Girl may be underage

trench foot

Hi,

I met a girl on a datng site yesterday. On the dating site she indicated her age was 19. When I met her yesterday she didnt look 19 and she told me that she was 17, which she definitly did not. I decided I would continue the date and she said that it wasnt illegal and I had travelled a bit anyway.
So anyway we kissed for a bit and had some kind of relations but not the whole thing.
Im feeling kind of guilty today and I think she is underage as her txts are a bit immature and she wont show me her bebo page.
What should I do? Im scared I may have already broken the law. Im 23!
HELP

Bonito

Stay well away she definitely isn't being honest so I'd say she's underage! A big giveaway would her being willing to engage in sexual activities on a 1st date with a stranger (no offence to you). A girl of sound age would, in my opinion, not do something like this.

Text her and tell her you're not contacting her 'til she can prove to you she is of legal age.

trench foot

Bonito wrote: »

Stay well away she definitely isn't being honest so I'd say she's underage! A big giveaway would her being willing to engage in sexual activities on a 1st date with a stranger (no offence to you). A girl of sound age would, in my opinion, not do something like this.

Text her and tell her you're not contacting her 'til she can prove to you she is of legal age.

thanks. If the girl was underage and someone found out could i be in trouble?

helimachoptor

Bonito wrote: »

Stay well away she definitely isn't being honest so I'd say she's underage! A big giveaway would her being willing to engage in sexual activities on a 1st date with a stranger (no offence to you). A girl of sound age would, in my opinion, not do something like this.

Text her and tell her you're not contacting her 'til she can prove to you she is of legal age.

What planet do you live on? When does age have anything to do with when a girl will have sex with someone?

Op I'd walk away if she lied once about being 19 she could well be lying about 17.

helimachoptor

trench foot wrote: »

thanks. If the girl was underage and someone found out could i be in trouble?

Yes a lot if they report you, could end up in jail and or sex offenders list.

christina_x

well.. he didnt have sex with her.
Just stay away from her, delete her number and dont respond to any mails you get from her on the dating site. Not worth the risk imo. + if she was 17, wouldnt she just say she was 18? after all she would be looking for people her age. It sounds a bit dodgy so just cut all contact

Bonito

Bonito wrote: »

Stay well away she definitely isn't being honest so I'd say she's underage! A big giveaway would her being willing to engage in sexual activities on a 1st date with a stranger (no offence to you). A girl of sound age would, in my opinion experience, not do something like this.

Text her and tell her you're not contacting her 'til she can prove to you she is of legal age.

Sorry corrected my post!

trench foot

thanks for the advice. hate to ignore her. its cruel. but i think its the safest option.

krudler

Bonito wrote: »

Stay well away she definitely isn't being honest so I'd say she's underage! A big giveaway would her being willing to engage in sexual activities on a 1st date with a stranger (no offence to you). A girl of sound age would, in my opinion, not do something like this.

Text her and tell her you're not contacting her 'til she can prove to you she is of legal age.

Sorry but, what? theres PLENTY of women who would have sex on a first date, regardless of their age

anyway kissing a 17 year old isnt illegal (afaik) so you'll be ok, just dont contact her again, liars arent worth the hassle

christina_x

krudler wrote: »

Sorry but, what? theres PLENTY of women who would have sex on a first date, regardless of their age

anyway kissing a 17 year old isnt illegal (afaik) so you'll be ok, just dont contact her again, liars arent worth the hassle

actually just thinking, if she is 17, your sound! 17 is the legal age here

MissFlitworth

christina_x wrote: »

actually just thinking, if she is 17, your sound! 17 is the legal age here

As she wasn't honest about her age from the get-go I'd be asking to see a passport before believing she's actually 17. There's some very very grown up looking 14-15 year old girls floating round the place

Bonito

krudler wrote: »

Sorry but, what? theres PLENTY of women who would have sex on a first date, regardless of their age

anyway kissing a 17 year old isnt illegal (afaik) so you'll be ok, just dont contact her again, liars arent worth the hassle

funny how you can call an underage GIRL a WOMAN willing to consent to sex on a first date, if you read my correction you'll see I stated that in my EXPERIENCE this wouldnt happen on a 1st date with a stranger. I stand by what advice I gave and I believe it to be very sound.

RHunce

take a print screen of her online dating site so just in case you get in sh!t you can prove it claimed she was 19. SAVE EVERYTHING!

Katgurl

Bonito wrote: »

funny how you can call an underage GIRL a WOMAN willing to consent to sex on a first date, if you read my correction you'll see I stated that in my EXPERIENCE this wouldnt happen on a 1st date with a stranger. I stand by what advice I gave and I believe it to be very sound.

that may be your experience but it is not sound. i am female, significantly older than 17 with lots of similar age female friends. Anyway, kinda off topic.

OP, take the other poster's advice who suggested the screen shot. Send girl a text / message that you don't want to see her again, you think 17 is too young & age gap too apparent. Keep this email too, as it suggests you believe her to be 17.

mood

Your playing with fire. I agree save her e-mails etc for a long time in case this comes back to haunt you.

