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Friend rejected me

  • 05-01-2010 10:00am
    #1
    ThatGuyAgain
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭


    So i went over to a friends recently to watch a movie. Both in our 20s, friends for years. I didn't make a move because she was fairly closed off. It was a date, brought her for drinks once before. I txt her to ask her out again next weekend but no reply (she always replies swiftly). I know from previous experience if she ignores the text that she is not interested. Fine, but I'm feeling quiet depressed over it :(

    Being rejected is not fun. I feel like a bit of an idiot for asking her out in the first place. We're close friends, both in a club and see each other a few
    times a week. I guess it wasn't all futile though, she went out with me twice.

    I know she'll remain friendly with me but seeing her out knowing she doesn't like me that way will be tough. I don't really know why I'm posting this. Just need to vent.


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  • #2
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    OP, you're friends and that's all you will be it seems.

    Have you ever made a move on her previous to this one time?

    I don't think it was a date either tbh. I see it as two friends hanging out which is a pretty normal occurence.

    Maybe your friend is just having a bad time of it lately and needs her own space. Give her a ring or something and offer to take her to lunch to take her mind off things or something.


  • #3
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    ThatGuyAgain wrote: »
    So i went over to a friends recently to watch a movie. Both in our 20s, friends for years. I didn't make a move because she was fairly closed off. It was a date, brought her for drinks once before. I txt her to ask her out again next weekend but no reply (she always replies swiftly). I know from previous experience if she ignores the text that she is not interested. Fine, but I'm feeling quiet depressed over it :(

    Being rejected is not fun. I feel like a bit of an idiot for asking her out in the first place. We're close friends, both in a club and see each other a few
    times a week. I guess it wasn't all futile though, she went out with me twice.

    I know she'll remain friendly with me but seeing her out knowing she doesn't like me that way will be tough. I don't really know why I'm posting this. Just need to vent.

    OP, can I ask if either of you mentioned the word "date" at any time? As you are friends for years she probably assumed, as krudler said, that you were just hanging out. Could have been the same with the drinks.
    Have you told her you have feelings for her? She might be completely oblivious to this and think you're both just good friends.


  • #4
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    am i the only man who doesn't try to sleep with every woman who talks to me in a friendly way? This seems to be the case judging by the amount of "in love with my friend" threads that come up here.
    You're saying she's your friend - if she was your friend you wouldn't want to sleep with her, she's more than a friend, there's a romantic interest. Would probably do you good to steer clear of her, as you'll only get your heart broken now, and eventually she'll be sleeping with someone else which you wont like.


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