if you know what i mean

she was understanding and then the second chance came around and i was relaxed and felt more confident things were then in working order

so just stay relaxed

wylo

OP, I think the most important bit of advice is to TAKE YOUR TIME. Dont just dive into things as soon as her clothes are off. Caress very lightly and play with every part of her body before you even reach her clit, vagina etc, and even then just go back and forth with your hand, always leaving her "hungry" for more. You could even fully please her before any intercourse starts with your hands and mouth. I know my big mistake (and probably give away) at the start was that I rushed things. I started the intercourse too soon.
I think lots of people pretend not to be virgins and get away with it the first time.

Liam Byrne

icantthinkofone wrote: »

i think i might have made the mistake of telling him im not a virgin either...

Telling who ?

LegacyUser

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Telling who ?

sorry typo...telling her that im not a virgin

Bottle_of_Smoke

wylo wrote: »

OP, I think the most important bit of advice is to TAKE YOUR TIME. Dont just dive into things as soon as her clothes are off. Caress very lightly and play with every part of her body before you even reach her clit, vagina etc, and even then just go back and forth with your hand, always leaving her "hungry" for more. You could even fully please her before any intercourse starts with your hands and mouth. I know my big mistake (and probably give away) at the start was that I rushed things. I started the intercourse too soon.
I think lots of people pretend not to be virgins and get away with it the first time.

To be honest trying to do all this would be getting ahead of himself. You have to learn these things. You can't learn to be good at sex from a book with no practical experience.

I think he should just let things take their course.

Trout99

icantthinkofone wrote: »

So...
Im a 19 year old guy and ive been seeing this girl for a while, im a virgin, she isint.
Im meeting up with her soon, and the family will be away, and we've said we'll "do the deed" then.

She seems to be very sexually confident, and i think i might have made the mistake of telling him im not a virgin either...

Any tips? I'm fairly lost, and im not sure what to do!

Tell her that it takes you while to get relaxed with a girl

Mullie06

play around with her for a bit find out what she likes try to pleasure her to the best of your ability but don't get too hung up on it because if you do you'll just end up nervous

kjl

ah, calm down, you will work it out.

Dr.Sanchez

Just put your willy in the hole between her legs!

magneticimpulse

OP you really should tell her your a virgin!! What if you cant get your penis erect and cannot perform? Or you cum too quickly? She will think that you dont like her or that your really crap at sex, and the relationship could end because of that!! You will also have to know how to use a condom correctly and in front of her in such a stressful time. You will have lots of things on your mind that can cause for it to be a complete failure.

Therefore, its better to tell her your a virgin. Its very common that lots of people are virgins at this age. I was virgin til nearly 22 and knew lots of 21 yr old guys who were still virgins. You only loose your virginity once, and if shes your girlfriend who you love, Im sure she would want to know how important that moment is. Why lie to her? You clearly have no experience, so why say you do?

Zaph

00Blaine00 wrote: »

Just put your willy in the hole between her legs!

Banned for a week

rosenstocktakeh

OP this you should tell her.

It is not something to be embarassed about - let her help you along. If she is worth sleeping with and really cares about you she will be flattered that she will be your first.

Relax and enjoy

shellyboo

magneticimpulse wrote: »

OP you really should tell her your a virgin!! What if you cant get your penis erect and cannot perform? Or you cum too quickly? She will think that you dont like her or that your really crap at sex, and the relationship could end because of that!!

in which case he'd be better off without her. She'd want to be fairly shallow and cruel to dump a guy because of a poor performance one time. It's not the be all and end all and any decent girl will be supportive and encouraging if he gets nervous - nit laugh at him and dump him.

OP, I'd be inclined to tell her - but not until after you guys have had sex. Just keep things simple between you - don't be trying any fancy stuff, just take your time and enjoy it and enjoy her

magneticimpulse

I wouldnt personally dump anyone over such a situation...but to young people I can see how sex is a big issue to them and its a possibility. From boards itself, you see some shallow stories.

I just know I met 3 guys who had performance issues on the "1st occassion" and I never saw them again because they were too embarassed. I think thats why the girlfriend should know. If shes important enough to lose his virginity with, why not tell her that its his 1st time?

kittenkiller

Hi OP, personally I'd fess up sooner rather than later.
I'm sure she'll be cool with it.

You can even tell her that you've done somethings but not everything as you were missing a condom or something if you don't want to lose face.

I'm sure she'll be ok with it and it might take some pressure off her too if she thinks she needs to be out to impress!

In the mean time I'd practice using a condom by yourself to avoid it being an issue.
When you do get down to it, take your time.
No need to rush anything.
Follow her lead and how she reacts to your touch.

Best of luck.

pretty-in-pink

Just tell her the truth. Your situation now is somewhat similar to mine & mr P-i-P's some years ago. he told me afterwards that he had been one and had lied to the group of us out of bravado or some such, we laughed about it. personally I was touched that a) he told me and b) i popped his cherry (there is no nice way to phrase that is there?)

its kinda cool, bit of a compliment for her. Don't sweat it OP. Its just sex. its meant to be fun.