Strange feelings after masturbation

LegacyUser

I've had these strange feelings for years caused by masturbation. Because of the cause I've never been able to discuss it with family or my GP. Afterwards I feel strange. There's a tightness or rigidity in my lower back. It seems to throw my emotions into turmoil. In fact I experience a broad spectrum of emotions. Sometimes I feel despair, am desperately down and have zero energy or interest in things. Then at other times I have real zest, energy and feel super strong and can't sit still. I experience real lows and great highs. As bad as the low is the high is as strong. All the time this feeling in my lower back seems to moving or unwinding.

I know it sounds strange but it's so real. Moreover when I was younger I used to get bad thumping headaches until I discovered a partial solution. If I sat down in a chair with my arms stretched out along the arms of the chair they'd become numb and the headache would go away but the feeling or energy still manifest itself in another way.

I hardly masturbate that much mainly because of these consequences. I've googled and googled and can't find any mention of anybody else experiencing this. It seems as though I am unique in having this problem. Has anybody else felt these things? Can they be got rid of altogether? Any feedback appreciated as I feel so alone in this.

cafecolour

You've got to be able to discuss things with your GP - even if they are embarrassing. If it's a family GP or something, change to a new GP.

You might just be holding your body too tense during the deed. Ie as you are getting closer to to climax, you're tensing your stomach and back, holding your breath, and keeping it like that as you push to orgasm. Focus on relaxing and breathing deeply - in and out - the whole time your masturbating. Even if it means you can't get to climax - learn to enjoy the act a bit more then just focusing on getting to release.

As to the ups and downs afterwards - that's not that abnormal. I get those too, often depending on what particular situation/person I've been masturbating to.

philologos

OP: How frequently do you do this? If this is causing you headaches and the like, I would suggest at least cutting down for your own benefit.

If it's causing you issues with your mood I'd see this as another reason to at least cut it down. Ultimately life is worth living, and if this is causing you headaches, and if it is making you moody around other people perhaps a change in this wouldn't be all that bad a thing.

Other people will no doubt disagree with me on this one though.

TheBlock

Jakkass wrote: »

OP: How frequently do you do this? If this is causing you headaches and the like, I would suggest at least cutting down for your own benefit.

If it's causing you issues with your mood I'd see this as another reason to at least cut it down. Ultimately life is worth living, and if this is causing you headaches, and if it is making you moody around other people perhaps a change in this wouldn't be all that bad a thing.

Other people will no doubt disagree with me on this one though.

I agree...I also hear you may go Blind. Only Kidding I would speak to a GP about this I'm sure they have experienced more embarassing problems.

Ickle Magoo

Next time concentrate on your muscle control and breathing, make sure your back isn't cramping. If it is still happening, I would speak to your GP - there could be blood pressure or neurological issues that need to be investigated. Do you have sex? Are the feelings there too or is it just masturbation that causes them?

Despair is not usually a feeling I would ever associate with orgasm, I think a chat with your GP would be best, tbh.

LegacyUser

How are things in the rest of your life OP?

I think the despair thing is pretty normal. I used to get that whenever I was feeling depressed as I'd be consumed with happiness/excitement whatever with the rush of endorphins and as soon as they started to subside I would feel very low in comparison. It's a bit like when you are coming down from drugs/alcohol and feel really miserable because you have been high. Also depending on what I had been thinking about, when I was single and not happy about it in general, the sudden coldness and realisation of lonliness or something would make me feel a bit miserable afterwards because I would just wish that it was somebody else making me come and I would want a hug or something.

Even for a while when I had a girlfriend but was really depressed I wouldn't want to come when we had sex because it would just make me want to cry afterwards.

Now that I am really happy in my life, have a lovely girlfriend etc I never feel like that anymore. I really do think it is down to a simple sudden withdrawal of all the happy endorphins seeming extreme when you are low anyway.