Met up with old gf over xmas.

LegacyUser

Going unreg'd for this..

I went out with a girl a few years ago and we were on and off before and after so we knew each other quite well.. We then lost touch with each other due to College until this Christmas when we were both home.

So, on one of the nights over Christmas we got talking and ended up kissing. Since then we have been texting quite a lot and we have met up twice.

Christmas is now over and we have both gone our seperate ways, again. This is getting me down because I really like this girl and it's only now that I am realising it. I used to treat her fairly badly before (i.e. Not caring about our relationship etc) but now I feel that I would like to give it a go..

I think I have expressed some of my feelings and i'm sure she knows how I feel. She has also said a few small things that would lead me to believe that she still likes me.

She had a BF for a number of years but they are broken up for a few months now. I am just a little concerned that I could be a rebound guy so to speak.

It seems like what we had over Christmas may be gone now and this just gets me down. I have decided not to contact her again to see if she contacts me. I think that if she contacts me then it's a sign she's still interested. What do you think?

I am thinking about her a lot ever since and don't really know what to do/expect from here on. We are in different cities which is obviously a problem but if we are interested in each other we should at least do something about it.

I'll stop rambling now. Thanks for listening and any advice is greatly appreciated...

Chinafoot

Unregdd wrote: »

We are in different cities which is obviously a problem but if we are interested in each other we should at least do something about it.

You're right. You should do something about it. Not contacting her to see if she contacts you isn't really the way to go about it though, is it?

Instead of playing teenage games why don't you pick up the phone, call her, arrange to meet up and then tell her how you feel?

LegacyUser

I did meet up with her recently when we were both sober. This was to see how we got with drunkiness aside. We got on really well and chatted and kissed for ages.

I did ask her what was going to happen when we both went back to college. I don't remember getting much of an answer.

A good while after then in discussion she was saying about how I should go down and visit her at college some time.

-- I know my plan seems childish and that isn't my intention. I know I could text her and we could chat for a while but maybe she's just being nice by replying. If she contacts me then she must have some kind of interest. From my own experience there are people I don't bother texting, yet if they text me I will reply.

I suppose i'm just afraid of the thoughts of moving to the next stage. I'm pretty sure she knows how I feel..but maybe she doesn't feel the same way. How do I find out? What way should I ask her.

Caliden

What age are you?

Man up, stop playing mind-games and give her a call (don;t text for the love of god). At least that way you know where you stand

Chinafoot

Unregdd wrote: »

I did meet up with her recently when we were both sober. This was to see how we got with drunkiness aside. We got on really well and chatted and kissed for ages.

I did ask her what was going to happen when we both went back to college. I don't remember getting much of an answer.

A good while after then in discussion she was saying about how I should go down and visit her at college some time.

-- I know my plan seems childish and that isn't my intention. I know I could text her and we could chat for a while but maybe she's just being nice by replying. If she contacts me then she must have some kind of interest. From my own experience there are people I don't bother texting, yet if they text me I will reply.

I suppose i'm just afraid of the thoughts of moving to the next stage. I'm pretty sure she knows how I feel..but maybe she doesn't feel the same way. How do I find out? What way should I ask her.

Being pretty sure she knows how you feel isnt the same as being certain. Tell her. Just say "I really like you and I'd like us to be together properly. Do you feel the same way?"

Your plan of not contacting her doesnt make a lot of sense given that she could easily assume that you havent contacted her and are therefore not interested. Its open to major misinterpretation and miscommunication and could end very badly.

If you ask her out straight how she feels and what she wants you'll know one way or another. Maybe it won't be the answer you're hoping for but you won't know until you ask her.

LegacyUser

So I suppose I know what I gotta do then..

I'll let things settle for another few days.. I'll contact her then and just ask her what she thinks of the whole thing and does she see it going anywhere??

Thanks for the advice guys!!

Chinafoot

Unregdd wrote: »

So I suppose I know what I gotta do then..

I'll let things settle for another few days.. I'll contact her then and just ask her what she thinks of the whole thing and does she see it going anywhere??

Thanks for the advice guys!!

Don't do it over text. Either ring her or meet her face to face.

Best of luck.