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Family & boyfriend q

  • 05-01-2010 7:29pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've being going out with somebody for about 3 months after being single for a good while. I'm really enjoying getting to know him and we both met each others families over Christmas.

    My problem is that my family seems to think that he should be coming to their house for a visit every other weekend, and that's not something either of us are in to. With different work schedules our free time together is limited and we just want to spend whatever time we have doing things together. I feel at this stage that we've done our duty by introducing each other to our families & if in a few months we're still together, then that's the time to start getting more into the whole family routine.

    What do other people think? Should we be involved more in each others families at this stage of the relationship?


Comments

  • #2
    muboop1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,025 ✭✭✭muboop1


    If your not comfortable with it then don't do it.

    Its sweet that your family want to get to know him, but at end of day its your relationship with him not theres.

    However you might want to approach this one carefully as lets face it, you don't want to burn bridges with them or argue or anything.

    Maybe tell them what you have written here? or show them your post? It seems quite reasonable I think


  • #3
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    qqq? wrote: »
    My problem is that my family seems to think that he should be coming to their house for a visit every other weekend, and that's not something either of us are in to?

    Ye only met five mins ago. I'd be of the opinion that it's way too early to be torturing him with family members! :)


  • #4
    Bonito
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,399 ✭✭✭Bonito


    Stick to your guns, he's your BF not your family's :) You two spend as much time as you like together and don't share if you don't want to. Bringing him along to family do's such as parties, christenings, communions etc will be enough for your family to see him.


  • #5
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Oh God - dont do it. Invite him over when there is a reason to or in for a coffee incidentally if there is time and it appropriate.

    Otherwise stick to what you are doing.


  • #6
    aidan24326
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,925 ✭✭✭aidan24326


    qqq? wrote: »

    My problem is that my family seems to think that he should be coming to their house for a visit every other weekend, and that's not something either of us are in to

    That's not a reasonable expectation at this stage, any couple after 3 months are only getting to know each other never mind families. Tell them you have your own life to live, your time together is limited and you will make the effort to bring your boyfriend round at times when it's suitable for everyone, and when you have the time. I'm sure if you and he are together into the future your family will see enough of him.


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