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What would you do if you were me?

  • 08-01-2010 12:33am
    #1
    penelope6
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭


    Am pretty certain my long time boyfriend is cheating on me and he thinks I'm oblivious!!..How does one best deal with this?


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  • #2
    Maple
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 16,186 ✭✭✭✭Maple


    Moved from TLL.

    Maple.


  • #3
    moretothegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 631 ✭✭✭moretothegirl


    hiya honey

    you haven't really given much info on the situation so... if your fairly sure something is up then you have to confront him with it.
    Try stay calm when your doing so and listen to his side of the story maybe there really is an explanation. Don't give him hints before you confront him though, try to take him by surprise because otherwise he might think up an excuse. trust your intuition, you will probably be able to tell by his initial reaction when you confront him...

    if you have any evidence and you know for sure then really its up to you whether you think you could trust him again in the future or whehter you really need to just end things....

    but do give him a chance to explain... good luck sweetie, this is not a nice situation to be in :(


  • #4
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Hey OP

    I feel for your dilemma, but its hard to advise you with so little to go on. I know you are no doubt trying no to give too much away for privacy reasons, but a little more info might go a long way in helping people give you better advice :)


  • #5
    penelope6
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭penelope6


    Evidence+incredible/inexplainable ( which I have broached unsuccessfully)
    amount of texy msgs and da female in Q having changed her facebook status from single to in relationship


  • #6
    stripysocks85
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    You just have to confront him. If you're almost certain that there is something going on, then you need to ask him about it and give him a chance to explain. If you have 'evidence' such as the texts [although what were you doing snooping through his phone?] then you'll have to see what he says.


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  • #7
    penelope6
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭penelope6


    It's not a case of snooping through his phone technically...already confronted him and reply stated that i was incredibly narrowminded 2 thimk boys and girls cudn't b friends,accepted that..however last wk has led me 3 believe it's much more than that


  • #8
    stripysocks85
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    What happened last week? What sort of messages were in his phone that warranted you to think there was something going on, yet he could defend that they were just friends??


  • #9
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Penelope could you do me a favour and not use txt speak its really hard to read

    So txts. txts are dangerous things - hard to interpret. Even when txts are sent to me sometimes i don't know what they mean.
    Facebook is just plain evil. How do you know the girl isn't seeing someone else ? how do you know she didn't change her status just for show ?

    so are you quite young ?


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