Permabear

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Webmonkey

Yeah but she claims to be 17. I met a girl she said she was 18. Then 17. Then 16. Becareful.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Bonito wrote: »

Stay well away she definitely isn't being honest so I'd say she's underage!

Depends. She might just have said she was 19 so he'd talk to her.

A big giveaway would her being willing to engage in sexual activities on a 1st date with a stranger (no offence to you). A girl of sound age would, in my opinion, not do something like this.

Just not true.

Text her and tell her you're not contacting her 'til she can prove to you she is of legal age.

Probably safest option.

trench foot wrote:

Im feeling kind of guilty today and I think she is underage as her txts are a bit immature and she wont show me her bebo page.

Texts being immature is completely normal for a 17 year old. Oddly enough even if they're not immmature face to face. In fact I have a 24 year old friend who texts like a 12 year old schoolgirl.

Not letting you see her bebo page.... that's a scary one. If you could verify she was 17 would you still be interested? If not then just forget about it. The law was changed a few years ago so that you're not automatically guilty if you had reason to believe she's legal. Should worst come to worst and police were called(and I *really* don't think this will happen) then all that happened was you met up with her.

Piste

Do you know her full name? Do a quick google search and see if anything comes up on her bebo.

mood

The face that she won't let you see here bebo page is enough to suggest that she is hiding, very possibly her age. As others have said don't be in contact her unless she give you proof she is over age ie passport/drivers licence. Other forms of ID can be faked easily (all my friends had false ID to get into clubs as teens).

Also, I think it is morally wrong to continue to see a girl you think could be under age.

kittenkiller

Leg it!
Delete her number and remove her from any online accounts you have her connected to.

If she's lying about being 19 online then she's way too young to be involved with in any way.
She's dangerous to know!

I'd think that it would be different if you had met in a club or pub and she lied in case she got caught out and ended getting kicked out of the place, but online there's no need to lie unless you have something big to hide.

magneticimpulse

come on OP are you that desperate for a relationship that your willing to get put onto the sex offenders list??? Your 23 and even if she was 17, theres still a huge age gap. I know myself, i changed so much between 17 and 23!!! Just let her enjoy the last of her childhood. Theres plenty of time for this girl to get involved in relationships. But it wont be with you. Stay away. Theres plenty of women at 23 looking to date someone. Stop dating teenagers and go for people similar age and maturity as yourself.

straricco

Katgurl wrote: »

that may be your experience but it is not sound. i am female, significantly older than 17 with lots of similar age female friends. Anyway, kinda off topic.

OP, take the other poster's advice who suggested the screen shot. Send girl a text / message that you don't want to see her again, you think 17 is too young & age gap too apparent. Keep this email too, as it suggests you believe her to be 17.

Guys it doesn't matter what he believed to be true! If the fact of the matter is that she is underage, believing differently is no defence.

Sorry but just have to say, why would a 23 year old guy want to be with a supposedly 17 year old? To me a 17 is nothing more than a child. The extra 6 years is alot of growing up time. I'd be very disgusted if OP doesn't finish with her, it could be anyone's daughter.

mood

straricco wrote: »

Guys it doesn't matter what he believed to be true! If the fact of the matter is that she is underage, believing differently is no defence.

Sorry but just have to say, why would a 23 year old guy want to be with a supposedly 17 year old? To me a 17 is nothing more than a child. The extra 6 years is alot of growing up time. I'd be very disgusted if OP doesn't finish with her, it could be anyone's daughter.

I agree. Is just wrong and pervy to be honest.

straricco

Actually I was mistaken in last post, there is a defence of honest mistake, but could OP really plead this in circumstances? Not that you have done anything illegal yet...

mood

straricco wrote: »

Actually I was mistaken in last post, there is a defence of honest mistake, but could OP really plead this in circumstances? Not that you have done anything illegal yet...

He suspects she is under age so couldn't use this as an excuse I would think. And I think they have done more that kissed so it's debatable if anything illegal happened depending on her true age and what actually happened.

shellyboo

Why would a 23 year old in good conscience want to sleep with a girl he believes to be under the age of consent?

OP, the fact that you're even asking if you'd get in trouble for it is highly worrying. If you think she's underage, don't see her again, end of.

Barracudaincork

shellyboo wrote: »

Why would a 23 year old in good conscience want to sleep with a girl he believes to be under the age of consent?

OP, the fact that you're even asking if you'd get in trouble for it is highly worrying. If you think she's underage, don't see her again, end of.

I could be wrong, but it was my understanding that he didnt want to sleep with her as he thinks she is under age, and didnt even want to continue on the date due to her age. The only reason he asked about getting in trouble wasnt because he wanted to know if he was in the clear for the future, but to make sure he wasnt in trouble for what did happen that night, kissing etc but no sex.

Couldnt agree more with your last sentence!

mood

OP own words:

"So anyway we kissed for a bit and had some kind of relations but not the whole thing."

This is totally wrong. He needs to keep well away.